If you want to raise resilient and confident children, start modeling these 9 behaviors everyday

Raising resilient and confident children might seem like an overwhelming task. But the secret lies in our everyday behaviors.

Modeling is how we teach our children more about the world, and through our actions, they learn how to navigate their own lives.

If you’re keen on raising kids who are capable of facing challenges head-on and have an unwavering belief in themselves, there are 9 behaviors you need to incorporate into your daily routine.

This may sound like a tall order, but rest assured, these are simple behaviors that can make a world of difference.

Buckle up and dive in!

1) Show resilience

Raising resilient children begins with you demonstrating resilience in your daily life.

Kids learn by observing their parents, and when they see you handling life’s ups and downs with grace and perseverance, they are more likely to adopt these behaviors.

Life isn’t about avoiding challenges but about developing the strength and resilience to overcome them.

So when you stumble, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep going. Show your children that setbacks aren’t the end of the world, but opportunities for growth and learning.

By modeling resilience, you’re teaching your children a valuable life lesson: They’re more robust than any obstacle they encounter. And this is a lesson they’ll carry with them throughout their lives.

Being a parent isn’t always easy, but by showing resilience in the face of adversity, you’re shaping your child into a confident and resilient individual.

2) Practice what you preach

Children are like sponges, absorbing everything around them, especially the behaviors they see us modeling. This is why it’s crucial to practice what we preach.

I remember an instance when this lesson hit home for me. I was always telling my kids about the importance of honesty, yet one day, I found myself caught in a little white lie. I had told my son that we couldn’t go to the park because it was about to rain. The truth? I was tired and just wanted some downtime.

My son, being the smart cookie he is, pointed out that it was sunny outside. At that moment, I realized the inconsistency between my words and actions.

From then on, I made a conscious effort to align my actions with my words. If I expect honesty from my children, then they should see honesty from me.

Our children, despite their young ages, are watching us all the time. So let’s ensure that we’re setting the right example by practicing what we preach.

3) Encourage independence

Independence is a critical trait for resilience and confidence. It’s about teaching your child that they are capable and can handle things on their own.

However, encouraging independence doesn’t mean leaving your child to fend for themselves. It’s about providing them with the necessary tools and guidance, then stepping back to allow them to navigate on their own.

By doing this, you’re not only promoting self-reliance but also building their problem-solving skills and fostering a sense of accomplishment, all of which are crucial for developing resilience and confidence!

4) Embrace failure

Nobody likes failing, but it’s an unavoidable part of life. What matters more than the failure itself is how we respond to it.

Instead of framing failure as something negative, try to see it as a learning opportunity. Yes, your child may have stumbled, but what’s important is that they pick themselves up and try again.

When you embrace failure and treat it as part of the learning process, you’re teaching your child not to fear mistakes but to learn from them. This mindset is critical to building resilience and confidence!

Every successful person has faced failure at one point or another. The difference lies in how they reacted to it. By embracing failure, we’re teaching our children that it’s okay to make mistakes – what matters is that we learn and grow from them!

5) Encourage curiosity

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Curiosity is the fuel for learning and development. It’s what drives us to explore, discover, and ultimately understand the world around us.

By encouraging your child’s curiosity, you’re fostering a love for learning and an eagerness to seek knowledge. This not only boosts their confidence but also equips them with the tools to navigate life’s challenges.

How can you encourage curiosity?

Engage with your child’s questions, no matter how simple or complex they may seem. Create an environment where asking “why?” is celebrated.

Remember, curiosity didn’t kill the cat; it made it more intelligent and resilient. Let’s start encouraging curiosity in our children today!

6) Express love and affection

Love is the foundation of confidence. When children feel loved and cherished, they develop a strong sense of self-worth.

It’s crucial that our kids know, without a shadow of a doubt, that they are loved unconditionally!

This love becomes their safety net, allowing them to take risks and face challenges because they know they have a supportive base to fall back on.

Expressions of love can be as simple as a hug, a word of encouragement, or a quick “I love you” before they head off to school. These small gestures can make a big difference in your child’s life.

In the end, love is the greatest gift we can give our children. It’s the fuel that drives their confidence and resilience. Love is what will shape their personalities and build a foundation for self-love. 

Make sure our kids feel our love, each and every day!

7) Model healthy habits

I have to admit, there was a time when I didn’t prioritize my health as much as I should have. Long work hours, fast food meals, and lack of exercise became my norm.

One day, my daughter asked me why I always seemed tired and never had the energy to play with her. That question was a wake-up call for me.

From that moment on, I made a commitment to model healthier habits. Regular exercise, balanced meals, and adequate sleep became part of our routine.

I wanted my children to understand the importance of taking care of their health!

Today, my kids and I enjoy outdoor activities together, we cook healthy meals as a family, and ensure we get enough rest. This shift in lifestyle has not only improved our health but also brought us closer as a family.

8) Show respect and empathy

Respect and empathy are two fundamental values that form the basis of a resilient and confident individual.

Teaching your child to respect others, regardless of their differences, fosters an environment of acceptance and understanding. It’s about teaching them that every person has value and deserves to be treated with kindness.

Empathy, on the other hand, is about understanding and sharing the feelings of others. It’s a powerful trait that allows us to connect with people on a deeper level.

By embracing respect and empathy in our daily interactions, we’re teaching our children the importance of these values. And in doing so, we’re raising children who are not only resilient and confident but also compassionate and understanding!

9) Prioritize their emotional well-being

At the heart of resilience and confidence lies emotional well-being. It’s about teaching your child that their feelings matter and that it’s okay to express them.

Encourage open conversations about feelings in your home. Let your child know that it’s okay to feel sad, angry, or scared, and that these emotions don’t make them any less strong or capable.

Emotional well-being is not about suppressing emotions but about understanding and managing them. By prioritizing this in your child’s life, you’re equipping them with the emotional intelligence they need to navigate life’s ups and downs.

Final thoughts: It’s a journey

Raising resilient and confident children is more than a goal; it’s a journey. It’s about the everyday moments, the lessons taught and learned, and the love shared.

Each day provides us with an opportunity to model resilience, confidence, and a host of other values. It’s in our actions, our responses, our triumphs, and even our failures.

As parents, we have the unique privilege of shaping the next generation. And it begins with modeling the behaviors we hope to see in them.

So here’s to the journey of raising resilient and confident children – one day at a time!

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Eliza Hartley

Eliza Hartley, a London-based writer, is passionate about helping others discover the power of self-improvement. Her approach combines everyday wisdom with practical strategies, shaped by her own journey overcoming personal challenges. Eliza's articles resonate with those seeking to navigate life's complexities with grace and strength.

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