If you want to live the life you truly want, say goodbye to these 7 behaviors

We all aspire to live a life that reflects our true selves, don’t we? A life filled with passion, authenticity, and fulfillment. But often, we find ourselves stuck in patterns of behavior that hold us back from reaching this ideal.

I’ve been there. Trapped in the same cycles, repeating the same mistakes. But eventually, I realized that to live the life I truly wanted, I had to say goodbye to certain behaviors.

These behaviors were not serving me. In fact, they were preventing me from tapping into my creative potential, nurturing authentic relationships, and aligning my actions with my values.

Here are the 7 behaviors I had to let go of to live the life I truly wanted.

1) Living in fear of failure

Fear of failure is a common behavior that can paralyze us, preventing us from taking the necessary actions to achieve our dreams. It’s a destructive mindset that hinders creative thinking and breeds self-doubt.

I understand this fear all too well. It held me captive, whispering in my ear that every misstep was a catastrophe. I feared making mistakes, so I stayed in my comfort zone where it felt safe but stagnant.

But the truth is, failure is an integral part of growth and innovation. It’s through our mistakes that we learn, adapt, and evolve. Every setback, every challenge, is an opportunity to learn and grow.

So, instead of letting fear of failure dominate your actions, embrace it as a stepping stone to growth and learning. Remember, every challenge contains within it the seeds of creative possibility.

Say goodbye to living in fear of failure. Step into courage and watch how your life changes.

2) Allowing external circumstances to control your life

It’s easy to point fingers. To blame external circumstances or other people for our problems. I used to do that too, playing the victim, allowing external factors to dictate my life’s direction.

However, I came to understand that true empowerment comes from within. It’s about taking full responsibility for our own lives, focusing on what we can control—our attitudes, actions, and responses.

External circumstances may influence us, but they don’t define us. Our response to these circumstances is what truly matters.

As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” It’s time to take back control. Say goodbye to the blame game and embrace personal responsibility. Remember, you are the author of your own life story.

3) Accepting societal conditioning without question

Society often imposes beliefs and values on us that may not align with our true selves. I’ve been there—accepting these impositions without questioning, feeling disconnected from my own authenticity.

However, breaking free from this conditioning is possible, and it’s a journey I’ve found profoundly transformative. This journey is made easier with guidance, which is why I highly recommend the “Free Your Mind” masterclass with the shaman Rudá Iandê.

In this masterclass, Rudá Iandê dismantles common spiritual myths and helps you develop a personal cosmovision. You’ll learn how to align your actions with your core values, leading to greater mental clarity and emotional resilience.

This isn’t just a masterclass—it’s an invitation to embrace your true potential. It’s about shifting your mindset from frustration and guilt to love and acceptance. It’s an opportunity to say goodbye to societal conditioning and step into your authentic self.

Ready for a transformative journey? Check out the masterclass here and start embracing your true nature.

4) Disregarding your personal values

In our quest to fit in or succeed, we sometimes disregard our personal values. We make decisions that don’t resonate with our true selves, prioritizing societal expectations over our own authenticity.

I’ve been guilty of this—chasing after external validation while neglecting what truly mattered to me. But as I journeyed through the “Free Your Mind” masterclass, I realized the importance of aligning my actions with my core values.

Neglecting your personal values can lead to feelings of emptiness and disconnection. It’s like trying to navigate a ship without a compass—you’ll ultimately feel lost, even if you reach your destination.

Your values are your compass. They guide you towards meaningful decisions and authentic relationships. When you disregard them, you risk losing sight of who you truly are.

So, ask yourself—Are the actions and decisions you’re making truly aligned with your values? Or are you disregarding them to meet external expectations? It’s time for some honest reflection.

5) Focusing solely on individual success

In a society that often prioritizes individual success, it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that our accomplishments are the sole markers of our worth. But this notion is not only limiting—it’s isolating.

I used to believe that success was a solo endeavor.

But I’ve come to understand the profound importance of supportive communities and authentic relationships. Our connections with others provide us with the courage to pursue our dreams, the resilience to overcome challenges, and the joy of shared experiences.

The truth is, none of us can thrive alone. We grow and prosper in the context of our relationships with others. By focusing solely on individual success, we overlook the richness and growth that comes from being part of a community.

6) Avoiding confrontation with your fears

Confronting our fears and challenging our limiting beliefs is often uncomfortable. It’s tempting to avoid these uncomfortable feelings and retreat into the safety of the known. I’ve been there—succumbing to fear, letting it dictate my decisions.

However, I’ve learned that growth and transformation lie on the other side of fear. By doing the inner work to confront our fears and challenge our limiting beliefs, we unlock our true potential.

Avoiding confrontation with your fears keeps you stuck in your comfort zone, preventing you from fully expressing your creativity and authenticity. But when you choose to face your fears, you invite personal growth and transformation.

7) Treating money as just a means to an end

We often view money solely as a means to an end—a tool for acquiring goods and services. This perspective can lead us to make financial decisions that are not aligned with our values or contribute positively to the world.

I used to see money in this way too. But over time, I’ve come to understand that money is more than just a tool—it’s a vote for the kind of world we want to live in.

Treating money as just a means to an end can lead us to neglect its potential for positive change. By aligning our financial decisions with our deepest values, we can use money as a powerful tool for good.

In pursuit of the life you truly want, always keep in mind—money is not just about personal prosperity. It’s also about ethical participation in the economy and contributing to a more just and sustainable future.

Embracing the journey towards authenticity

In this article, we’ve journeyed through the 7 behaviors that often hold us back from living the life we truly desire. We’ve confronted the fear of failure, taken responsibility for our actions, and acknowledged the importance of aligning our decisions with our deepest values.

We’ve learned that societal conditioning and individualistic success are not the only paths towards fulfillment. By embracing our fears, challenging our limiting beliefs, and fostering authentic relationships, we can unlock deeper self-awareness and genuine freedom.

This journey towards authenticity and personal freedom is not an easy one—it requires courage, self-reflection, and a willingness to confront uncomfortable truths. But it’s a journey worth taking.

For those ready to delve deeper into these principles, I highly recommend the free “Free Your Mind” masterclass with Rudá Iandê. This masterclass, which I helped produce, is designed to help you transcend limiting beliefs and societal conditioning.

Rudá Iandê guides participants through exercises that dismantle common spiritual myths and foster personal cosmovision.

Participating in this masterclass can provide you with the tools to align your actions with your core values, leading to greater mental clarity and emotional resilience.

Ready to embrace your authentic self and live the life you truly desire? Check out the masterclass here and start your journey towards authenticity and freedom today.