There was once a man who became dissatisfied with his marriage.
One night, he came home and told his wife he wanted a divorce.
His wife calmly asked what the reason was. When he did not answer, his wife got angry. That night, they did not talk to each other.
He did not answer his wife’s question but he knew the reason — he found a new love, Jane. He no longer loved his wife. He just pitied her.
Because of his pity towards his wife, his divorce settlement let her keep their house, car and 30% stake of his company. But she tore it to pieces, cried, and did not accept it.
Her reaction made his decision firmer about the divorce. And, he also loved Jane dearly, more than he has ever loved his wife.
The next day, the wife gave him her ONLY condition for her to sign the divorce papers. She did not want any material things from the husband.
Instead, what was written on her draft was in that one month, they both struggle to live as normal a life as possible because she doesn’t want her son’s grades to be affected by their divorce.
She also wanted him to carry her out of their bedroom to the front door every morning before they go to work and when the son would see them. It seems absurd but he agreed to her condition.
The first day came and they both appeared clumsy. However, the son was so happy that his daddy is holding mommy in his arms again.
After carrying her out, he went to work and later on, went to Jane. Jane laughed scornfully at his wife saying she still has to face the divorce, no matter what.
The second day, both of them acted much more easily. He was able to look at her face and noticed her wrinkles. He realized she was not young anymore and thought for a minute that he took part in the stress she experienced in life.
The fourth day, the husband felt that their intimacy was returning. Ever since he expressed he wanted a divorce, he and his wife hadn’t had any bodily contact, apart from him carrying his wife every morning.
The sixth day, the husband felt their intimacy was growing again. It became easier to carry her as the days go by but he did not tell Jane about it.
Days turned into weeks, and one morning as his wife got dressed, he noticed how frail she looked. His conscience kicked in and remembered the pain he caused her. It pained him to see her that way. But his mind was fixed about the divorce.
When it was time to carry her, her hand surrounded his neck naturally and he held her body tightly just like it’s their wedding day.
On the last day of their agreement, he could hardly move a step. He told his wife he hadn’t noticed that their life lacked intimacy.
He now understood what happened. Their marriage life was boring probably because they didn’t value the details of their lives. It wasn’t because they didn’t love each other anymore.
HE STILL LOVES HIS WIFE
After carrying her, he went to Jane in a rush and told her he didn’t want the divorce anymore and he’s going back to his wife. Jane was taken aback and gave him a loud slap and slammed the door in his face.
He drove away immediately.
He found himself ordering a bouquet of flowers for his wife with a message “I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.”
That evening, he came home with the flowers in his hand. Excited and nervous at the same time, he went to find his wife to tell her he still loved her and he’s staying.
He found his wife on their bed.
All along, his wife had been fighting CANCER for months.
And he was so busy with Jane to even notice her condition.
She knew her life will not last long. Her condition for the divorce was to save the husband from whatever negative reaction would come from their son.
She wanted their son to remember him as a good father and a loving husband.
Sometimes, couples get lost with the problems and challenges that they forget the things that matter.
Money, job, and a big house are all important matters but these things are all temporary.
When everything is stripped off, what truly matters are the unseen — love, trust, care, happiness, and intimacy,
Indeed, it is only with the heart that one can see rightly because what is essential is invisible to the eye.
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