10 reasons your wife never compliments you (and what to do about it)

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It’s not uncommon for a husband to feel like his wife never compliments him. You see, men are wired differently than women. Men tend to respond well to recognition, encouragement, and praise

Even so, you need to know that your wife loves you and wants the best for your marriage. She has great intentions even if she doesn’t always show it in the way you would prefer.

The truth is that most wives don’t give their husbands compliments because they don’t notice or they believe they don’t have anything good to say about them.

There are many reasons why this may be the case. If any of these sound familiar, keep reading for 10 reasons your wife never compliments you and what you can do about it.

1) Your wife doesn’t compliment you because she feels like she doesn’t matter to you

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The first thing to look for in this list is not so much what you are doing, but what your wife is feeling.

If she feels like she doesn’t matter to you, then there is no way that she is going to be able to find the motivation to compliment you.

If you don’t feel like she matters, then you don’t feel appreciated by her on some level. You aren’t feeling like she is showing you that she cares.

This isn’t because she doesn’t care!

It is because you have been taking her for granted and she has been feeling unappreciated. There are many reasons why a wife might not feel like she matters to her husband.

Maybe she feels like she is always doing everything while he stays home and does nothing. Maybe she doesn’t feel like she is being listened to.

2) She has to constantly defend herself around you

If your wife never compliments you, one of the reasons may be that she feels like she has to constantly defend herself around you.

For example, if you’re constantly putting her down (intentionally or not) by saying things like, “That’s not how you do it,” “That’s not the right way to do it,” etc., it’s going to make her feel like she has to constantly defend herself around you.

Let me take a wild guess when she does this around you consistently, it’s going to make her think that complimenting you is worthless.

No doubt about it, if this is happening in your relationship, it might be a good idea to start picking up on the subtle cues she’s giving you that she feels like she constantly has to defend herself.

And then, when she does, try to ease up on the criticism and defend her.

3) She feels you no longer find her attractive and don’t care

If her feelings are that you no longer find her attractive and that you don’t care, then she is not going to feel like she has anything to gain by making you feel special.

She will not want to compliment you because she feels you don’t care. If she feels like you don’t care, then she feels like she has nothing to gain from it.

At this point, you realize you truly need someone. If she feels like you don’t care about her feelings or her, then she is not going to feel motivated to make you feel special.

If you’re dealing with lacking recognition from your wife, have you considered getting to the root of the issue?

You see, most of our shortcomings in love stem from our complicated inner relationship with ourselves – how can you fix the external without seeing to the internal first?

I learned this from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê, in his incredible free video on Love and Intimacy.

So, if you want to improve the relationships you have with your wife and solve the deep-rooted issues, start with yourself.

Check out the free video here.

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4) You stopped trying to make your wife feel special a long time ago

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You stopped trying to make your wife feel special a long time ago. Instead, you’re just trying to go through the motions of marriage as best you can, because it’s what’s expected of you.

You don’t have the time or energy to try anything new and exciting, so instead, you settle for mundane tasks and routine activities – things that have little meaning or value.

And when she demands attention or shows any signs of discontent, you do your best to appease her.

With all that effort in place, your wife might think that you care about her and want to please her.

But the truth is that she’s probably just reading a bunch of misguided stereotypes into your actions.

It’s not like you actively hate her or want nothing more than to see her miserable! In reality, you just don’t know how else to show it. So if anyone should feel “special,” it should be her – not you.

5) You don’t show her you appreciate her

A man who genuinely appreciates his wife will take the time to express that appreciation often. If he doesn’t, it’s a clear signal to her that he’s not all that thrilled with her.

And if your wife never compliments you, there’s a chance that one of the reasons is that she doesn’t feel like you appreciate her enough.

For example, if you’re constantly nagging her about things she does around the house (as many men are prone to do), it’s going to make her feel like you don’t appreciate having a wife at all.

If you’ve been married for a while and you’ve fallen into the habit of constantly nagging her, try to break that habit.

It’ll make both of you much happier. It’ll make it much more likely that your wife will start complimenting you again.

When you don’t constantly nag her, she’ll feel less like you’re criticizing her and more like she has a partner who’s on her side.

As a result, she’ll be much more likely to start praising you again.

6) You fell out of love with your wife a long time ago

When you love someone, you have to be able to show that love. You have to be able to show it in the way that you treat them, how you look at them, the way that you speak to them, and in other ways.

