If you want to succeed in life but constantly feel like an imposter, say goodbye to these 6 habits

Ever feel like you’re just faking it, even though you’re doing well? You’re not alone. It’s called imposter syndrome.

Many of us struggle with this feeling. It’s like a roadblock standing between us and our goals, telling us we’re not good enough.

Trust me, I know. It’s like carrying around an invisible weight that only you can feel.

But what if I told you that the key to overcoming these feelings often lies in letting go, rather than adding more to your plate?

In this article, we’ll talk about 6 habits that you need to ditch if you want to succeed in life and stop feeling like an imposter.

Read on, and let’s journey together towards a more confident you.

1) Keeping yourself in the comparison trap

We all do it. We look at other people and think, “Why can’t I be like them?” But here’s the thing: Comparing yourself to others is like trying to measure your worth with a broken ruler. It’s not accurate, and it’s definitely not fair.

Everyone has their own unique journey, complete with ups and downs. Some people might seem like they have it all together, but remember, you only see what they choose to show you; in other words, you’re only seeing their highlight reel.

Success isn’t about being better than someone else, it’s about being the best version of yourself.

Not to mention, everyone has a different definition of what success looks like, so there’s no point in comparing your progress to others’ standards.

Instead of wasting your energy comparing yourself with others, learn to shift that intention back to you, your life, and your goal.

Focus on what matters to you and what you can control. The only person you should be comparing yourself to is the person you were yesterday.

I know it’s hard to change it, as we are so used to stretching ourselves thin to fit into society’s standards. But we can always start small.

Next time, when you catch yourself falling into the comparison trap, stop and ask yourself if that’s what matters to you.  Most of the time, you’ll be surprised by your own answers.

You are exactly where you need to be, and you are enough!

2) Ignoring your accomplishments

It’s easy to brush off your achievements and think, “Oh, it was nothing,” or “I just got lucky.” But doing this is like telling yourself that you don’t deserve to succeed.

Every accomplishment, no matter how big or small, is a testament to your hard work and dedication. Don’t downplay them.

Instead, take a moment to acknowledge your effort. Pat yourself on the back. Say it out loud, “I did a great job!”

By acknowledging your achievements, you’re reinforcing the belief that you are capable and competent. This helps silence the imposter syndrome and boosts your confidence.

It’s not just any pure luck, it’s you being awesome, and you need to believe it!

3) Not asking for help

Let me share a little story with you. A few years back, I was working on a project that was way over my head. Instead of reaching out and asking for help, I chose to struggle in silence. I was convinced that asking for help would reveal me as the imposter I believed I was.

Spoiler alert: It wasn’t a pleasant experience.

The truth is, everyone needs help sometimes. It doesn’t make you less competent or less worthy.

In fact, acknowledging that you don’t know everything and seeking guidance shows maturity and eagerness to learn.

After my experience, I learned that it’s okay to ask for assistance. Now, not only do I feel more confident in my abilities, but my relationships with my colleagues have also improved.

So, don’t be like the old me, struggling in silence. Ask for help when you need it. It’s not a sign of weakness, but a step towards growth and success.

4) Believing you’re not good enough

self doubt that might actually be signs of personal growth If you want to succeed in life but constantly feel like an imposter, say goodbye to these 6 habits

You have to be very conscious of what you choose to believe. Just like food that keeps your body healthy, your beliefs and thoughts are the food for your mind. You manifest what you believe. What you choose to believe, in most cases, turns out to be exactly that.

A simple example would be that if you believe you can’t, then you won’t.

But let me tell you something: Most of the time, it’s not the truth. It’s just fear trying to hold you back.

In the long run, this belief hinders your potential and keeps you from taking risks or seizing opportunities.

You need to distinguish the facts—what’s happening vs. what’s in your head, and then learn to turn down the volume of that negative voice in your head. 

It involves changing your perspective and learning to talk to yourself with kindness and understanding.

Instead of criticizing yourself, try to practice self-compassion. Acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes and that it’s okay not to be perfect all the time.

5) Underestimating your worth

We all have moments when we question our worth. We downplay our skills, thinking that they’re not good enough or that we’re not as capable as we should be. But here’s the heartfelt truth: You are invaluable.

Each of us brings a unique set of skills and perspectives to the table. Your experiences, your insights, your creativity – they all add up to make you who you are. And who you are is someone with great potential.

Take a moment to appreciate yourself. Appreciate your strengths and even your weaknesses because they make you human. Recognize the value you bring, and let it shine through in everything you do.

6) Fearing failure

A few years ago, I was offered a promotion at work. Instead of feeling excited, I was terrified. I was afraid of failing in my new role and confirming my imposter syndrome was right all along. So, I turned it down.

Looking back now, I realize that fear of failure held me back from an amazing opportunity. Failure isn’t something to be afraid of; it’s something to learn from.

It’s not the opposite of success; it’s a stepping stone towards it.

These days, I approach new opportunities with a different mindset. Yes, there’s a chance I might fail, but there’s also a chance that I might excel and grow in ways I never imagined.

So don’t let fear of failure keep you stuck in your comfort zone. Embrace it as part of your journey.

Every mistake is a lesson learned, and every setback is a setup for a comeback.

You’re stronger than your fears!

Final thoughts: It’s all about perspective

Overcoming impostor syndrome and achieving success in life is as much about changing your habits as it is about adjusting your perspective.

“What, like it’s hard?” – just like Elle Woods from Legally Blonde, you need to realize your self-worth and believe in your capabilities.

Approach every challenge with a grounded belief in yourself. It’s not that you’re not afraid to fall, but more like regardless of falling, you know you’ll bounce back and eventually perceive your own success.

If you’ve been struggling with feelings of impostor syndrome, remember that it’s not an indicator of your actual abilities or worth. It’s merely a distorted self-perception that can be altered.

By saying goodbye to the habits we’ve discussed, you’re not just embarking on a journey towards success.

You’re also taking steps towards fostering a healthier self-image and cultivating a more empowering outlook on life.

Take a moment to reflect on these words and let them sink in. Change starts from within. And that change begins with you.

Rachel La

Rachel La

I have always known that I love to write. I counted on writing to reflect on my own personal thoughts, feelings, and emotions. It's a great way to put all the wandering thoughts on paper and see how your point of view progresses. From what started out as a hobby, a tool to express my deepest thoughts and reflect on daily life, soon became much more once I found out just how magical words can be. What you feed your mind is laid on the words you put down when writing. The more consciously you choose your food for thought, the more it will enrich and flourish your life. Contact me: rachel.la0910@gmail.com

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