When you meet your twin flame, you feel a deep physical and spiritual connection, unlike anything you’ve ever felt before. And while it’s fulfilling to meet your mirror soul, it can be heartbreaking when they don’t recognize you.
Should this happen, here are nine things you can do that will make them acknowledge your presence.
1) Unleash the hero in them
A lot of people – especially men – have a hero instinct. It’s a concept psychologist James Bauer introduced in his book, “His Secret Obsession.”
As the name suggests, it’s a person’s impulse to protect the people around them. While this applies to many things, like protecting your child from harm, it’s a standard driver in many relationships.
In other words, men like stepping up – and being recognized for such efforts.
So if your twin flame doesn’t recognize you, what you need to do is to tap into their hero instinct.
According to Bauer, you can do this by:
- Asking for help
You may be a strong, independent person who can do anything – and everything. But if you want your mirror soul to recognize you, it’s time to ask them for help.
It could be as simple as troubleshooting an IT problem – or soliciting advice for some work issues.
They’re sure to step up, but it’s up to you to make your presence known once and for all.
- Be grateful
Make sure to show your appreciation every time they work as your hero. As mentioned, these people like to be thanked for their valiance.
- Be supportive
Apart from appreciating your twin flame, it would help if you supported everything that they do. If they like doing this instead of that, then let them be.
Your mirror soul will be very appreciative of your efforts. Needless to say, it’ll drive them a step closer to your arms.
2) Improve your vibrations
When you meet your twin flame, you immediately recognize them. It’s one of the hallmark signs of twin flame relationships, after all.
Likewise, you’ll also feel intense vibrations – even if they’re far away from you.
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The sad part here is if your twin flame doesn’t acknowledge you, they won’t feel this vibration that you feel.
It’s not the recognition alone that stops them. There are many other reasons why their vibrations may be off.
One is immaturity. Your mirror soul may still not be open to the fact that you’re right in front of them.
Likewise, they may be feeling ‘disconnected’ because of an existential crisis.
They could also be feeling emotionally vulnerable, which is why they can’t feel your presence.
As expected, this can make you feel frustrated. You shouldn’t! This will essentially decrease your vibrations.
When your vibrations are off, you’ll find it harder to sync with your mirror soul.
That said, if you want to improve your vibrations, you need to let go of everything that’s holding you back.
That means saying goodbye to your fears, heartaches, insecurities, and guilt.
Taking care of yourself can help improve your vibrations as well. To achieve this, you need to:
- Eat healthy food, such as plant-based sources rich in vitamins and minerals.
- Exercise 30 minutes a day – every day, if possible.
- Step outside, plant your feet firmly on the ground, and bask in the sunshine.
- Meditate for at least 10 minutes every day.
- Reflect on your dreams and take note of them.
Once you learn to accept your flaws – and treat your body better – you can make your vibrations noticeable enough to your twin flame.
3) Fight the urge to ‘label’
At first thought, this advice seems counterintuitive. If you want your twin flame to recognize you, then you may be expecting a label.
In his video “How to find your true twin flame,” Ideapod founder Justin Brown offered a simple explanation why this shouldn’t be the case.
As he puts it, it’s essential to “let go…so that we could let life take over.”
In this video, he talks about how “the experience is more powerful than labels.”
So what if they don’t acknowledge you as your twin flame? What’s more important is the time and connection you share with this person.
Eventually, they’ll recognize that you were right all along.
If your twin flame fails to recognize you, your go-to response might be to stop trying.
While there’s a time to do so (I’ll talk about this in the chapter ‘Know when to stop’), it’s important to persevere in the face of adversity.
Here are some takeaways from the article The Neuroscience of Perseverance:
- Start small
When you complete a task – no matter how trivial – you’ll feel good. When it comes to your twin flame, starting with little tasks will help you persevere. Build upon it until your mirror soul finally notices you.
- View perseverance as something pleasant rather than painful
Sure, it sucks not to be recognized by your twin flame. On the other hand, you can treat it as motivation to work harder.
- Stick to a schedule
You can’t wait forever. It’s good to give them time, as I’ll explain in the chapter below.
However, there’s a time for you to pack up your bags and move on. You have to decide when.
5) Let them take their time
For your twin flame, the prospect of seeing you may be just too much. Even if you make them feel whole, they may not recognize this feeling of belonging right away.
While it’s tempting to rush them into a twin flame relationship, it’s good to give them time.
In other words, you should trust the journey.
If you try to hurry things up, you may end up slowing everything down.
Scientifically, it makes a lot of sense.
When you do things at full speed, you prod the brain to release hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol.
These, in turn, make you feel more irritable, impatient, and anxious.
These emotions will prod you to make more mistakes than you usually would.
When you take your time, however, you can assess the situation better. Are you pursuing the right person?
