If you’re tired of being unappreciated in life, say goodbye to these 9 behaviors

There’s a world of difference between feeling valued and feeling unappreciated.

The difference often lies in our own behaviors. You see, sometimes we engage in habits that, unknowingly, make us feel unappreciated in life.

Bidding farewell to these behaviors can be a game-changer. It allows you to regain control, and most importantly, feel cherished and acknowledged.

Saying goodbye to these habits isn’t easy, but it’s the first step towards a more fulfilling life.

In this article, I’m going to share with you the 9 behaviors you need to let go of if you’re tired of feeling unappreciated. Trust me, it’s time for a change.

1) Seeking validation from others

One major behavior that often leads us to feel unappreciated is constantly seeking validation from others.

It’s human nature to crave acceptance and acknowledgement. But, when we constantly seek approval from those around us, we place our self-worth in their hands.

Think about it. If you’re always looking to others for validation, you’re essentially telling yourself that their opinion is more important than your own self-belief. That’s not a healthy mindset to maintain.

When it comes to feeling appreciated, it’s crucial to first appreciate yourself. You don’t need external validation to know your worth.

2) Over-committing myself

Another behavior I had to say goodbye to, to stop feeling unappreciated, was over-committing myself.

In the past, I used to say ‘yes’ to everything. I’d take on more than I could handle, trying to please everyone around me. I thought that by doing so, people would appreciate my efforts and see my value.

The reality? It led to burnout. And worse still, my efforts often went unnoticed. I was stretching myself too thin, and in the process, neglecting my own needs and well-being.

One day, I realized that saying ‘no’ wasn’t a crime. It’s okay not to be available for everything and everyone. It’s okay to prioritize self-care.

With that in mind, I started setting boundaries. I began valuing my own time and energy as much as I valued others’. And guess what? Not only did it prevent burnout, but it also led to more respect and appreciation from others.

3) Not expressing your needs

Sometimes, we tend to feel unappreciated because we don’t express our needs effectively.

People cannot read minds, research shows. It might seem obvious, but it’s easy to forget. We often expect others to understand our needs and feelings intuitively, and when they don’t, we feel unappreciated.

But here’s the thing: if you don’t communicate your needs openly, how can you expect others to fulfill them? Clear communication is key to feeling appreciated.

Start expressing what you want and how you feel. You might be surprised at how receptive people can be when you communicate your needs clearly.

4) Focusing on the negatives

Another habit that often leads to feelings of being unappreciated is focusing on the negatives.

Let’s face it, it’s easy to get caught up in what’s going wrong in our lives.

We dwell on the criticism more than the compliments, remember the mistakes more than the successes, and notice what we lack more than what we have.

This negative mindset can obscure our view of the appreciation that is actually present in our lives. It’s like wearing a pair of glasses that only show the bad stuff. If you want to start feeling appreciated, the first thing you need to do is to zoom in on the positives and feel thankful about them.

5) Comparing yourself to others

One of the most damaging behaviors that can lead to feeling unappreciated is constantly comparing yourself to others.

Whether it’s in terms of success, looks or popularity, comparison can be a slippery slope. It makes us overlook our own achievements and qualities, leading to feelings of inadequacy and lack of appreciation.

The truth is, everyone is on their own unique journey. What may seem like a perfect life from the outside may not be so perfect from the inside. Comparing your chapter one to someone else’s chapter twenty isn’t fair to you.

If you find yourself habitually drawing comparisons, it’s time to let go of this habit. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own growth and progress. Celebrate your victories, no matter how small they may seem. Trust me, you’re doing better than you think.

6) Neglecting self-care

life has no joy If you're tired of being unappreciated in life, say goodbye to these 9 behaviors

Neglecting self-care is a behavior that many of us are guilty of, and it’s one that can significantly contribute to feelings of being unappreciated.

Life can easily get into our way of taking care of our most important asset – our well-being.

We pour into others, fulfill our responsibilities, and meet deadlines, all while neglecting our own physical and emotional well-being.

In the process, we begin to feel drained, worn out, and yes – unappreciated. Because if we don’t take the time to appreciate and care for ourselves, how can we expect others to do so?

In order to truly feel valued and appreciated, it’s crucial to prioritize self-care. This means allowing yourself to relax, recharge, and do things that bring you joy. It means listening to your body when it’s tired, and your heart when it’s heavy.

7) Constantly trying to fit in

There was a time when I thought that in order to be appreciated, I had to fit in. I believed that if I blended in with the crowd, conformed to societal norms, and did what everyone else was doing, I would be valued more.

But here’s what I learned: trying to fit in is like trying to pour a square peg into a round hole. It just doesn’t work. The more you try to fit in, the more you lose your unique identity.

True appreciation comes from being authentic, from being true to who you are. The right people will see your worth, value your uniqueness, and appreciate you for you.

8) Not setting boundaries

If you’re constantly feeling unappreciated, it might be because you’re not setting clear boundaries.

Boundaries are crucial in maintaining healthy relationships and ensuring self-respect. When we don’t set boundaries, we allow others to overstep and take us for granted. This can lead to feelings of resentment and lack of appreciation.

Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you’re being selfish or unkind. It means that you value your time, energy, and emotional well-being. It sends a clear message to others about what you will tolerate and what you won’t.

And don’t worry about people misunderstanding you. The people who truly appreciate you will respect your boundaries.

9) Underestimating your worth

Perhaps the most detrimental behavior of all is underestimating your own worth.

When you undervalue yourself, you unknowingly give others the permission to do the same. You accept less than you deserve and settle for being unappreciated.

It’s crucial to understand that your worth is intrinsic and unchanging. It’s not defined by how much you do for others, how many friends you have, or any external factor. Your worth is inherent.

Final thoughts: It begins with you

As humans, we are intrinsically programmed to seek approval and validation. But it’s essential to remember that the most important approval comes from within.

American psychologist Abraham Maslow once said, “What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” This statement holds immense significance when dealing with feelings of unappreciation.

By saying goodbye to these nine behaviors, we take a step towards changing our self-perception. We begin to value ourselves more, demand respect and appreciation while also offering it to ourselves.

Whether it’s setting clear boundaries, prioritizing self-care, or acknowledging our worth, each small shift in behavior can lead us on the path towards feeling more appreciated.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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