Learning to love: A personal story from Tina Fey

I find this time of year hard.

The beginning of spring reminds me of a difficult breakup I faced last year.

A week after I moved to be closer to my boyfriend, he dumped me. He told me he wanted to be alone. But I found out he was with someone else, while we were together.

It felt like the world was pulled from beneath me. I was in a dark underground. And didn’t trust anything we shared.

I couldn’t concentrate. I couldn’t write. It started to impact my work. I didn’t want to leave my house.

I didn’t want to go see any of my friends. I didn’t want to go out and have any fun.

And I was concerned because it quickly began to affect my self-confidence.

I had no ambition or motivation.

I felt stuck, and unhappy, and everything seemed hard.

I was tired of crying. Tired of complaining about him to my friends. I was tired of hating him.

I knew I had to find a solution.

Now, this was around the same time I first came across some videos by the shaman Rudá landê.

I was browsing online, looking for any time of help, and I came across a very uplifting man.

His smile got me. He seemed warm and had contagious laughter. It made me feel ike I don’t have to take it so seriously.

In his short, yet powerful, video on love and intimacy, he quickly reminded me of a key message I needed to hear.

The most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves.

So later that afternoon, I spent some time thinking more about what was important to me and where I self-sabotage my relationships.

I’ll be honest. When I looked at the people I engaged with, the men I wanted so badly, I started to see what he was talking about.

The very next day…

I woke up feeling refreshed.

My anxiety about love and finding the perfect partner vanished.

I felt like I was ready to take on my day.

I felt inspired to write again and go out into the world.

I just walk into my day confidently and feel like I can take anything on.

Is this all because of Rudá’s reminder?

There’s no other reason I can think of why my mindset completely shifted. He helped me to see relationships in a new light.

If you want to give it a try, the link can be found here:

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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