If you’re sick of being taken for granted in your relationship, say goodbye to these habits

Let’s face it. Being taken for granted sucks.

It’s even worse when it’s by someone you trust and care for. You know, the one person you should be able to count on no matter what.

After all, that’s what being in a couple is all about, right?

A joining of two individuals who love, support, and guide each other through life’s ups and downs (the ying to your yang).

Simply put, it’s a partnership.

But when you’ve been together for a while, it’s easy to get comfortable and slip into unhealthy habits.

I’m talking about becoming complacent.

Because of this, you feel like you’re being taken for granted – and you’re sick of it!

But your partner can’t shoulder all the blame. There’s a reason you’ve gotten to this point. It’s become the norm.

Ready to do something about it? Well, say goodbye to these seven habits.

1) Always putting your partner first (and neglecting your own needs)

I get it.

You enjoy doing things for your partner. Even if that means putting your own happiness on the back burner.

It’s your love language.

But mostly, it’s because you’re a people-pleaser.

So when it comes to your relationships, you can’t help saying “yes” when you should be saying “no.”

Here’s the thing.

While it’s important to be considerate of your partner’s needs, constantly prioritizing them over your own can lead to an imbalance in the relationship.

They might start taking you for granted.

At the end of the day, your happiness shouldn’t solely depend on your partner or their approval.

Remember, your needs are just as important. Don’t ignore them by…

2) Forgetting to set aside “me time”

Do you ever stop and do something just for you?

No?

Well, it might be time to start.

Alone or “me time” is the perfect way to reduce stress, reflect, and reconnect with what makes you, you.

But that’s not all.

Psychology tells us that spending time by yourself can actually improve your relationship.

Sure, it’s tempting to spend all your spare time with the person you love. But being readily available (all of the time) can lead to them taking you for granted.

And when you prioritize your partner’s needs above your own, you’re neglecting self-care. This can lead to anxiety, depression, and even heart disease.

Think about it.

By pursuing your own interests and hobbies outside of the relationship, you’re helping create a healthy balance between spending time together and finding personal fulfillment.

What’s more, a bit of time apart (every so often) gives you both time to miss and appreciate each other that bit more.

3) Relying on your partner for validation

Here’s that people-pleaser in you coming out to play again.

But you’re not alone.

According to experts, humans have a strong desire for belonging and connection. As a result, this can lead to self-silencing, lessened autonomy, or emotional fusion.

In other words, it’s validation-seeking behavior (or chameleoning) at its worst.

Not only does this type of conduct sacrifice your sense of self, but relying on your partner for validation and approval can make you more susceptible to being taken for granted.

What’s more, it does nothing for your self-esteem – or your relationship.

4) Being passive-aggressive (instead of direct)

Passive agressive than direct If you’re sick of being taken for granted in your relationship, say goodbye to these habits

When it comes to relationships, open and honest communication is key.

That’s why, when you have an issue, you need to address the problem head-on. The best way to do this is by talking about it with your partner.

But don’t forget to be direct.

Those passive-aggressive digs and “subtle” hints aren’t going to cut it. They only cause tension, confusion, and misunderstandings.

The truth is…

Your partner may not even realize they’re doing anything wrong. It may simply be a case of crossed wires.

Spell it out for them, if you have to.

By not telling them how you feel now, you’re robbing them of the opportunity to apologize or correct their behavior moving forward.

Oh, and that feeling of being taken for granted? It’s only going to grow into resentment later down the line. 

At the end of the day, some things AREN’T best left unsaid.

5) Doing everything yourself

Are you guilty of taking on too much?

Perhaps you worry that, if you don’t, nothing will get done (or done correctly).

Maybe, you simply want to feel useful and valued.

However, the problem with taking on everything by yourself (e.g. all the household chores, responsibilities, and finances) is that you’ll eventually start to feel burnt out and resentful.

In other words, being taken for granted.

Here’s the thing.

Sometimes, it’s okay to ask for help. It doesn’t make you weak or a burden. It comes down to support and being there for each other.

By encouraging your partner to share the workload and take responsibility for their fair share, you’ll foster a more balanced and healthier relationship.

6) Failing to communicate boundaries (and expectations)

Like communication, setting clear boundaries is just as important.

They let others know what is and isn’t okay.

Without them, it’s easy for your partner to overstep and take you for granted.

Communicating your needs and expectations (openly and honestly) allows you to build trust and mutual respect within your relationship.

So, don’t be afraid to enforce them.

7) Ignoring red flags (and accepting excuses)

Listen…

If you notice behaviors or patterns that indicate your partner doesn’t appreciate you, don’t ignore them.

They’re called red flags for a reason, you know.

The same goes for accepting flimsy excuses or rationalizations for their behavior.

When all is said and done, you need to hold your partner accountable for their actions. Especially if they consistently fail to appreciate you or make you feel valued.

Whether they mean to or not, by addressing issues early on you can prevent resentment from building up over time.

Until you make a stand and speak up for yourself, nothing’s going to change.

Relationships are about mutual respect. So, it’s time to get back what you put into it by saying goodbye to these seven bad habits.

Being taken for granted is no joke.

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Leila El-Dean

Leila is a passionate writer with a background in photography and art. She has over ten years of experience in branding, marketing, and building websites. She loves travelling and has lived in several countries, including Thailand, Malaysia, Spain, and Malta. When she’s not writing (or ogling cats), Leila loves trying new food and drinking copious amounts of Earl Grey tea.

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