18 signs of an instant connection with someone (even if you just met)

If you’re looking for love, it’s important to pay attention to the signs of an instant connection.

Love can happen when you least expect it, and sometimes at first sight.

It’s not always easy to tell if someone is feeling the same way as you are, so here are 19 signs of a strong connection that may indicate that somebody might be your perfect match.

1) You’re completely comfortable around them

When there’s a real connection between you and someone, you’ll know it because they make you feel comfortable and free around them. This is especially true when it’s the first time meeting someone.

You don’t have to worry about what they think of what you say or how they perceive you because they just accept who you are. There’s no pressure to perform or keep up with their standards or put on a mask that isn’t even yours.

You should know that when you first meet someone, it’s normal to feel a little nervous.

But when someone you’re with feels completely comfortable around you, they’re already a sign of a strong connection.

When you feel that way, it’s likely they feel the same way, and this could be the beginning of the kind of love match that works out. It’s like you can relax around them – be yourself.

The best part is you think you can tell them anything, even if you two just met. There’s something about knowing that someone will listen without judgment that makes us feel comfortable around them.

You can also see that they feel comfortable with you when they’re being playful, honest and spontaneous.

2) They make you feel glad to be alive

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When you’re around someone who makes you smile and feel good about yourself, this is a sign that there’s strong chemistry between the two of you.

Their presence in your life will motivate you to be a better version of yourself. And it can also encourage them to be a better version of themselves. So you’ll both be growing in a positive direction.

You had days where you felt like crap and sometimes you don’t want to leave the house because you just don’t feel like it. But when someone makes you want to get up and be with them, this is such a beautiful connection.

For example, sometimes meeting someone can make us feel a long-forgotten feeling that we never felt for a long time. This is what I mean by “they make us feel glad to be alive”.

We can call this “positive energy“, and if someone emanates it, it’s already a sign of an instant connection.

3) You can’t stop thinking about them

If you find yourself having the same dream or thinking about that person when you wake up, this can be a sign of an instant connection.

You want to see them again because they’ve put those positive, happy thoughts in your head and it feels great. Think of it like your favorite dessert. They’re giving off positive vibes that make you feel good, and they’re addicting.

You’re constantly wondering what they think of you, trying to collect as much information about them as possible and imagining what it would be like if you guys were together.

And get this, you don’t have to see them or talk to them to feel good, because the energy they’re putting out is all you need. This is a sign that there’s strong chemistry and much more to come.

4) You have a lot in common with them

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It can be fun meeting new people and discovering your similarities and differences, but when you encounter someone who has similar interests, values and goals as yourself, this can be a sign of instant connection.

You can also feel it when you discover that there’s something about their personality that you already liked about yourself, or vice versa.

You will be surprised that their favorite music or movie can be the same as yours since sometimes, you just have a lot in common that’s not even something you think about until you get to know someone.

Think of the times when you’ve known people and it really clicked, like the two of you were actually made for each other. This is what I mean by an “instant connection” that works out.

5) They make you laugh… all the time

A great way to know if someone is your perfect match is by finding out what kind of laugh it is with them. Are they always laughing at your jokes, even when you don’t think it’s that funny? Do you laugh at their jokes and you can’t stop?

You can feel it when a person’s funny because of their energy, literally. When someone has a great sense of humor, this is where fun and excitement come in.

You want to be around them all the time because they’re attracting positive energy like a magnet. Great chemistry is enough to make anyone feel happy to be alive.

Watch out, however, because when they’re not in the same room as you, this energy can vanish and it can be hard to get it back. So you really have to know that person before making up your mind if they’re your perfect match.

6) You don’t want to be the one to walk away from the conversation

When you’re hanging out with this special someone, you feel like time fly by so fast. When that’s happening between two people, it’s an instant connection.

You and this person are so comfortable with each other that whenever you look at your watch, hours have flown by without you even noticing.

It’s true, you feel like you can totally be yourself without fear of being judged or worrying that they might cut things short or leave early. It’s like when you’re speeding along on a beautiful road and you’re completely in the zone. You just can’t imagine getting off of it.

You might not even want to leave the conversation because it’s so fun and spontaneous, which can be a sign that there’s strong chemistry between the two of you.

This kind of connection is amazing as it feels like you’re soul mates and can totally see each other’s personalities.

7) You can feel a connection just by looking at them

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When you walk into a room and you have a strong reaction when you see them, that’s chemistry.

You take notice of things about the other person such as how they look, sound, and feel.

If you’re walking down the street and you happen to see someone that looks attractive, you’ll look at them with a smile on your face.

But if there’s chemistry there between the two of you, then you’ll have a stronger reaction than just a passing glance.

In this case, it’s like someone has just turned up the volume in your mind and your heart races as they come into view..

You know something is right with them; you can feel a connection – that’s all it takes.

When your eyes met, you immediately feel like you’re meant to be with them and that’s how strong chemistry works.

8) You can’t help agreeing with their opinion

There’s no way around it – when you meet someone who has a voice of reason, this is a sign that there’s something about them that makes them great friends or even soulmates. They have a way of getting you to change your mind, so you can see the world in a different light.

They’re right all the time, but it’s not like they’re bossy or rude and pushy.

You can find out if anyone is your perfect match and be happy with them by listening to their opinions.

