Men who overcompensate for low self-esteem often display these 6 behaviors

We all know someone a little like Eeyore—the person who always seems to have a rain cloud hovering over them.

If you dig a little bit deeper, you’ll find that a lot of Eeyore’s demeanor comes from a place of low self-esteem. And because of this, you cannot help but feel a real sense of empathy for him.

I know it sounds wild drawing all of this from an animated character, but hey, he’s one relatable donkey!

Ever found yourself in a cycle of expecting the worst outcome, even when things might not be as bad as they seem?

This behavior reflects a symptom of low self-esteem, where individuals see themselves as a source of inconvenience to others.

If you’re looking for signs that a man in your life might be trying to overcompensate feelings of low self-esteem, there are behaviors to look out for, starting with trouble establishing boundaries.

1) He cannot stop bragging about his perceived achievements

You know that guy who simply cannot resist telling everyone within earshot about his so-called incredible achievements? 

Be it everything from a small promotion at work to the goal he scored at football training.

Well, that’s a classic case of overcompensating for low self-esteem!

It’s almost as if he’s trying to build this impressive image to cover up some insecurities he’s wrestling with deep inside.

Not quite getting it? Well, try to imagine someone trying to hide a tiny crack in the wall by slapping on layers of fancy wallpaper.

In this case, the crack is low self-esteem, and the bragging is the wallpaper. 

By going on and on about his supposed triumphs, he’s hoping people won’t notice the shaky foundation underneath it all.

Yes, it is a little sad.

It’s not that he’s genuinely full of himself—it’s more so that he’s desperately hoping others will see him the way he wishes he could view himself. 

He might as well  be waving a giant flag that says, “Look at me! I’m awesome, right?! Right, guys?” 

It’s all a show to compensate for those nagging feelings of not being good enough.

2) He frequently engages in attention-seeking, even reckless activities

Picture a guy who’s always at the center of attention, doing things that make you go, “Whoa, is he actually being for real?”

He’s the life of the party, on the surface, but you’ve got to admit he’s trying a little bit too hard. 

If you dig a bit deeper, it might be a sign of there being something that is not quite right. 

See, when someone is constantly seeking attention and doing kind of reckless stuff, it could be a way of compensating for feelings of insecurity or low self-esteem. 

He might as well be shouting, “Look at me!” to drown out those nagging doubts he might have about himself.

It’s not that he is super confident—he just really wants you to think he is.

It’s as if putting on a flashy, distracting show to cover up the quieter struggle going on within. 

Next time you see someone pulling these attention-grabbing stunts, maybe cut them some slack—they might be dealing with more than meets the eye.

3) He has an obsession with material goods

So, you know a guy who’s always flaunting his fancy possessions?

He’s got the latest tech gadgets, high-end fashion, and maybe even a sleek convertible. At first glance, as if  like they just have a taste for the finer things in life, right?

But here’s the thing: when this obsession with material goods goes into overdrive, it can be a sign that they’re trying to compensate for extremely low self-esteem.

It’s like they’re using all these possessions as a shield, trying to prove to themselves and others that they’re worth a damn.

People might do this when they’re feeling insecure on the inside. 

Owning expensive things becomes a way to cover up those feelings of inadequacy. 

They hope that by showcasing their material wealth, they’ll gain acceptance or admiration from others, boosting their confidence.

It’s crucial to remember that true self-worth doesn’t come from what you own. Not at all.

When you spot someone going overboard with showcasing their possessions, it could be a hint that they need a little support and care.

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4) He goes out of his way to assert dominance

Imagine you’re at a summer BBQ and there’s this dude who’s going all out to make sure everyone knows he’s the big shot.

He’s doing the whole chest-puffing, loud-talking, dominance thing. Now, on the surface, it might seem like he’s just super self-assured, right? Well, not quite.

Sometimes, when someone is going to great lengths to assert dominance, it could be a sign that they’re struggling with some serious self-esteem issues.

It’s as if they’re compensating for insecurities by trying to be the big boss in every social situation.

So, whenever you encounter someone laying on the dominance vibe a bit too thick, remember, it might be their way of distracting everybody from the things they believe they innately lack.

5) He is constantly looking for validation where he shouldn’t

Imagine someone who always looks for reassurance and approval, even in situations where it’s not totally needed.

This person might repeatedly seek validation from others about their choices, appearance, or actions. 

It’s as if they’re on the hunt for nods of approval after every little move they make.

This behavior could be a hint that beneath the surface, this individual might lack confidence. 

It’s akin to trying to plug holes in their self-esteem by constantly seeking external validation. 

Picture it as if they have a bucket of self-worth, but there are leaks, and they’re attempting to fill it all the way up with compliments and approval from those around them.

While it’s normal to seek validation occasionally, when it becomes a recurring pattern, it might suggest that this person is trying a bit too hard to compensate for deeper insecurities.

They tend to rely on the opinions of others as a sort of quick fix to mask their underlying self-esteem issues.

6) He is a total people pleaser

Alright, imagine you’ve got this friend, let’s call him Chris. Now, Chris is the kind of guy who just can’t say no! 

If someone asks him for a favor, even if it’s a bit inconvenient, he’ll bend over backward to make it happen. He’s the real-life version of a Yes Man.

Now, this might be a nice quality on the surface, but sometimes it goes beyond just being a helpful friend.

It could be a sign that Chris is a bit too focused on pleasing everyone around him. It’s as if he’s afraid that if he says no or does something for himself, people might not appreciate him as much.

Underneath all that people-pleasing enthusiasm, there might be a whole lot of low self-esteem.

Chris might feel the need to constantly make others happy because deep down, he might not be fully confident and secure in who he is. 

He’s trying to build his self-worth by making sure everyone else is happy, even if it means putting his own needs on the back burner. 

In a way, his people-pleasing is a mask he wears to conceal his self-esteem struggles.

Final thoughts

To sum things up, understanding and supporting men who overcompensate for low self-esteem is important.

To look for the signs, these men may display behaviors such as constant bragging, seeking attention recklessly, or flaunting possessions to cover up their insecurities.

Instead of judgment, try to offer him empathy and encouragement. By fostering genuine conversations about self-worth, we can help break the cycle of overcompensating for it. 

Let’s extend hope and understanding, just as we would for a character like Eeyore, so these men can find a level of self-acceptance on their journey to overcoming low self-esteem.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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