If you’re struggling to find happiness, say goodbye to these 9 daily habits

Happiness can often feel like a fleeting target, constantly out of reach due to our daily habits.

These are the little things we do each day, often without thinking, that sap our joy without us realizing it.

If you’re struggling to find happiness, it might be time to say goodbye to some of these habits.

In this article, I’m going to share 9 daily habits that could be standing between you and your happiness. Once you’re aware of them, you can choose to let them go.

This isn’t about blaming yourself or feeling guilty. It’s about making small changes that could bring big improvements to your happiness levels. Let’s dive in!

1) Overthinking

We’ve all been there. A situation occurs and it plays on repeat in your mind. You analyze every detail, every possible outcome, and every single word that was said.

This, my friends, is overthinking, and it’s a happiness killer.

Overthinking keeps you stuck in the past or worried about the future. It robs you of the present moment – which is where happiness tends to hang out.

If you’re an over-thinker, it’s time to say goodbye to this habit.

Easier said than done, right? But the first step is awareness. Once you’re aware of when you’re overthinking, you can start making changes.

Remember, happiness isn’t found in replaying past events or worrying about future ones. It’s found in the now. So next time you find yourself stuck in a cycle of overthinking, take a breath, let it go and bring yourself back to the present.

2) Neglecting self-care

This one hits close to home for me. I used to be the queen of neglecting self-care. Working late into the night, skipping meals, not getting enough exercise – you name it.

I told myself I was just ‘busy’ or ‘committed’. But deep down, I was slowly chipping away at my happiness.

One day, I woke up realizing I felt drained and joyless. It dawned on me that I had been neglecting the most important person in my life – myself.

Neglecting self-care is a fast track to unhappiness. It’s like trying to run a marathon without training or fueling your body properly – it’s just not going to work.

So if you’re struggling to find happiness, take a look at your self-care routine. Are you giving yourself the rest, nourishment, and care that you need? If not, it’s time to say goodbye to this habit and start prioritizing yourself. Trust me, your happiness will thank you.

3) Comparing yourself to others

In today’s digital age, it’s easier than ever to fall into the comparison trap. With a single scroll through your social media feed, you’re bombarded with images of people living seemingly perfect lives.

It’s no surprise that this can leave us feeling inadequate and unhappy. But here’s something to keep in mind: The majority of people only share their highlight reel online, not their behind-the-scenes.

Studies have found that people tend to feel depressed after comparing themselves on social media.

Comparing yourself to others is like comparing apples to oranges. You’re unique, with your own strengths, weaknesses and life journey.

Say goodbye to this habit and focus on your own growth and happiness. After all, the only person you should be in competition with is the person you were yesterday.

4) Holding onto grudges

Holding onto grudges is like carrying a heavy weight. It’s exhausting, burdensome, and, worst of all, it doesn’t do anything to the person you’re holding the grudge against.

The only person it truly hurts is you.

When you hold onto past hurts, you’re giving them power over your present happiness. It’s like letting someone live rent-free in your mind.

If you’re struggling to find happiness, it might be time to let go of those grudges.

Forgiveness isn’t about saying that what the person did was okay. It’s about choosing to release the hold they have on your happiness.

Remember, holding onto a grudge is letting someone live in your head rent-free. It’s time to evict them and reclaim your happiness.

5) Saying “yes” when you want to say “no”

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Do you ever find yourself saying “yes” to things you really don’t want to do? Maybe it’s out of fear of disappointing someone, or perhaps you don’t want to seem rude.

But here’s the thing, every time you say “yes” to something you don’t want to do, you’re saying “no” to something you might rather be doing. And that can lead to resentment, stress, and unhappiness.

It’s important to set boundaries and understand that it’s okay to say “no”. You have a right to your time and energy.

6) Ignoring your emotions

We all have a wide range of emotions, and they’re all part of the human experience. Joy, sadness, anger, fear – they all have a place.

But when we ignore or suppress our emotions, especially the difficult ones, we’re denying a part of ourselves.

Our emotions are signals, telling us something about ourselves and our needs. By ignoring them, we’re missing out on important information about what we need to be truly happy.

It’s okay to feel. It’s okay to be angry, to be sad, to be scared. These feelings aren’t bad or wrong. They’re simply part of being human.

7) Chasing perfection

I’ll admit, I used to be a perfectionist. Everything had to be just right, from my work to my personal life. But instead of feeling satisfied, I felt constantly stressed and unhappy.

Chasing after perfection is like chasing a mirage. It seems tangible, but it’s always just out of reach. And the more you chase it, the more exhausted and frustrated you become.

Perfection doesn’t exist. We’re all beautifully flawed and that’s what makes us human.

8) Living in the past or future

It’s easy to get caught up in the past, reliving old memories or dwelling on past mistakes. Similarly, it’s just as easy to stress about the future, worrying about what’s to come.

But here’s the thing: When we’re focused on the past or the future, we’re missing out on the present. And the present is where life is happening; it’s all we actually have. 

Bottom line: Living in the now is key to feeling happier. It allows us to fully engage with our lives and appreciate what we have in front of us.

9) Believing happiness is a destination

One of the biggest misconceptions about happiness is that it’s a destination. That once we achieve certain goals, whether it’s a new job, a relationship, or a certain amount of money, we’ll finally be happy.

But the reality is, happiness is not a destination. It’s a journey, and it’s found in the everyday moments.

Happiness comes from appreciating what you have, not constantly striving for more. It comes from being present, expressing gratitude, and cultivating positive relationships.

Final thoughts: Happiness is within you

What’s fascinating about happiness is that it’s not contingent on external factors, but rather, it’s largely influenced by our internal state.

A significant body of research suggests that approximately 40% of our happiness is within our control, influenced by our daily habits and mindset.

It’s empowering to realize that the key to our happiness lies within us. It’s not about what we have, but how we perceive what we have.

So if you’re struggling to find happiness, take a moment to reflect on these daily habits. Are they serving you, or are they standing in the way of your joy?

Ava Sinclair

Ava Sinclair

Ava Sinclair is a former competitive athlete who transitioned into the world of wellness and mindfulness. Her journey through the highs and lows of competitive sports has given her a unique perspective on resilience and mental toughness. Ava’s writing reflects her belief in the power of small, daily habits to create lasting change.

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