If you fell out of love with your wife a long time ago, it could be because she treated you badly. It could be because she did not respect what you had to say or do.

Or it could be because she did not respect herself and was not taking care of herself. Whatever it was, it was enough for you to fall out of love with her. And when that happens, there is no going back.

You can try, but there will always be a part of you that is looking for someone else or something else instead. You will always miss her and never feel completely happy until you are with her again.

7) She feels like you no longer find her attractive

If your wife feels like you no longer find her attractive, then she is not going to be in a hurry to compliment you.

She is likely to be upset that seeing a guy’s naked body has played such an important role in your sex life and she has come to associate her value with her appearance.

She may also feel guilty for not having enough control over what you do or doesn’t want to do in bed.

Whatever the reason, it is important to reassure her that there is nothing wrong with her and that you still find her very attractive.

The best thing you can do is to make sure she sees herself in a positive light, so she knows she is still desirable even if she has lost weight or dressed differently than usual.

If you have any concerns about your partner’s self-confidence and happiness, these are good reasons to talk about them and get professional help as soon as possible.

8) You don’t have time to make your wife feel special

If you are always rushing around, you’re never going to have time to make your wife feel special.

If you are always in a rush to get things done, then you are never going to have time to just sit down and talk with her.

And if you don’t have time to make her feel special, then she is not going to have time to compliment you.

Obviously, you will never have time to make your wife feel special if you are constantly in a rush to finish things.

This is because she will be too busy trying to hold everything together. She will be too busy trying to make sure that everything gets done.

She will be too busy trying to keep everything together while you run around trying to get everything done.

9) She feels ignored and alone

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There are times in your life when you just need your partner to listen to what you have to say.

When you have had a bad day at work, when you have had a bad day with the kids, or when you have just had a bad day in general, you need someone to be there for you.

You should feel like you have a person who is willing to listen to you, help you, and support you through the hard times.

When you don’t feel like you have someone to turn to, you will feel like you are completely alone.

You will feel like you are drowning and there is no one there to help you. These feelings aren’t good and aren’t healthy.

If you want to save your relationship, be sure to turn to your spouse when you need to talk.

Be sure to let her know that she is there for you. Be sure to let her know that you appreciate her listening to you when you need it.

10) She wants to see a commitment from you

When you are married, or in a long-term relationship, you should be committed to your spouse.

You should be committed to showing your love, being there for your spouse, and putting your spouse first.

When you start to ignore your spouse, when you start to walk away from your relationship, and when you don’t show your love for your spouse, she will start to wonder if you are committed to your relationship.

She will start to wonder if you love her. When she starts questioning your commitment, she will start questioning your feelings for her.

She will start to wonder if you are still in love with her or not.

So what can you do next? Here are 5 tips that I’d recommend:

1) Be sure to let her know that you are there for her

Be supportive and non-judgmental. Ask her how you can help, and let her know that you are there for her whenever she needs you.

Be patient and understanding, and let her take the lead when it comes to talking about what she is going through.

2) Turn your attention to her when she needs your help

Be attentive and aware of her needs and what she is doing. Avoid being too focused on your tasks and letting her needs fall to the wayside.

Offer support and encouragement when she needs it.

3) Show your appreciation for all the things that she does for you

When she does something that you would like her to do more often, tell her that as well.

This will make her feel more appreciated, and it will make her want to do more things for you as well.

4) Be sure to let her know how much you love her

Tell her why you appreciate her and how she makes your life better.

Compliments go a long way in strengthening your relationship, and she will likely feel more loved and appreciated when she hears the reasons behind the compliments.

5) Make time for a quality conversation with her

It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship or not, having great quality conversations with people is important.

When you have a quality conversation with someone, you’re not only engaging with that person, but you’re also engaging with yourself.

Conclusion

To sum up, when it comes to showing appreciation to your husband, some women are more prone to doing it than others.

But why? Well, not every wife has the same reason for not complimenting her husband, and that is completely normal.

Some women who don’t compliment their husbands may feel uncomfortable doing so. Maybe they’re not good at it or don’t know how to do so in a way that makes their man feel valued.

Or, they simply don’t think their partner deserves it.

While these are all completely normal reactions, it doesn’t mean you should give up hope that your wife will start complimenting you more often.

With a little patience and guidance, your wife can become the woman you always knew she was deep down.

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