Is there something holding you back from achieving your goals?
Maybe you’ve gotten tired of being held back and want to push through this mental block that you’ve created for yourself.
Today, let’s explore 7 examples of self-limiting beliefs and tips on how you can overcome them to finally pursue what you want.
1) I am not good enough.
When we’re faced with an insurmountable task, or something unfamiliar to us, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed.
We may be paralyzed by the sheer amount of things we have to learn and do to complete the task in front of us.
But remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. You may not have sufficient knowledge or skills now to get to where you want to be, but this doesn’t mean you’re not good enough.
All you need to do is take the first step and try. Put in the effort and watch as you grow in your abilities and confidence.
It’s never about not being good enough but rather, about how much you’re willing to put aside your anxieties and fear and try.
2) I end up failing anyway, so why bother?
None of us gets things right the first time. Unless of course, you’re extremely lucky.
Success takes time, and the road towards this is often marked by many instances of failure.
To put things into perspective, did you know that the well-loved children’s book author, Dr Seuss, had his first book rejected by 27 different publishers?
Sir James Dyson went through more than 5000 failed prototypes and years of savings before building the worldwide, best-selling vacuum brand. According to Forbes, he’s worth over 9 billion.
When you fail (and you will, again and again) turn these moments into learning opportunities. Diagnose the problem, identify what went wrong, and try again. But better, this time.
Trust me, it doesn’t get easier. But you will get one step closer to achieving what you want.
So get back up and try again.
3) There’s always someone better than me.
Let’s get something straight here. There will always be someone better than you.
There’ll always be someone smarter, faster, more imaginative, and overall, better.
And so what?
What matters is what you make of your talents and how you can use them to the best of your ability, to make a difference in this world. All in your own way.
So work on what you’re good at and stop comparing yourself to everyone else.
Don’t limit your potential by looking at others. Focus on yourself and watch as you get better, and thrive.
However, it’s good to have people as role models for you to emulate and gain inspiration from.
But don’t see them as roadblocks in your growth journey!
4) I need to be perfect.
Another tough pill to swallow is the idea that none of us are perfect, not even you.
As such, there’s no need to be perfect because it’s impossible to attain this.
You will mess up again and again, and this is very normal.
Don’t limit your ability to achieve your goals by setting impossible standards for yourself.
Striving for perfection can backfire. You may be so afraid to make mistakes that you’re paralyzed with indecision and doubt.
This can lead you to procrastinate and eventually, you may find that you’ve done nothing all this while. Just because you were so scared to make mistakes.
So, tell yourself that messing up is part of life. Remove those impossible standards you’ve set for yourself. Try to enjoy the process as well!
Sometimes we get so fixated on the end goal that we lose sight of the reason why we started in the first place.
5) I don’t deserve success.
You may have experienced trauma in the past from people or negative experiences that led you to believe this.
Maybe you did something wrong and you feel that because of this, you’re not worthy of happiness or success.
I’m here to tell you that everyone deserves a second chance. And you need to give yourself this second chance.
You may need to sit by yourself or with someone you trust to better understand the reason behind this belief.
It may require you to forgive, unlearn negative thought patterns, and learn how to trust yourself.
Once you’ve achieved a breakthrough in this, never forget that you’re worthy of everything – victory, success and happiness.
6) I’m too old/too young.
You’re never too old to start something new. So what if other people seem to have things figured out by a certain age?
Life doesn’t stop at 30, 40, or even 50 for that matter.
Likewise, you’re never too young to embark on something great.
While there will be people who may not take you seriously, or who would rather listen to someone much older/younger – don’t let them stop you from doing what you’re passionate about.
7) What would other people think of me?
Two words: who cares?
The truth is, everyone’s more concerned about themselves than they are about you.
However, as you journey through life, you will meet both well-intentioned and ill-intentioned people who will have a myriad of opinions about you and what you’re going through.
These comments may even come from the people you trust. Sometimes, it’s good to hear what they have to say. They may provide perspectives you’ve never considered before.
But there will also be times when you will receive nasty comments (maybe even behind your back) that will make you doubt yourself.
Don’t let these cloud your vision. Focus on your goal and press on.
You’ll never manage to please everyone, but the most important person you need to show up for and trust is yourself.
If you recognize that you have these self-limiting beliefs, don’t despair.
Our beliefs are shaped consciously and unconsciously by the experiences we’ve had and lessons we’ve learned throughout our lives.
It will take time to unlearn some of these and build your confidence back one step at a time.
Focus on your goals and put them where you can see them every day.
As you visualize yourself achieving them, your doubts will start to fade away and be replaced by a triumphant version of yourself at the finish line.