Is he losing interest or am I overthinking? 10 signs he loves you (and 10 signs he doesn’t)

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Are you nervous that your guy is losing interest in you?

You can’t stop overthinking whether he wants to move on and if he might be done with you?

It sucks when this happens, but you’re not alone.

Many women overthink the relationship and start seeing things that aren’t there.

So let’s calm your nerves.

In this article, we’ll go through 10 signs that your man genuinely loves you.

You don’t need to worry if you relate to at least a few of these signs! This guy loves you!

If you’re still overthinking the situation after going through the first ten signs, we’ll go over ten signs that he is probably losing interest in you.

Let’s go.

1. He’s always there for you.

If your boyfriend is the guy who will be there for you during your best times and your worst, he’s demonstrating that he cares about you.

If he’s willing to drop everything to give you a ride to the hospital when you’re feeling a little sick or sit in the waiting room at 3 a.m. when your best friend has a miscarriage, he’s willing to go above and beyond for you.

If he’s always the one who is there for you when you need a shoulder to cry on or a helping hand, then he’s a keeper.

A guy who loves you will always be willing to be there for you, no matter what you’re going through.

2. He constantly tries to make you happy.

If your guy is always trying to make you happy — whether he’s buying you gifts on your birthday or taking you to your favorite restaurant on a Friday night — he’s telling you that he loves you.

If he’s always trying to find out what will make you smile, or if he’s always trying to ensure that your needs are met, he’s definitely in love with you.

If he always tries to make you happy, he wants you to be happy — plain and simple.

If he’s always going above and beyond for you, he’s not just doing it because he has to — he’s doing it because he wants to.

He’ll find little ways to tell you daily if he loves you.

3. He flaunts you when you’re out together.

If your guy constantly flaunts you when you’re out together, it’s because he’s proud to be with you.

He wants his friends and his family to know that you’re his girl.

If he’s introducing you as his “girlfriend,” not just his “friend,” then he’s letting everyone around him know that you’re special to him.

He’s letting everyone know that you belong to him.

If he’s proud to be with you, he’s definitely in love.

He wants everyone around him to know that you’re his girl. He wants everyone to know how lucky he is to have you.

4. He does little things to show he cares.

If your guy is always surprising you with gifts, taking you on special dates, or allowing you to take the lead in planning your weekends, he’s obviously in love with you.

If he’s always trying to show you how much he cares, it’s because he wants to let you know that you’re special to him.

He wants you to know that you’re worth it. He wants you to know that you’re worth all the gifts and all the dates.

He wants to prove himself to you.

If he’s always doing things for you, he’s trying to show you that he loves you. He doesn’t need to tell you — he’s doing it so that you know.

5. He doesn’t try to micromanage you.

If your guy is constantly trying to control your eating habits, alcohol intake, and sleep schedule, he’s not in love with you — he’s in love with being able to control you.

He doesn’t love you, he’s in love with the idea of you.

If he’s micromanaging your health habits or trying to control your daily routine, he doesn’t love you — he’s controlling you.

He doesn’t love you enough to trust that you’ll make good decisions. He doesn’t trust that you’ll make the right decisions without his help.

He’s not in love with you — he’s in love with the idea of you.

If he loves you, he’ll trust you to make good decisions. He won’t need to micromanage you.

He trusts that you’ll make smart decisions based on your health and well-being.

This quote from spiritual master Osho sums up what true love really is:

“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession.
Love is about appreciation.” – Osho

6. He is affectionate.

If your guy constantly pulls you close for a hug, puts his hand on the small of your back, or holds your hand when you are walking together, he’s clearly in love with you.

If he’s constantly trying to cuddle with you or finding excuses to touch your shoulder or your leg, he’s obviously in love with you.

He just loves the feeling of being close to you and being affectionate with you.

He loves being around you, and he can’t help but want to hold you and be close to you.

If he’s always trying to be affectionate with you, he wants to let you know that you’re special to him.

He wants you to know that you’re worth the effort.

7. He listens to you.

If your guy is really in love with you, he’ll listen to everything you have to say — not just when you’re in a fight or trying to solve a problem.

He’ll listen when you’re just trying to discuss your day or your weekend plans. He’ll be listening when you’re just trying to let off steam.

If he’s constantly paying attention to the things you have to say and always trying to make sure he’s actively listening to you, he’s in love with you.

He wants to know about your day because he cares about your day.

He wants to know your weekend plans because he genuinely wants to know about your weekend plans.

There is no faking it. He wants to know your opinion because he respects and listens to you.

8. He is compassionate.

If your guy is always trying to be there for you when you have a bad day, he’s obviously in love with you.

He’s not just doing it because he has to — he’s doing it because he genuinely wants to.

If he’s always trying to help you when you’re having a bad day, if he’s always trying to make you feel better, and if he’s always trying to make sure that you’re okay, he loves you.

