Looking into someone’s eyes and feeling a connection: 10 things it means

We’ve all felt it at some point in our lives.

That feeling when you look into someone’s eyes and suddenly connect to them on a deeper level.

It’s a connection that may not be as strong as you first thought and it doesn’t have to be.

This article will talk about 10 meanings of feeling a connection when you look into someone’s eyes.

1) It means you’re a good listener.

If you’re one of those people that don’t mind listening to others while they talk, you’ll love this.

People will feel a connection to you if they know that their problems are being taken care of and listened to.

If you’re a good listener, you connect with people in a variety of ways.

One way is through eye contact.

If you have been listening to the person talk, then maintain eye contact, this shows that you’re interested in what they have to say.

The best way to connect with someone is to listen to them.

Just listening to the person means you care about them.

It shows that you’re understanding what they are trying to say as well as what they have been through.

Listening to people doesn’t just apply to those you know.

It applies to strangers as well.

A great thing about humans is that we like being heard and treated with respect.

When you hear someone’s problems and comfort them, it shows that you’re a good listener and are understanding what they are going through.

Above all, listening shows that you care about the person.

When someone feels a level of comfort with you, they can start connecting with you.

If you don’t care about the person, then usually we look away when someone is talking at us or we look around on our phone.

2) They are drawn to your beauty.

If someone looks into your eyes and feels a connection, they’re likely to feel drawn to your beauty.

Maybe they were looking at you to see how you were reacting to something and then realized how pretty you really are.

In an instant, that amazing feeling hits them like a brick wall, and all of a sudden, they’re extremely attracted to you.

They might be trying hard not to show it, but it’s obvious.

They’re attracted to your beauty and they certainly want more than just a friendly relationship with you at this point.

In a way, this feeling is similar to being hit by Cupid’s arrow. You can’t fight it.

Or maybe they’re just really into your eyes.

A lot of times people get mesmerized by a person’s eyes and what they represent.

As they say, eyes are the windows to your soul.

That’s because a lot can be conveyed through eye contact.

When someone is interested in you, they want to know you more.

They want to get to know what you’re like on the inside.

Your eyes give them a sense of what kind of person you are and how trustworthy or compassionate you are.

A connection can occur when they see something that interests them or perhaps even scares them. They find a feeling of trust or vulnerability in your eyes.

They see the beauty in you and that is why they feel strongly about you.

If you look into someone’s eyes and feel a connection, it could be because you’re equally beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside.

3) They want to be your friend.

When you look into someone’s eyes and feel a connection, they might want to be your friend.

Maybe you’re talking to them and then you look into their eyes, and for a moment, you know something is different about them.

It’s like you’ve known them your whole life.

You’ve felt this way before.

The connection is there and it feels so natural.

You want to continue talking to the person because there are questions that need answers, but more importantly, they make the most sense in your life right now.

Maybe they want to get to know you and you want to get to know them.

You can’t hide the connection that you feel by looking into a person’s eyes.

When they see it, they’ll be drawn to it like a moth to a flame.

You have that instant connection when you finally meet someone who can understand and appreciate you.

You might have a few shared experiences, but it’s more than that.

You may have a similar taste in things, similar opinions on issues, and you just feel comfortable in any conversation you have with each other.

There’s a closeness that you can’t describe.

It’s not just a feeling. It’s more than just familiarity.

It’s like opening up to someone who understands you and wants to get to know you more.

You now have a best friend who listens to you and wants to know everything about you, including the bad and good parts of your life.

Sometimes this feeling can turn into something more meaningful.

4) They want to be more than friends.

Now, this is a step higher than the previous meaning/sign.

As you become more comfortable with the person, you both want to know everything about each other and the relationship becomes more personal.

This happens in different ways.

You might be talking about something and then the person feels like they’re hearing parts of their own story.

Maybe you have had similar experiences or similar life experiences.

And you realize that it’s no longer just a conversation but an understanding then.

When you look into a person’s eyes and feel a connection, they might want to be more than just friends.

They start to realize that they don’t just want to be your friend and they might start acting weird around you.

The problem is that they might not know how to stop the feelings they have for you at this point.

They might want to pursue something more meaningful with you, but they’re unsure of how to proceed.

And to add to that, you could also feel something for them that goes beyond friendship.

As it turns out, you may also be feeling similar feelings for them as well.

You’re mutually attracted to each other and you can’t hide it anymore.

All of a sudden, you can’t stop thinking about each other and you feel like things are changing by the day.

But you don’t want to rush things and have the relationship turn awkward when you’re not ready yet.

You might want to consider it, but you don’t want to ruin a good friendship.

It is all up to you.

5) They secretly love you.

When you look into a person’s eyes and feel a connection, they aren’t just “being nice”.

They might not be ready to admit it to themselves, but they have feelings for you.

Let’s be honest.

When someone looks at you with those intense eyes, it can mean they’re in love with you and just want to express that emotion.

Right off the bat.

Here’s another way of looking at it.

Think about how someone feels about you when they’re trying hard (but unsuccessfully) to hide their feelings for you.

There’s a level of trust when you look into someone’s eyes.

Their eyes tell you what they feel especially if they feel attracted to you.

Maybe it was just a look that lasted for a brief moment, but that doesn’t mean it’s not there.

Sometimes you don’t realize how strong of a feeling you have for someone until it’s too late.