Or are they fleeting, false twin flames? (You can learn more about this below.)
The bottom line here is this: your twin flame might not recognize you right now, but they might soon.
Don’t hurry everything up or stress over it. Trust the process!
6) Know when to stop
While some people think that chasing your object of affection is romantic, it’s not always the case.
Sometimes, it can get creepy and horrifying.
If your twin flame can’t seem to recognize you no matter what you do, then you need to prepare yourself. Maybe it’s just not meant to be.
So how do you know if you need to stop – or push a bit more? Here are some questions you need to ask yourself:
- Is there any spark of interest, no matter how small?
If there isn’t, you’re essentially banging your head onto the wall. If your twin flame refuses to engage with you no matter what you do, then you might have to consider backing off.
- Do you have something worthwhile to say?
Maybe you have a monologue of how it’s rare to find your twin flame. And while it’s good to state your case, the decision will ultimately boil down on the other person.
If you want to improve your chances of winning your twin flame’s attention, try to appeal to their interest. You don’t want them to think that they’re wasting their time on you.
- Will you promise to respect the other person?
Some people resort to insulting and attacking another person, mainly if their advances are shrugged off.
That said, you don’t have the right to bring your twin flame down. If any, this will make them want to shun you even more.
In other words, if your answer to all of these questions is no, it’s better for you to walk away.
Another thing to ponder: when they say no, it usually means no. You don’t want to seem like a stalker, after all!
7) Open yourself to the possibility of other twin flames
It’s normal to want to be identified by your twin frame.
But if you’ve done everything I’ve mentioned above – to no avail – then it’s time to open yourself to the fact that you might have other twin flames out there.
You might be just like our founder Justin, who enjoys having many twin flames. In fact, he talked about this exhilarating experience in this video.
While there’s always a strong possibility of having other mirror souls, you need to acknowledge another thing: and that’s the fact that maybe you’re dealing with a FALSE twin flame.
Apart from their failure to recognize you, a false twin flame will:
- Doubt you and give you false hope
- Stop you from being ‘yourself’
- Make you feel more anxious rather than peaceful.
- Feel uncertain about you and the purpose of your relationship.
- Fail to protect you. Remember the hero instinct I’ve just mentioned?
- Have another vision of the future
- Render you self-destructive
- Move on quickly once you walk away
8) Focus on yourself
It’s easy to get desperate, especially if your mirror soul fails to notice you.
Most people end up neglecting themselves because their main focus is pursuing their twin flames.
It’s vital to pay good attention to yourself. Self-care and self-importance are just as crucial as prioritizing others.
In fact, a video has shown that loving yourself makes you happier – and less exhausted!
The key here is to balance self-love with caring for others.
Your happiness should not rely solely on your twin flame. Instead, you need to do these things that will help you focus more on yourself:
- Hug yourself! According to a Cleveland Clinic report, hugs help decrease the release of cortisol – a stress hormone.
- Take a break. Give yourself some reprieve from the hustle and bustle of going after your twin flame.
- Do the things you love. Surf, paint, do whatever makes you happy. Just because your twin flame dislikes it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it.
- Stop criticizing yourself. You did your best – no one could say otherwise.
9) Realize that you’re whole – even without your twin flame
Say you’ve done everything I have recommended above – and your twin flame still hasn’t recognized you. Rather than throwing a fit, it would help if you realized that you’re already whole!
As our founder, Justin, succinctly puts it in his video, “You don’t need anyone else to complete you.”
If you feel like you lack something, it will manifest in your image and aura.
Sure, it’s lovely to be with someone with whom you share a deep, meaningful connection. But you shouldn’t be disheartened if they fail to appreciate your efforts.
According to Dr. Rick Hanson, the best way to feel complete is to open yourself to the entire experience.
Likewise, Justin recommends taking yourself out – while leaving all the distractions out the door. No cellphones, laptops, anything. It’s as simple as walking around or just plain meditating.
By doing these meditative activities, you gain more information to make better decisions.
You get to see the bigger picture, which will help you put things into perspective.
You recognize the good things around you that you’ve tuned out.
You’ll learn how to take things less personally.
In other words, when you learn more about yourself, you feel complete.
So don’t feel sad if your twin flame fails to reciprocate your feelings. You are your own person. You’ll thrive with or without them!
It can be frustrating when your twin flame doesn’t recognize you. However, you can make a mark by tapping on their hero instinct.
Improving your vibrations may work on your twin flame as well.
When it comes to pursuing them, it’s important to persevere and give them time to think. However, you also need to know when it’s time to stop.
It’s good to be open to the possibilities of having other twin flames. When you do so, you get to focus more on yourself.
More importantly, you’ll realize you’re indeed whole – with or without your mirror soul.