He loves you enough to put your needs above his own. He loves you enough to make sure that you have what you need.

9. He compliments

If your guy constantly tells you how beautiful or amazing you look, he’s definitely in love with you.

Men don’t give compliments anywhere. This is especially the case for thoughtful compliments.

If he is complimenting your unique personality or your style and grace, he is putting thought into his compliment. It means that he is genuine and not just generically calling you “beautiful.”

When a man is in love with you, he wants you to know. He wants everyone around you to know he’s proud to be with you.

10. He doesn’t try to change who you are.

If your guy is constantly trying to change the things about yourself that make you “you,” then he doesn’t love you — He only loves the idea of the girl he thinks you could be.

So if your man doesn’t try to change you, and accepts you for everything that you are, even your flaws, then you know he loves your true self.

You are who you are, and he loves that about you.

This is a hallmark of a man in love. He loves everything about you and accepts you for who you are.

Okay, now we’ve gone through 10 signs that he does love you; you can calm down about whether this guy is losing interest in you.

But if you’re still suspicious and can’t stop overthinking it, here are ten signs that your man probably is losing interest in you.

10 Unfortunate Signs He is Losing Interest

1. He is responding less often to your texts and calls

If he loses interest in you, he may respond less often to your texts and calls.

You’ll notice he takes longer to respond, and his responses will be shorter than usual. He may even stop responding altogether.

This is a bad sign and may show that he has other priorities.

2. He doesn’t show up when he says he will

It could mean something is wrong if he isn’t around when he says he will be.

Perhaps he has legitimate excuses like he is at work or he has to get ready for a business meeting.

But if this consistently happens, then it’s starting to become suspicious.

What are his other priorities?

The bottom line is this:

When you’re in a relationship with someone, they are your priority.

He might be losing interest if he puts other commitments above meeting you.

3. He hasn’t invited you on an outing with his friends.

Many men will lose interest in a woman if they don’t see a future with her.

If your guy loses interest in you, he might stop inviting you out with his friends.

Why?

Because if there is no future in the relationship, then he can’t see any point in you getting to know his friends.

He may also want to go out with his friends and meet other girls.

4. He isn’t initiating dates with you now

When your guy loses interest in you, he may be less interested in dating.

He might no longer initiate dates with you.

Maybe he will ask you but then take forever to get ready or cancel at the last second without any explanation.

If this happens, it’s a sure sign that something is wrong.

5. He hasn’t mentioned his future with you in a long time

Remember when your guy was dreaming about the future and what he wanted to do with you?

If he is losing interest in you, he probably doesn’t have these dreams anymore.

You might notice he’s less enthusiastic about spending time together or dating.

He rarely talks about the future, and if he ever does, he mentions the word “I” rather than “we.”

6. He doesn’t pay much attention to you in public anymore

When a man loses interest in a woman, he may make fewer public displays of affection (e.g., holding your hand while walking, giving you sweet looks across the bar).

This could be because he is interested in other girls and is trying to make it look like he is single.

That’s a red flag.

If you can see him constantly checking out other girls, even in your presence, then clearly your man has other priorities.

7. He hasn’t been paying much attention to you at home

In the same vein, he may just not be interested in spending time with you or listening to what you have to say at home.

He may say he still “loves” you, but you can only trust his actions.

When you have a boyfriend, they are meant to care for you and listen to what you say.

But if he doesn’t want to support you anymore, it shows that he is not taking his boyfriend’s responsibilities seriously.

8. He has made comments about other women in the past that have made you feel uneasy

You might notice some subtle comments from him about other girls that make you feel insecure or jealous.

He might have said, “I like this girl.” Or, “I wish I was dating her,” or maybe even, “I wish she was my girlfriend.” And then, he might say that kind of thing just to hurt you.

Keep in mind that these types of comments are not okay.

In a healthy relationship, your guy will talk about other women with you and with others in a very respectful way.

He will be very careful about what he says about other women because if he hurts your feelings, this will make him feel bad.

If your guy is commenting like this, then obviously, something isn’t right with the relationship.

9. He doesn’t pay for Date Night anymore; he doesn’t take you out to dinner anymore

Remember when he would give you a special gift or treat you for Date Night?

If he stopped doing that, it’s a bad sign.

He might not be as interested in spending time with you anymore.

A boyfriend that is in love will want to spend money on you. This is a bad sign if he doesn’t want to spend money on you anymore.

10. He is less affectionate with you in general

If your guy is not as affectionate with you anymore, he is probably losing interest.

He may give you a quick kiss on the lips, but never a lingering kiss or hug. Or he may no longer want to hold your hand when you are together.

This usually happens when a guy withdraws from his girlfriend, so it’s a bad sign.

When he takes his romantic cues from other girls, this might be the reason he loses interest in you.

Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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