When you first meet someone you feel an instant connection to them.
You feel as if they were meant for you, and you are scared to lose each other.
However, that is often exactly what happens.
Whether it be from a distance or busy lives, many twin flames pull away from each other.
But don’t worry! Today, I will tell you exactly what to do when your twin flame is pulling away so that you can save your relationship!
Find out why they are pulling away
The first step to saving your relationship is to find out why they are pulling away.
There could be a number of reasons for this, including
- Busy lives
- Feeling like you’re not a good match for one another
- They are no longer interested in the relationship
- They are scared of their feelings for you
- Feeling like they aren’t good enough for you
If you can pinpoint the reason for their distance, it will help you work on that issue.
For example, if they’re feeling like they’re not good enough, you can work on boosting their self-esteem!
You see, whenever it comes to any issue in relationships, the key is always to see things from your partner’s perspective and try to understand where they are coming from!
Once you understand the reason for their behavior, it will be a lot easier to work on resolving the issue!
The only problem arises when the reason is not something you can do anything about.
In those cases, it will be hard, because your hands are essentially tied.
That brings me to my next point:
Give your twin flame some space and time to figure their feelings out
Before you jump to conclusions, it is important to give your twin flame some time and space to figure out what they want.
This is also good for when you can’t do anything about the issue they are facing.
If they are not sure how they feel, then it may be best for you two to go on separate paths.
When the person you love is not sure about what they want, that can hurt you in ways that you cannot comprehend.
You may think that giving them space will help them decide if they want to be with you or if they want to be alone, and that’s true!
You see, when your twin flame is trying to pull away, clinging on to them and trying to make things work forcefully will only repel them even more!
Giving them time and space to figure out their emotions is your best bet on saving this relationship!
Talk to a relationship coach
While the points in this article will help you deal with your twin flame pulling away, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice tailored to the specific issues you’re facing in your love life.
Relationship Hero is a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people navigate complex and difficult love situations, like noticing your twin flame getting more distant. They’re popular because they genuinely help people solve problems.
Why do I recommend them?
Well, after going through difficulties in my own love life, I reached out to them a few months ago. After feeling helpless for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship, including practical advice on how to overcome the issues I was facing.
I was blown away by how genuine, understanding, and professional they were.
In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice specific to your situation.
Take some time to figure out your own feelings
One of the first things you should do is take some time for yourself to figure out exactly what you are feeling and why.
I talked earlier about how chasing someone who doesn’t know what they want can be extremely painful.
That’s why it’s so important to use this time to figure things out for yourself.
Take time to journal about your feelings and emotions, or talk with a friend about it.
One of the most important factors in determining how to react when your twin flame is pulling away from you is understanding your own feelings.
Do you miss them? Are you hurt that they have pulled away from you? Or are you feeling like this was never meant to happen?
Figure out what your feelings are so that you can understand how to move forward.
You see, sometimes, twin flames just aren’t meant to be partners, and that’s okay.
Maybe, during this self-reflection, you realize that as romantic partners you just aren’t compatible.
That would obviously make this situation a whole lot easier.
However, if you notice that you truly love them and want this to work no matter what, then the next points will give you some more insight into what to do.
Talk to them about how you feel and communicate your needs and wants
The one thing that you can do to make sure your relationship doesn’t end is to talk to them honestly and openly.
If your twin flame is pulling away, it could be because they are feeling confused and are trying to figure out a way to stay together.
Find out why they’re pulling away from you by communicating your feelings, needs, and wants with them and listening to theirs.
If they want more time for themselves, then set boundaries in the relationship so you both have time for yourself.
Maybe they want more physical intimacy, but don’t know how to ask for it.
Be honest about what you want and need so both of you are on the same page.
Talk about what’s going on in both of your lives and try to find compromises that will work for both of you.
By being open with each other and communicating, you’ll be able to save your relationship with your twin flame!
However, sometimes, your twin flame might not be in a position where they want to have this conversation with you because they are pulling away.
In that case, give them time and space instead of forcing them to talk!
Work on yourself during this time and break bad habits
During these difficult times, it is important to work on yourself.
If you want to make things work with your twin flame, you can try to break any bad habits you may have in order to show your twin flame that you are committed.
Or if you have been stressed out lately or not taking care of yourself, try and do more things that make you happy and bring you joy!
You see, working on yourself like that will do a number of things:
- it will make you feel better about yourself during these difficult times
- it will show your twin flame that you aren’t despairing as soon as they disappear
- it will prove to them that you are willing to put in the work and change in order for you to work out
These are all excellent points and might help to change your twin flame’s mind!
