I’m 23, my girlfriend is 22, and we’ve been in a relationship for almost 2 years. I recently found some foundation in my backpack and immediately snapped a pic and sent it to my gf, letting her know I had her makeup (I know she wears it most days and doesn’t feel so comfortable without it so wanted to get it back to her ASAP). Now, I’m in such a mess…Turns out, it’s not my girlfriend’s foundation at all and she’s now dead convinced I cheated and is threatening to end our relationship. I have no idea how makeup got into my backpack, let alone how I can explain this to her or make her believe me. Please help – I don’t want to lose her 🙁 – Niall, UK
Dear Niall,
Yikes!
This is one of those classic “wrong place, wrong time” situations that can snowball into a major relationship crisis. It’s totally understandable that you’re feeling panicked and confused. Your intentions were good, but now you’re caught in a web of suspicion.
It’s a messy situation, but it doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is doomed. Let’s tackle this step by step.
Yes, it does look a bit shady. It’s natural for your girlfriend to jump to conclusions, especially when she’s feeling insecure. It’s also worth considering if someone might be trying to stir up trouble in your relationship. Maybe a jealous friend or acquaintance slipped the makeup into your bag to create drama. Maybe someone mistook your bag for theirs. Who knows!
As you’re absolutely certain you didn’t cheat, focus on communicating that to your girlfriend. Explain the situation calmly and honestly. Tell her you would never do anything to jeopardize your relationship and that you wouldn’t have sent her the picture if you were cheating.
It’s also crucial to address how the makeup got into your backpack. Retrace your steps. Did you lend your bag to anyone recently? Were you in a crowded place where someone could have slipped it in? The more details you can provide, the better.
Remember, trust is the cornerstone of any relationship. It might take time for your girlfriend to fully believe you, and that’s okay. Be patient, understanding, and keep reassuring her of your love and commitment. If she truly loves you, she’ll want to work through this with you.
Stay strong, and I hope you can clear up this misunderstanding soon.
Evie
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