What I like about this is that they don’t agree with everything you say and that’s normal because people have different interests and values. But if their opinion is always in line with your own, you can go for it since that’s what you want when you’re looking for your soulmate.

9) You don’t need to pretend around them

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As I have mentioned, you can’t fake chemistry.

If chemistry is real, you just feel it out. You don’t have to pretend around them because that would just be dishonest and with no hint of sincerity.

I can tell you that sometimes people make false claims about how great they are with different people, but these people usually don’t know what they’re talking about.

There’s a difference between being genuine and pretending for an audience, which causes fake reactions and no connection at all. I’ve always been that girl who pretends to be someone she isn’t to impress others, but I was never really good at it and I felt like I was putting on a show.

Instead, it’s best to be yourself because if you don’t have chemistry with someone, that feeling won’t go away.

10) You feel like you want to know them better at all costs

This is a sign that you’re definitely soulmates. You want to know everything about the other person no matter how awkward or painful it might be.

You want them to be as close to you as possible, which is a good sign that you’ve found someone who’s going to make a great partner for life.

The one person that you know is always important, so when chemistry is real and strong, the one thing you don’t want to do is lose them.

11) You feel like it’s possible to be around each other all the time

It’s like you completely fit together.

You can have fun and joke around without worrying that someone else might take a joke away from you.

You never feel frustrated or annoyed when you’re around them because there’s no competition or tension – it’s nothing but totally comfortable and relaxed even if it feels impossible to be in the same room as them all the time.

When chemistry is real, it makes things easier to be around each other, so it feels like you could just spend your whole life with that person.

12) You want to spend all of your free time with them.

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The right words are hard to find, but when there’s an instant connection, there’s no distance between you and the other person.

You both want to be together daily and you don’t feel a reason why you shouldn’t be. This is the last thing you think about before you fall asleep and the first thing on your mind when you wake up.

You just want to be around them all of the time because you can’t imagine being without them.

13) Just the thought of them makes you feel better about everything

You can’t miss the person who makes you feel more energized and alive than others. That’s real connection.

I’ve met this person a few times in my life and they just put me at ease. They’re the kind of person who would instantly make you feel okay, even if your day was filled with annoyance or little misfortunes. They simply have that effect on people because they can sense energy and they know how to get people to feel relaxed, especially to you.

When you feel this way, it’s a sign that there’s a connection with someone longer than just your physical attraction. You might not even realize it at first and it doesn’t have to be a romantic connection.

14) You realize that you want to be in a relationship with them

When you stop and think about it, you definitely like the person and all of the signs point to the fact that they’re your soulmate.

You have a good time when you’re together so it makes sense to think about that way. The signs are not just in your head, they’re real and they do mean something. When you feel this way about the person, it’s a sign that you want to be in a relationship with them.

You might not even know who your soulmate is yet, because finding someone special can take time, but when this happens, the first meetings say a lot.

15) You can already share secrets with them

When people feel comfortable enough to share all of their innermost secrets with someone, that’s when chemistry is real.

When you just like someone, you don’t want to share something so personal because it feels like you’re showing your weaknesses or vulnerabilities.

But when the chemistry is real, it’s different. You don’t see a weakness in sharing your secrets, but instead, a trust and comfort level that lets you be completely open and honest with this person.

How wonderful to have met someone who makes you feel so comfortable and secure!

16) You have a serious connection with them

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This one goes beyond just physical attraction.

You see, it’s stronger than feelings anyone else has ever made you feel before. You can’t really explain what it is, but you know that there’s something else going on and it’s special.

When a connection is beyond physical attraction, you get so wrapped up in the person that it’s hard to think about anything else. You don’t want to be with anyone else and you just want everything to be the way it is now forever.

This connection will last forever, even when your relationship ends… unless there’s a good reason why it wouldn’t work out. But in most cases, it lasts as long as it can be.

17) This person makes you feel amazing

You never forget when this person makes you feel amazing as they can just make you feel incredible in every way.

You have complete trust in them, they bring out the best in your personality. You know that this person also has great qualities, but your chemistry is what really stands out to you. You can’t get enough of them when you’re together and that can be a good or bad thing, because it never changes no matter what.

It’s like nothing else matters. You feel attached to them, you want them to think about you just as much as you think about them, and all of your thoughts are focused on one thing: how much they mean to you.

The best part is? They bring out the best in you too. You’re not the same person when it’s just the two of you.

They make your life better and they mean everything to you, so it feels like living without them would be a gray, dull world.

18) You feel like they’re the best thing that’s ever happened to you

It’s amazing how someone can come into your life and turn everything upside down. You start to realize that you’re feeling different, things that weren’t important before matter now and you have so many thoughts about the future with this person.

When a special person walks into your life, they make everything better than it was before. Your mood improves and you feel like there’s no way you can ever be without them because they’ve changed your life for the better.

Final words

Even if you just met this person, you know what they are to you. When you feel the way you do, it’s because there’s chemistry and if there wasn’t, it would be just a connection or physical attraction.

If you want to be with someone who truly means everything to you, this article will give you a checklist of signs that show exactly how much your soulmate matters to you.

The instant connection has to be real for these signs to show up on your dashboard and for it to mean something. Anyone can have chemistry, but you can only feel these signs if the person really means something to you.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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