7 non-obvious signs your partner values you deeply, according to psychology

We all want to know that our significant other loves and cares about us; otherwise, what would be the point of being in a relationship? 

But sometimes you can be in a relationship where someone tells you they love you one day and suddenly seems uninterested or absent the next. Maybe they’re “all talk,” and despite their “loving words,” there are moments when you think that you’re not appreciated. 

When you’re truly valued, you don’t have to think about what your partner says to you or convince yourself that they care. You’ll know that you’re prioritized because of how they make you feel. 

Safe, respected, and heard are only a few words that describe feeling valued in a relationship. 

If you want to know whether your relationship is on the right track, you only need to look at the 7 non-obvious signs your partner values you deeply, according to psychology. 

Let’s get straight into it. 

1) They respect you

Without respect in a relationship, there simply isn’t a future. So, how do you know if you’re really being respected in your relationship? 

Think about how your partner treats you and makes you feel. Do you feel safe, validated, and connected to them? 

When you’re in a relationship with someone who values you, you know that they’re always looking out for you. They care enough to be honest with you when it matters most without being hurtful or malicious. 

In other words, they unconditionally accept who you are and give you the freedom to express yourself without making you feel awkward, shameful, or stupid. 

Respect is one of the greatest signs of love and appreciation in a relationship. By treating you with kindness and compassion, your partner recognizes your worth, and that’s how it should be when you’re valued. 

2) Your opinions matter to them

Now, this is a sure sign that someone appreciates you! A romantic partner who takes the time to understand your opinions and ideas certainly values you; there’s no question about it. 

Someone who is loving and patient will hear you out, even if they don’t agree with what you’re saying. They don’t interject while you’re talking to them because they’re respectful and trying to understand your point of view. 

Most people in relationships have to deal with conflict at some stage, and this is when you can really tell where someone’s heart and loyalties lie. 

If your partner values you, they won’t roll their eyes or be dismissive when you tell them how you feel. They won’t insult you or tell you that you’re being dramatic when you’re upset or disagree with them. 

Because they value your opinions, they listen to you very quietly and attentively. 

Whether you express your emotions or opinions, they try their utmost to be supportive because you mean so much to them. 

3) They go the extra mile for you

If you really want to know how someone feels about you, you only need to look at what they’re willing to do for you, and I don’t mean ticking off a checklist. 

Apart from daily responsibilities, your partner should do small things they know will lighten your load and make you feel appreciated. 

And if you’re in a committed relationship or married, there’s nothing wrong with telling your significant other what you expect of them. 

As long as they aren’t trying to buy your love. 

Many people experience dissatisfaction in a relationship when one person thinks that showering their partner with gifts will give them a pass to do what they want. 

But I’m talking about someone who does things for you because they want to see you happy. 

Their behavior is consistent and unconditional. 

Let’s say that you’re running late to collect your mom from the airport because of a meeting at work. You call on your partner to help out, and not only do they collect your mom, but they also prepare dinner because they know how much pressure you’re under. 

Just don’t take your partner for granted because they’re always helping out! 

It’s easy for their efforts to go unnoticed when you get caught up in everyday life. So pay careful attention to this behavior because it’s not always obvious. 

4) They listen to you

It feels good when the person you love is fully present when you’re in their company. You’ll know that they value you because they don’t pretend to be interested in you. 

Ask yourself.

When you’re together, do they put their phone away to pay attention to your conversation? Do they remember you sharing your innermost thoughts, emotions, and vulnerabilities because they listen to you? 

If you can say yes to any of these, you’ve got a keeper

You might not even be aware that your partner is being so attentive to you because you expect them to listen to you when you speak. 

I can tell you right now that a lot of people in relationships don’t pay close attention or listen to their partners. I’ve experienced so many instances where one person is always more interested in their phone than their relationship. 

It’s easy to get distracted by a buzzing phone or to lose interest in a conversation. But when the person you’re with is committed to you, no phone or anything else will get in the way of spending quality time with you. 

A non-obvious sign that you’re valued is knowing that your partner listens to you. 

5) They have empathy for you

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According to psychology, there is a strong correlation between empathy and relationship satisfaction. In fact, it’s one of the best predictors of a successful relationship. 

That’s because an empathetic partner can put themselves in your shoes, whether you’ve had a bad day or are sharing a very personal experience with them. 

Most importantly, a partner who can empathize can build a deep and strong bond with the love of their life because they can understand their partner’s emotional needs. 

When you feel heard and validated, it instills a sense of confidence in your partner because you know that they’ve got your back. 

But what happens when the person you’re with pretends to have empathy? 

It’s hard to fake emotional intelligence because it influences every aspect of one’s behavior and attitude. 

Someone who lacks empathy can’t make a long-term relationship work. Without empathy, it becomes impossible to show vulnerability, and these individuals tend to struggle with being sensitive to their partner’s feelings. 

You’ll know that you’re deeply valued when you can wholeheartedly trust the person you’re with because you’re emotionally fulfilled. 

6) They make you feel safe

Ask yourself: When you’re in the presence of the person you love, do they make you feel at ease? Do you look forward to seeing them, and can you completely relax in their company? 

A partner who values you will make you feel safe. 

They’ll allow you to be your authentic self so you can let your guard down and know that you’ll be loved and accepted. 

Who doesn’t want to feel like they can be themselves when they’re with someone else? 

Feeling safe in a relationship means that you trust the other person with your emotions, thoughts, and deep-seated fears. Someone who values you will always give you the space to be yourself while respecting your boundaries. 

This is important in any healthy relationship. 

7) They’re genuinely interested in you

In a relationship, particularly a new one, you’re constantly learning new things about each other. You get to know your partner’s quirks, habits, likes, and dislikes, which is part of developing a deep connection with them. 

But over months and years, this interest can fade, and you get caught up in the routine of work and family life. Eventually, you co-exist and simply go through the motions day after day. 

A partner who values you will always be curious about you. They’ll want to know things like whether you’ve had a good day or what your childhood was like. 

Where you share passions and hobbies, they’ll always have an eagerness to understand your ideas and perspectives

You might think they’re just making conversation, but it’s a non-obvious sign that they value you. 

Final thoughts

Feeling valued in a relationship is connected to your self-worth. When you love yourself, you won’t tolerate behaviors from someone that make you feel unheard, disrespected, or unloved. 

The 7 non-obvious signs your partner values you deeply can help you determine just how they feel about you. Someone who truly values their significant other shows it through their actions by being supportive, attentive, respectful, and appreciative.

If you believe that you’re being taken for granted and you’ve expressed this to your partner with no change in their behavior, that’s a red flag. You should never have to settle for less than what you deserve. 

When someone values you, they make you feel happy and safe in the relationship. I know that no one’s perfect, but a partner who values you will be consistent in the way they treat you. They’ll show you just how much you mean to them whenever you’re together. 

Marcel Deer

Marcel Deer

Marcel is a journalist, gamer, and entrepreneur. When not obsessing over his man cave or the latest tech, he’s failing helplessly at training his obnoxious rescue dog ‘Boogies’.

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