But that raises the question:
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Why does love so often start out great, only to become a nightmare?
And what’s the solution to your twin flame pulling away from you?
The answer is contained in the relationship you have with yourself.
I learned about this from the renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me to see through the lies we tell ourselves about love and become truly empowered.
As Rudá explains in this mind-blowing free video, love is not what many of us think it is. In fact, many of us are actually self-sabotaging our love lives without realizing it!
We need to face the facts about twin flames:
Far too often we chase an idealized image of someone and build up expectations that are guaranteed to be let down.
Far too often we fall into codependent roles of savior and victim to try to “fix” our partner, only to end up in a miserable, bitter routine.
Far too often, we are on shaky ground with own selves and this carries over into toxic relationships that become hell on earth.
Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective.
While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find love for the first time – and finally offered an actual, practical solution to my twin flame pulling away.
If you’re done with unsatisfying dating, empty hookups, frustrating relationships, and having your hopes dashed over and over, then this is a message you need to hear.
Accept that you are the chaser in your twin flame dynamic
Many twin flames think that because they are the one who is emotionally pressured, they can’t understand why their partner won’t commit.
You see, the runner-chaser dynamic is very common in twin flames.
Essentially, one of you two is running away while the other one is trying to hold on to the relationship.
This dynamic can be extremely frustrating for both parties and often leads to a break-up.
The key to resolving this issue is to accept that you are the chaser in your twin flame dynamic.
You need to realize that you are the one who is chasing your twin flame and not the other way around!
Once you accept this (and it’s not easy, nobody wants to be the chaser), you can take steps that will help you overcome this dynamic.
Unfortunately, more often than not, waiting and giving them space does the most good, even if it is the most nerve-racking.
Communicate telepathically with them
It may seem a little weird or unorthodox, but talk to them telepathically!
You can send messages in your head and hope that they receive them.
It has a better chance of coming through than sending an email or text message if they are ignoring you.
If you are feeling down or need advice, just think about them and try to send a message in your head! You may be surprised at what happens next.
Telepathy is a fascinating thing and twin flames are especially good at it.
Make sure that the messages you convey aren’t full of separation or negativity, and instead seem inviting, warm, and loving.
Pay attention to the signs around you
One of the first things you need to do is pay attention to the signs around you.
You need to start noticing when your twin flame pulls away from you and what is happening in their life that might be causing it.
If they are pulling away from you, then it is most likely because something about their feelings was changed.
Therefore, if you have noticed that your twin flame has been pulling away from you for an extended period of time, then there is probably something that happened in their life that caused them to pull away from you.
You can simply ask them what’s going on and try to find out what happened so that they are not afraid to share with you anymore.
But also when they’ve already pulled away, you can watch out for signs of synchronicity to know if you still have a connection.
For example, maybe you’re thinking about them and suddenly your song comes on the radio!
These “coincidences” can be signs from the universe that things are going to work out in the end.
See if there are angel numbers around you
Another thing you should do is see if there are any angel numbers around you.
Angel numbers are messages from your angels and the universe that help guide you on your path.
Maybe your twin flame was feeling the same way and needed time to clear their head about the situation.
They could be waiting for you to contact them, or they could have been trying to find a way to get in touch with you.
It’s best that you send a message of love and reassurance so that they know you’re still there for them.
If they don’t respond, don’t give up! Wait it out and continue sending messages of love and encouragement. You might not hear from them again today, but tomorrow could be different.
Seeing angel numbers when you think about your twin flame could indicate that things will work out!
Know that it is not necessarily overstaying positive
When your twin flame starts to pull away, it is easy to think that they are no longer interested.
This is not always the case! It’s important to remember that this person you love might be feeling pulled in a different direction at this time- or even scared to commit.
What should you do when your twin flame is pulling away?
Stay positive! Remind yourself of all the good times you have shared with this person and how much you love them.
If possible, try to spend some time with them face-to-face.
For those who are too far for a visit, try keeping in touch by phone or video chat.
If the connection is still there, things will start to get back on track soon enough!
In these times, it feels as though returning to a normal relationship is impossible, but trust me, it’s not!
Sooner rather than later you might be happy together again, so don’t give up hope just yet!
Focus on yourself
More than anything, you should focus on yourself during this difficult time.
Your mental health is taking a toll and you should make sure that you are taking special care of it!
If you have been chasing your twin flame for a long time and it is draining you emotionally, then maybe it is better to let them go.
Focus on yourself and whatever is meant to be, will be!