They can’t hide anything from your intense stare and they know it.

This is how you can tell if someone secretly loves you without them telling you.

It’s their secret for now, but you’ll figure it out.

They love everything about you, quite literally, and want nothing more than for you to feel the same too.

They hope for a reaction or for the feeling to be mutual but if not, they’ll move on.

It’s as simple as that when looking into someone’s eyes and seeing the same intensity in them.

6) There is a shared interest.

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There may be a shared interest that you two have in common.

This can be anything from a hobby to an animal or a pet to an organization.

Whatever it is, there is something that draws both of you in common.

And when you’re just talking and then look into each other’s eyes, you want to know more about each other and the connection between the two of you grows even stronger.

You realize that the person sitting in front of you is someone special and understanding.

They get you in a way that no one else does.

They support your interests and they want to share their interests with you at this point.

And as you share your different views, it’s like an automatic connection forms between both of your minds.

You can understand each other even better than before and it feels so good to just be yourself around them.

7) They want you for themselves.

Now here’s a thing.

Sometimes, when you feel a connection while looking into someone’s eyes it might mean that they want to keep you all to themselves.

But what makes them think that?

First and foremost, you are special to them and because of this, they tend to be a bit overprotective.

They’re not sure if they can trust someone else to take care of you while they’re not around.

They are worried someone else might take you away from them.

In this case, they might try and get you to want to be with them all the time so that no one else will be able to steal you away.

They might say things like

“You’re the only one I want to spend time with”, or

“I don’t feel right when you’re not around” or

“I’ll do anything to make you happy”.

Now, what they are saying might may sound sweet, but it isn’t natural.

It might be that they feel that you are their soulmate and they just want to be with their soulmate.

Having a soulmate is supposed to be the best thing for you and sometimes, this is all that matters in someone else’s eyes.

They have no interest in what your answer is because they just want to spend time together.

And if you’re not interested, well, there is always the possibility that they won’t let you go.

And if you’re seeing these signs in someone you want to take it with a grain of salt.

8) They want to be in your life.

Feeling a connection every time you look into someone’s eyes might mean that they want to be in your life.

They want to be a part of your world.

You might feel a connection that you can’t explain, and sometimes it’s hard to believe that this kind of feeling could exist.

You might feel like you’re in love, but sometimes it’s not just about love.

It’s about compatibility.

It’s about knowing you have something special with someone else and wanting to explore it further.

They want to live their life the way they want and because of that, it makes them feel good being around you.

You make them feel more confident in themselves and that’s something they truly need.

They might have a lot of bad things happening around them and you’re the one thing that makes them feel good.

It gives them the incentive to take on each day, even if it means going through hard times and tough situations.

But hey!

This feeling doesn’t just come when thinking about love.

It can also happen when talking to friends or family members.

9) They love your weakness or flaws and they don’t care about anything else.

Now this one can be a little controversial.

The other signs/meanings above were about how someone secretly loves you and not about how they truly feel about you.

This one is about how someone truly feels about you and your strength, vulnerability, beauty, or whatever weaknesses you may have.

And they don’t care about anything else.

They don’t care about how you look or how much money you have.

They don’t care about your race, gender, or whether or not you’re religious.

They just want to be with you for who you are and because of what makes you a unique individual.

You might click in an instant when talking to one another and it might end up being more than just a conversation.

They love them all because they’ve simply accepted that you have them.

They’re in love with who you are, despite those flaws.

It’s only when they start caring so much, that they can genuinely fall in love with you as well.

Amidst your flaws, you can see it in their eyes that they are still your person.

They will always root for you and believe in you even if you are doubting yourself.

A word of advice.

Keep people like this around you.

They genuinely love and care about you.

And last but not the least,

10) They want to be in your life, but it’s too dangerous.

This one is a little bit different.

They want to be in your life, but they’re afraid that you won’t be able to handle it.

It’s too much pressure to be around someone like them.

I mean, they think you’ll lose yourself in the process and fall in love with them because you’ll be so into them when it happens.

And because of this risk, they want to stay away.

They don’t want to put you in a situation where everything is getting confused, so they take the safe route and stay away from you.

You might be the type of person who doesn’t care about anyone’s problems besides yourself.

But when someone loves you, they’ll want to do everything in their power to keep you safe and healthy.

This kind of love is genuine, but they think that you’re not ready for it right now.

They think you’re too immature emotionally and they don’t want to make the situation worse.

The real reason they do this is because of their love for you.

If they were truly trying to hurt you or put a wedge between you, then they wouldn’t have cared about how the situation would turn out.

They cannot express it in words so they convey it with their eyes.

So, there you have it.

Taking everything into account, it can be said that the connection one feels when they lock gaze with someone might mean something personal.

Not only is it a sign of attraction at first sight, but it’s a sign that they have feelings for you and might be in love with you.

There are many different ways to say I love you, so don’t discount the important things that come out of a person’s eyes.

Sometimes, our actions and words can be misleading.

But when we open our eyes to truly see someone, we can see what lies in their heart.

Some of the meanings above are more obvious than others but understanding them will help you nurture your relationships and make the most of your time around others.

The best thing you can do is spend time with them and find out if there is a connection or not.

You can do it!

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Jude Paler

I am a poet with a positive outlook in life and a writer with a purpose in mind. I write to express my thoughts so that others will be inspired.

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