Never date someone who can’t do these 7 things

If your date can’t change a tire, you wonder about their practicality. If they can’t apologize, you question their humility.

Yup, dating is an intricate dance.

But let’s be honest, it’s not just about what they can do but also what they can’t. In fact, there are 7 specific things that if someone can’t do, you should think twice before dating them.

Don’t worry, I’ve been there and I’ve got your back. Let’s delve into these deal-breakers together.

1) Apologize

We’re all human, and we all make mistakes. It’s a part of life.

But when someone can’t own up to their mistakes and apologize sincerely, it’s a sign that they might not value the feelings of others.

Imagine a relationship where your partner never admits they’re wrong, or never says sorry when they’ve hurt you. It’s a one-way ticket to resentment city.

Apologizing shows maturity, humility, and empathy. And if someone can’t do it? Well, you might want to reconsider whether they’re truly worth your time.

No apology, no second date. Simple as that.

2) Listen

Communication is a two-way street, something I learned the hard way.

I remember dating this person who was terrific at sharing their thoughts and feelings, but when it came to listening to mine, it was like talking to a brick wall.

I’d share something about my day or express a concern, and they’d either interrupt, check their phone or steer the conversation back to themselves. It was as if my words were just background noise to them.

It was draining and left me feeling unheard and undervalued.

In a relationship, everyone deserves to be heard. If they can’t lend you an ear and show genuine interest in what you have to say, it’s a big red flag.

Remember, a good listener isn’t just silent when you talk – they engage, they empathize, and they make you feel seen.

3) Compromise

In a relationship, you and your partner are bound to have your differences. It’s not just inevitable, but it’s healthy too. After all, variety is the spice of life.

However, a relationship where one person always has their way can quickly become one-sided and unfair.

Compromise is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s about finding a middle ground, a solution that satisfies both people.

Did you know that research shows couples who practice compromising are happier and have longer-lasting relationships?

So if they can’t meet you halfway, it might be time to show them the door. Compromise isn’t just a virtue; it’s a relationship necessity.

4) Respect boundaries

Boundaries are crucial in any relationship, be it friendships, family, or romantic relationships. They help maintain a sense of individuality and personal space.

If someone continuously disrespects your boundaries, it speaks volumes about their lack of respect for you as an individual.

Whether it’s about privacy, personal space, or the need for alone time – if they can’t respect the boundaries you’ve set, it’s a clear sign they don’t value your needs and feelings.

A relationship without respect for boundaries is like a house without walls – there’s no structure or security.

5) Value your time

Value your time Never date someone who can’t do these 7 things

Time is one of the most precious things we have, and how we choose to spend it says a lot about us.

I’ve learned from past relationships that when someone constantly cancels plans or keeps you waiting, it’s more than just bad timing or forgetfulness. It’s a lack of respect for your time and, in turn, a lack of respect for you.

I’ve sat in restaurants alone, staring at my watch, and I’ve spent evenings waiting for a call that never came. It doesn’t feel great, trust me.

If they can’t value your time, how can they value you as a person? Remember, actions speak louder than words. If they’re always late or canceling last minute, it’s time to reconsider if they’re worth your precious time.

6) Enjoy their own company

It may sound strange, but someone who can’t enjoy their own company can be a red flag.

We often think of relationships as two people constantly together, sharing every moment. But the truth is, it’s equally important for both parties to be comfortable being alone.

Why? Because someone who can’t be alone might rely heavily on their partner for their happiness and entertainment. This can lead to an unhealthy dependency, and trust me, carrying someone else’s emotional well-being on your shoulders is a heavy burden.

So if they’re always clinging, always needing your attention, it may be a sign that they need to learn how to be content with their own company first before they can truly contribute to a healthy relationship.

7) Be kind to others

Kindness isn’t just about how someone treats you; it’s also about how they treat others.

If someone is sweet to you but rude to the waiter, or kind when you’re alone but cruel in front of friends, it speaks volumes about their character.

Kindness should not be selective. It’s a universal language that should be extended to everyone, regardless of their status or relationship with the person.

If they can’t be consistently kind to others, it’s a clear red flag. After all, today’s waiter could be tomorrow’s you. Remember, true colors are revealed not by how they treat their equals but by how they treat those whom they believe are beneath them.

Always keep an eye on how your potential partner treats others. It’s a window into their true character.

Final thoughts

Hopefully, if you’ve made it this far, you’ve come to realize that dating is more than just shared interests and physical attraction. It’s about respect, compromise, and a shared sense of emotional responsibility.

Remember, the right person will value your time, respect your boundaries, and show you kindness, not just when it’s easy, but when it’s hard too.

Because at the end of the day, love isn’t just about finding the right person. It’s also about being the right person.

And if someone can’t do these things, they might not be the right person for you. But that’s okay because recognizing these red flags is the first step towards finding someone who is.

So as you step back into the dating world, remember these points. Reflect on them. And most importantly, don’t settle for less than what you deserve.

Because you’re worth it.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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