If you are searching for love, it can feel like you are looking in all the wrong places.
When it comes to finding a match made in heaven, rather than look for the things that check your “must have” list, consider approaching it from a different perspective.
Avoid dating people who have certain traits or habits.
If you want to find happiness in your next relationship, avoid people who do these 15 things.
1) They won’t let you see their phone.
This is usually because they are hiding something, like texts from another person or they have photos they don’t want you to see.
Either way, if they are hiding things from you, they can’t be trusted.
2) They are evasive about how they spend their time.
They don’t tell you where they were or who they were with after a night out. If you find yourself concerned that something fishy is going on, it probably is.
3) They can’t keep their story straight.
When you ask questions, you get different answers. This is a red flag because if they can’t keep the story straight, how can you trust them?
4) They try to put you down.
If you are concerned about something in the relationship or potential relationship, they will find something to use against you.
Maybe you had a bad breakup in the past, or maybe they bring up things that happened before.
This is bad news. Don’t be with someone who can’t leave things in the past.
5) They get angry when you aren’t feeling intimate.
Sex isn’t mandatory in a relationship, and no one should ever feel like it is. Don’t let society dictate when and how you should have sex.
If your mate is pissed because you don’t want to get intimate, that’s their problem.
6) They don’t think to buy you gifts.
It’s not like you expect flowers or a nice watch every other day, but a thoughtful gift on your birthday or for a special occasion is not too much to ask. And don’t let them tell you it is.
7) They don’t like your friends or family.
While we might not all get along with our families all of the time, we should be able to take our partners home to meet them.
If your new guy or gal is making a scene or being a jerk to your family, drop them. If they aren’t nice to people other than you, they aren’t nice people.
8) They employ double standards.
Sure, they can go out and get drunk with friends, but you can’t? Don’t put up with that. Relationships should be built on mutual respect and trust, and if you can’t have a good time on your own terms, don’t bother with that relationship.
9) They expect you to shoulder their problems.
This is tricky because when you like someone, you want to help them solve their problems. But, when someone tries to force you to take responsibility for their problems, that is a different story.
You have enough of your own crap to deal with on a regular basis, don’t take on someone else’s because they expect you to do that.
10) They flirt with your friends.
Ummmm, no. Don’t date anyone who does this. Not only is it uncomfortable for you, but t is also embarrassing.
It says a lot about you when your date is flirting with you friends: don’t date people who do that. It’s just not cool.
11) They won’t name your relationship.
If you’ve been together for any length of time and still don’t know how to introduce him or her to your friends and family, that’s a problem. Sort that one out pronto or find the door.
12) They don’t consider you a priority to them.
They tell you that you are important, but their actions don’t line up with their words. Watch for things like showing up late, missing dates, bailing for better offers.
13) They aren’t attractive to you anymore.
Ask yourself if you are really attracted to this person. It is an important question, and as your relationship develops, it will be important that you continue to find them attractive.
14) They still talk about old relationships.
It’s great to talk about the past but don’t let them flaunt their conquests in front of you. There’s no need to talk about old relationships unless there is something to be learned from it. Otherwise, leave it in the past.
15) They talk more about themselves than you.
If you can’t get a word in edgewise and you find yourself wondering if they are even listening, chances are, they aren’t. Move on.
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