7 mistakes a truly confident person would never make in a relationship

Confident people have a kinda cheat code for relationships. 

Somehow, they always dodge bullets or build unbreakable bonds. 

I wish I could say it’s luck, but it really isn’t. 

People who’re confident in who they are and what they want just know when something isn’t meant for them. 

They only invest energy where they expect results. 

And when it comes to relationships, there are certain things they never do to ensure they’re not wasting any time. 

So, if you’re in a relationship with a confident person, you’ll notice that…

1) They never expect you to guess their needs.

Confident people don’t play mind games or expect their partners to be mind-readers. 

When they have something to say, they say it!

No guessing games, no silent treatments. 

It’s a real game-changer. 

When someone is confident, they speak up. If they’re craving some quality time, they won’t sulk in a corner until you notice. They’ll simply say something like:

“Babe, I’d love to spend some time with you. How about pizza, wine, and that new show you’ve been wanting to watch?”

So refreshing! Right?

And here’s the best part: they also listen. 

Confident partners are open to your needs and will always create a safe space for you to express them. 

Healthy communication is a big deal to them because they know relationships thrive on it. 

This is also why…

2) They never avoid conflict. 

Bumping heads is a natural part of any relationship. 

I’m not talking big blowouts where you hate each other for days. But those little misunderstandings, disagreements, and squabbles are perfectly normal. 

Some people avoid any of these altogether. 

They can’t stand issues, prefer to sweep them under the rug and pretend that everything is okay – until it eventually builds up and they explode. 

Confident people, however, know that conflict-free relationships might seem like the ideal but aren’t. Relationships without any disagreements, ever, might be a bit too good to be true. 


It could mean that someone’s suppressing their true feeling or not being entirely honest

My ex was like this. 

He never wanted to face disagreements and preferred putting up a front. 

Needless to say, he had some insecurities.

If your partner is confident, they’ll talk things through.

Whether it’s about dirty dishes in the sink or something you said that didn’t sit right with them. 

Sure, it can get messy sometimes but it also creates room for growth. 

If you don’t tackle problems while they’re small, they turn into resentment – which is tougher to work through.

Want to know one of the best parts about arguing with a confident partner? They aren’t afraid to admit when they’re wrong

But keep in mind…

3) They never over-apologize.

While it’s important to apologize when you make a mistake, confident people know they aren’t the only ones responsible for every problem in a relationship. 

It’s easy to think this is the case when you’re hurt. But the truth is, we all do things that contribute to or trigger another person’s response. Even if it’s unknowingly. 

Confident people know there’s a fine line between being sorry and turning into an “I’m sorry” machine

Now, don’t get me wrong. Apologizing a few times when you’ve genuinely messed up is a sign of emotional intelligence. 

But constantly saying sorry for every little thing your partner feels you do wrong, even when it’s not your fault, shows that you lack confidence and can easily be manipulated.

Confident people apologize sincerely. And then they’re done.  

They’ll also always back their words with action. 

For them, it’s about making amends and finding a solution. Not just saying sorry for the sake of it. 

In other words,…

4) They don’t people-please. 

You might think someone who keeps apologizing for their mistakes is genuinely sorry, but that’s not always the case. Sometimes, they just say what they know you want to hear most. 

Confident people are different. 

They don’t compromise their own values to please their partner. 

Which might seem mean, but when there’s balance, it isn’t. 

You see, people-pleasers will do anything to keep you happy. But only while it benefits them. 

Once they find a new source, they’ll toss you.

A confident person knows their needs and desires are just as important as their partner’s. That’s why they’re not afraid to say “no” even if it risks losing you. 

They built relationships on authenticity and respect. 

While they’re open to meeting your needs, they’ll never be afraid to prioritize their well-being. 

They take the “can’t pour from an empty cup” thing pretty seriously. 

This is also why…

5) They’ll never lose their identity.

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Countless people have lost their friends, interests, and personal goals due to relationships. 

It’s me. I’m countless people. 

And it’s not a good thing – trust me. 

Having a sense of self is crucial for a healthy relationship. 

It’s easy to get so wrapped up in your partner that you forget who you are. 

You disregard your hobbies, interests, and goals. 

It could be something simple like pursuing a passion for sewing, regularly hitting the gym, or working to climb the corporate ladder. 

When you’re so infatuated with your partner, it’s easy to forget they’re not the only part of your life

But confident people? This rarely happens to them.

They keep investing in themselves.

They keep bringing unique experiences and interests to the relationship. 

They keep their life exciting – without any help from their partner. 

And there’s a fine line, I know. 

But staying true to your identity helps people be happier because they do things that make them, well, them. 

Confident people create space for individuality in their relationships. 

Want to know why it’s so easy for them?

Well, it’s mainly because…

6) They aren’t insecure and jealous. 

We all have insecurities and get a little jealous sometimes. But confident people rarely manifest this in their relationships. 

The thing is, they don’t feel the need to be validated or control their partner’s actions. 

They know their value and trust their partner. 


Because they’re secure in themselves and their relationship. And here’s how they do this:

Imagine your partner wants to spend time with friends from work. Do you assume the worst? Or let them go?

Confident people give their partners the benefit of the doubt. If they have concerns or feel uncomfortable, they say so immediately rather than letting jealousy take over. 

They also know that jealousy and insecurities are an inside job. 

Sure, sometimes your partner can do things to purposely make you jealous or feel insecure. 

But mostly, it’s unresolved issues on your side. And once you sort them out, nothing anyone says or does can get you down. 

So, if you’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t insecure and jealous, chances are they’re confident too.

My advice? Don’t break their trust. 

7) They never neglect self-care. 

Like losing your identity, some people forget to practice self-love and self-care once they settle into a relationship. 

They get comfortable and believe that it’ll last forever.

Which isn’t a negative thing at surface level.

But when everything falls apart, you’ll be off far worse than you were coming in. 

You see, relationships are supposed to improve you. It should get you motivated to set new goals and grow. 

Prioritizing your well-being, physically and emotionally, shouldn’t take a back seat. 

A confident person will never neglect self-care. For them, it’s a non-negotiable part of their relationship. 

They know that relationships are a lot of work. 

And while everything will go great at first, if you neglect self-care, your cup will run empty, and this will ripple into your relationship. 

Self-care means different things to different people. 

Your partner might do yoga, journal, or take a long bath every other night. 

Whatever their choice, know that if your partner is looking after their own well-being, they’re doing it to be better for your relationship. 

Don’t make them feel guilty.

Confident people invest in themselves so they can strengthen for you. 

And in these crazy times of dating, having a resilient and confident partner is a great asset. 

Connections won’t be clouded, trust will be present, and love will soar. 

If you want to build a better bond with your partner, keep these traits of confident people in mind. There’s a reason why they never make these mistakes – and why their relationships last

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Natasha Combrink

Nats is a writer who loves creating content for purposeful brands. She enjoys spending time outdoors, crafting, and diving down rabbit holes. After rediscovering life, she wants to help others live to their full potential. You can connect with her on LinkedIn.

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