“I’m too old to…” People who are trapped by their limiting beliefs regularly use these 5 phrases

What holds you back in life?

Is it other people keeping you down, blocking you from opportunities, and sabotaging your success?

Or is it possible that you’re doing at least some of this all by yourself?

Like everyone else, I’m sure that you’ve formed beliefs about yourself that help make up your identity. These beliefs can be related to the kind of person you think you are, what your skills are, and even what you believe others think about you.

The problem is that some of these beliefs may end up being limiting.

These are thoughts or ideas that you believe to be true even though they aren’t, and they’re things that restrict your growth and ability to succeed.

They’re almost like false accusations that you level at yourself and then believe, even though they’re not actually based on truth or reality.

People who are trapped by their limiting beliefs regularly use these five phrases that reinforce their false judgments and keep them from doing more.

These are statements to stop using if you want to pierce that veil of illusion and start to actually get ahead in life.

1) “I’m too old…”

There’s a very good reason why this one is at the top of the list.

So many of us think that we’re going to live our best lives when we’re young. We get into our 30s and then our 40s and start to feel less energetic and vivacious, and that’s when we start to think we’ve left the best behind us.

I know exactly what this is like.

A few months ago, I went to a music festival to catch one of my favorite bands. They’re quite loud, heavy, and rambunctious, and I decided I needed to push up to the front for this once-in-a-lifetime to see them play live.

When things kicked off, a big mosh pit started seething and heaving. It was great… for about five minutes.

I was getting bashed and battered but having a great time until someone came crowd surfing by and kicked me in the face.

I ended up squeezing out of there, holding a bloody nose and thinking, “I’m too old for this $#@&!”

However, there are people out there who show us that our assumptions about what we can do at what age are wrong time and time again.

Like my friend Rick, who plays soccer with 20-30-year-olds even though he’s 76. And there’s Margaret, who went skydiving last year to celebrate her 80th birthday.

While it’s true that you might be too old to enjoy some things you did when you were younger, that’s because you’ve matured and moved on, not because you’re geriatric.

But aside from that, blaming your age is just a way of holding yourself back.

2) “I’m never going to find someone who really wants to be with me.”

This is a limiting belief that I’ve heard time and time again in different forms.

But the truth is, it really makes no sense.

Why would there be a time limit on love?

Why would you just get to some point in your life and decide it’s futile to try to find a great partner?

A friend of mine didn’t have his first girlfriend until he was 44. I know people who were divorced and then got remarried in their 60s. 

A lot of this belief is tied to thinking that you’re a very unique person who maybe doesn’t match well with others.

While that could be true, remember how many people there are in the world – eight billion and counting!

Do you really think there’s no one out there who will appreciate you? Do you actually think that you should just give up looking for a partner even if you really want one in your life? 

The truth is that everyone has value. As long as you see your own, there will be people out there who can see it, too.

3) “I don’t deserve to be happy.”

This is one limiting belief that I admit I used to subscribe to.

I went through a difficult breakup and blamed myself because, after all, it was my fault.

Mostly.

I was so down on myself because it seemed to me like I’d ruined a really good relationship. I convinced myself that I didn’t deserve to be happy since I had such a great opportunity, and I burned it to the ground.

I had other relationships after that, but they all went nowhere, and in fact, I really sabotaged most of them myself because I didn’t believe I deserved to be happy. I’d find faults with the other person or refuse to compromise and would continually cause things to fall apart.

Years later, I realized that I was really looking at the world through shit-colored glasses.

I’d been in a relationship with a great person, but the relationship wasn’t the right one for either of us. Actually, ending it was a good thing, even though it was so painful.

So, I really wasn’t the horrible person I’d convinced myself I was, and I realized that my limiting belief was also a lie.

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4) “I don’t have time.”

People who are trapped by their limiting beliefs use this phrase all the time.

But let’s be clear about this one because it is sort of based on reality.

There are only so many hours in a day, days in a week, and weeks in a year (sorry, months, you’re too inconsistent to mention!).

We all need to sleep and eat and do a few other maintenance things, so we’re left with a finite amount of time each day that we can spend how we see fit.

It’s easy to say that you don’t have time when your schedule is full, and you don’t feel like you can fit anything else in.

You may be right!

The only problem is, it’s not time that’s the issue – it’s your priorities.

Suppose you want to do something you’ve always dreamt about, like learning to play the piano, but you feel like you don’t have time.

Is that because you’re on your feet, hustling just to stay alive every waking minute of every day? I doubt it.

Instead, isn’t it more likely that you’re using your time for things that don’t bring you the same amount of happiness that learning the piano would?

Is it also possible that you’re overestimating how much of a time commitment you might need to do it? 

Perhaps you really can’t squeeze in one-hour lessons with a teacher across town right now, but you can probably find two 15-minute periods to learn with an app each day.

Stop using this belief as an excuse and start looking past it to see how you can better manage your time to make your life the best it can be.

5) “I’m not good enough.”

Have you ever looked at a job opportunity and thought, “I’d love to apply for that, but I know I don’t have what it takes”?

Or perhaps you’ve considered trying out for a team, but you think, “I just don’t have the skills.”

These are just a couple of examples of the ways we can tell ourselves we’re not good enough. Then, we use that limiting belief to put an end to our dreams and ambitions.

Well, you could be right that you don’t have the skills and abilities needed to attain that goal… right now. But is that a reason to give up on it?

For so many people, this would be the end of it. They’d love to do something, but they can’t now, so they give up.

What about learning and growing, though?

If there’s a job you want, but you don’t have what it takes to get it, then why not find out exactly what it takes and work up to that?

If you don’t have the skills you need to do something, should that be it, or should you take time and focused effort to build those skills?

Of course, there are going to be some realities that limit us. I doubt I’ll ever make it to the NBA due to my height and lack of any recognizable basketball skills. Good thing it’s not on my bucket list.

But when we add to these our own limiting beliefs that have no basis in reality, we truly do ourselves a disservice.

Identify and nullify your limiting beliefs

People who are trapped by their limiting beliefs regularly use these five phrases as excuses for not going after the things they want in life.

While these are only a few examples, there are plenty of limiting beliefs out there that we tell ourselves every day.

The next time you give a reason why you can’t do something, take a step back and ask yourself, “Is this really true, or is this a false belief I’ve created?”

If you’re making excuses, it’s time to toss them in the trash and stop limiting yourself and your growth.

 

 

 

Marcel Deer

Marcel Deer

Marcel is a journalist, gamer, and entrepreneur. When not obsessing over his man cave or the latest tech, he’s failing helplessly at training his obnoxious rescue dog ‘Boogies’.

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