If you’re feeling lonely in life, say goodbye to these 10 habits

We all know how much it stinks to feel lonely, right? But did you ever think that some of the stuff you do every day might be adding to those lonely feelings?

Surprisingly enough, breaking certain habits can help you feel less alone.

Let’s dive into these 10 habits you might want to stop doing if you’re feeling lonely.

1. Spending too much time on social media

I know, I know. It’s easy to get sucked into scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter for hours on end.

But believe it or not, spending too much time on social media can actually make you feel lonelier.


Well, it’s easy to start comparing your life to the highlight reels of others.

And let’s face it, most people only post the best parts of their lives online – the fun outings, the perfect selfies, the delicious meals. It’s not real life.

Next time you find yourself mindlessly scrolling, try putting down your phone and doing something else instead.

Maybe read a book, go for a walk, or call a friend for a chat. Trust me, your mind will thank you for it. 

2. Not getting out of the house

Staying cooped up indoors all day can really amp up feelings of loneliness.

It’s easy to feel isolated when the four walls of your room are all you see for hours on end.

So, what should you do? Get outside!

Even if you’re not meeting up with anyone, just being out and about can do wonders for your mood.

Take a stroll in the park, visit a local café, or just soak up some sun in your backyard.

Not only will getting some fresh air make you feel good, but you might also bump into someone and have a nice, unexpected chat.

And who knows? You might even make a new friend!

3. Skipping exercise

There’s a reason people say “exercise is the best medicine.” For a long time, I was guilty of neglecting my physical health.

I’d tell myself, “I’m too busy,” or “I’m just not in the mood,” and before I knew it, days turned into weeks without any proper exercise.

But here’s what I learned: Exercise isn’t just about keeping your body fit; it’s also a fantastic mood booster.

When you work out, your body releases endorphins, the ‘feel-good’ hormones. Trust me, it works!

I started with just 15 minutes of daily exercise – a brisk walk around the neighborhood or a quick YouTube workout.

And I began to feel less lonely and more connected to myself and my surroundings. 

4. Ignoring your hobbies

Did you know that engaging in a hobby you love can significantly boost your mood?

People who actively engage in their hobbies are less likely to feel lonely and more likely to feel happy.

So, if you’ve got a hobby that’s gathering dust, now’s the time to pick it back up!

Whether it’s painting, playing an instrument, gardening, or even juggling, doing something you love can help take your mind off feelings of loneliness.

Plus, it’s a great way to spend your time doing something productive and enjoyable.

The goal is not to be perfect at your hobby but to have fun. So, let loose and enjoy the process. 

5. Neglecting personal connections

We all lead busy lives, and sometimes it’s easy to let personal connections slide.

Maybe you’ve been meaning to call a friend or visit a family member, but you just haven’t found the time. I get it, life happens.

But it’s these connections that remind us we’re not alone. So, make the time. Reach out to an old friend, schedule a coffee date, or even just send a text to let someone know you’re thinking of them.

The conversations and shared laughter can be a balm to loneliness.

And remember, it’s not about how many friends you have. It’s about the quality of your relationships.

So nurture them, cherish them, and you’ll find your feelings of loneliness start to fade away.

6. Keeping feelings to yourself

For years, I thought being strong meant keeping my feelings to myself. I’d feel lonely, but I wouldn’t tell anyone because I didn’t want to be a burden.

But all that did was make me feel even more isolated.

What I’ve learned is that it’s okay to share your feelings. In fact, it’s healthy! It took me a while to open up, but once I did, I noticed a big difference.

My friends and family were there for me, and just talking about it took some of the weight off my shoulders.

If you’re feeling lonely, don’t keep it to yourself. Talk to someone you trust about it. You might be surprised by how much better you feel just by getting it off your chest.

7. Trying to fit in

We’ve all been there – trying to change who we are just to fit in.

Maybe you’ve laughed at jokes you don’t find funny or pretended to like music you couldn’t stand, all just to be part of the group.

But in the end, all this does is make you feel more alone because you’re not being true to yourself.

I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to be different. In fact, it’s more than okay – it’s wonderful! Your quirks and passions are what make you unique. So embrace them.

Don’t waste your time trying to fit into someone else’s mold. Be yourself, and the right people – the ones who appreciate and love the real you – will stick around.

And trust me, it’s better to have a few genuine friends than a crowd of acquaintances who don’t really know you.

8. Not getting enough sleep

This may surprise you, but there’s a fascinating link between sleep and loneliness.

According to a study by the University of California, Berkeley, lack of sleep can make you feel lonelier.

Why? Well, when we don’t get enough shut-eye, our brains aren’t as good at recognizing social cues and we’re more likely to isolate ourselves.

So, if you’re cutting back on sleep to binge-watch your favorite show or scroll through social media, it might be time to rethink your bedtime routine.

Make sure you’re getting the recommended 7-9 hours of sleep each night.

A good night’s sleep can do wonders for your mood and help reduce feelings of loneliness.

9. Avoiding new experiences

This one hits close to home for me.

For a long time, I was stuck in my comfort zone. I’d avoid trying new things because I was afraid of failure or embarrassment.

But all this did was limit my experiences and, to be honest, it made life a little boring.

One day, I decided to take the leap and try something new – a cooking class. I was terrible at first and even burnt my first dish! But you know what? It wasn’t as scary as I thought. In fact, it was fun!

Not only did I learn a new skill, but I also met some amazing people who shared my interest in cooking. It was a simple decision that helped me break away from loneliness.

Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Try that dance class you’ve been eyeing or go to that book club meeting. You never know where these new experiences might lead you. 

10. Believing you’re alone in feeling lonely

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you’re the only one feeling this way. But here’s the truth: everyone feels lonely sometimes. Yes, even those people who seem to have it all together.

Believing you’re alone in your loneliness only makes the feeling worse. It’s like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

But once you realize that loneliness is a universal experience, it can help take some of the sting out of it. You’re not alone in this. We all go through it.

Next time you’re feeling lonely, remind yourself that it’s just a feeling, not your reality. And like all feelings, it will pass. You’ve got this!

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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