If you want to gain more confidence as you get older, say goodbye to these behaviors

Ageing comes with wisdom, but sometimes, it can also bring along certain behaviors that chip away at our confidence.

The key to growing confidence as you age is about letting go of these behaviors. It’s not about trying to turn back the hands of time, but recognizing what’s holding you back and choosing to let it go.

In this article, I’m going to share 7 behaviors that you need to kick to the curb if you want to be more confident as you get older. You’ll find that saying goodbye to these habits isn’t about losing yourself but instead, becoming the best version of you.

Let’s dive in.

1) Letting others define you

As we age, we often fall into the trap of letting other people’s opinions and expectations define who we are.

Whether it’s the societal pressure to “act your age”, or the expectations of our friends and family about how we should live our lives, it’s easy to let these external factors shape our self-perception.

But confidence comes from within. It comes from knowing who you are, embracing it, and not letting anyone else define you.

To grow more confident as you get older, it’s crucial to say goodbye to this behavior. Don’t let anyone else dictate who you are or what you can do.

Your life is your own. You get to decide how to live it and age shouldn’t deprive your joy in life.

Get rid of this habit isn’t about disregarding the opinion of others completely, but rather recognizing that your own self-perception should be the one that matters most.

2) Fear of taking risks

I’ll be the first to admit that as I’ve gotten older, I’ve become more cautious. The stakes seem higher, and I often find myself avoiding risks that I would have jumped at in my younger years.

But here’s something I’ve learned: Avoiding risks doesn’t safeguard you against failure, it just prevents you from experiencing potential success.

I remember when I was offered a chance to take on a project well outside my usual scope of work. It was intimidating and the fear of failure was real. But instead of retreating into my comfort zone, I took the plunge.

The project was challenging. There were times when I questioned my decision, but in the end, it paid off. The feeling of accomplishment and the boost in my confidence was well worth the risk.

The moral of the story? Don’t allow fear to hold you back, embrace opportunities that come your way. Eventually, it’s not about avoiding risks but learning to manage them effectively to grow our confidence.

3) Sticking to old routines

Human beings are creatures of habit. We find comfort in familiarity and routine. But did you know that sticking to the same old routine can actually hinder your confidence?

When we break out of our comfort zones and challenge ourselves, we not only expand our horizons but also build self-esteem. As we navigate life, sometimes, it’s easy to fall into a rut and stick to what we know. But to gain more confidence, it’s important to shake things up a bit. Try a new hobby, learn a new skill, or even just change up your daily routine.

Breaking free from old routines isn’t about disrupting your life completely, but about embracing change and growth. Keep an open mindset and always willing to try new experience. This habit not only helps to boost your confidence but also keeps your soul young!

4) Negative self-talk

We all have that inner voice that can either be our greatest cheerleader or our fiercest critic. Unfortunately, as we age, that voice tends to lean more towards criticism.

Negative self-talk can be a huge confidence killer. It’s the voice that tells you you’re not good enough, not smart enough, or simply not capable.

But here’s the thing – that voice is not telling the truth. You are capable and competent in your own unique way.

To gain more confidence as you age, it’s essential to silence this negative self-talk. Start focusing on your strengths rather than your shortcomings!

Remember to be kind to yourself. You wouldn’t berate a friend for their perceived flaws, so don’t do it to yourself.

Saying goodbye to negative self-talk is about changing how you speak to yourself. Replace those negative thoughts with positive affirmations and watch your confidence soar.

5) Comparing yourself to others

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In this age of social media, it’s incredibly easy to start comparing our lives to those of others. This comparison game, however, is a surefire way to chip away at your self-confidence.

Everyone is on their own unique journey. The milestones and accomplishments of others aren’t a measuring stick for your own success.

Plus, you’re only getting a peek at what they decide to show.  All that fancy, glitzy life stuff you see people posting on social media? That’s just a tip of an iceberg of what’s going on with them.

That’s why it’s important to stop comparing ourselves to others. It’s unfair and illogic to compare your entire life against just a piece of what you see from others (especially when you can’t even be sure those bits are the real deal).

Instead, focus on your own progress and celebrate your own accomplishments! Shift your focus to you and have trust in your timing.

Embrace your own unique journey, then you’ll not only grow in leaps and bounds but also find your inner peace. 

6) Fear of being seen as ‘old’

I remember feeling my anxiety ramping up every year my birthday comes around. Isn’t it just me or birthdays just aren’t the same thrill once you passed your twenties? But for me, it was a stark reminder that I was getting older, and it rattled me more than I care to admit.

Society often portrays ageing as something to be feared or avoided. But the truth is, getting older is not a downfall. It’s a testament to the life you’ve lived, the experiences you’ve had, and the wisdom you’ve gained.

This fear of being seen as ‘old’ can really take a toll on your confidence. But it’s important to remember that age is just a number. It doesn’t define your worth or your abilities.

To gain more confidence as you age, it’s essential to embrace your age rather than fear it. Celebrate your wisdom, experience, and the unique perspective that comes with age.

Overcoming this fear isn’t just going to pump up your confidence, but also allowing you to fully enjoy the journey of growing older!

7) Dwelling on past mistakes

We all have moments from our past that we wish we could change. Mistakes that we’ve made or opportunities that we’ve missed. As we grow, we have more regrets, it’s easier to dwell on these past missteps.

However, constantly reliving our mistakes doesn’t serve us well. It keeps us stuck in the past and can significantly hinder our confidence.

To gain more confidence as you get older, it’s important to let go of past mistakes. Learn from them, of course, but don’t let them define you.

Every mistake is a learning opportunity. It’s a chance to grow and improve. What’s done is done, so rather than beating yourself up for what happened in the past, focus on the present and the future.

Let go of what’s beyond your control and shift your energy to what you can change today!

Final thoughts: Embrace the journey

The journey of growing is truly unique and deeply personal, filled with its own challenges, changes, and triumphs.

One constant through this journey is the potential for growth – growth in wisdom, experience and yes, confidence.

Getting rid of certain behaviors isn’t about losing a part of ourselves but rather embracing a more confident version of who we are. It’s about letting go of what hinders us and welcoming what empowers us.

As you navigate through the later stages of your life, remember that confidence comes from within. It’s about recognizing your worth, celebrating your achievements, and most importantly, believing in yourself!

So here’s to aging – not as a decline – but as a journey towards greater confidence. After all, the best is yet to come.

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Rachel La

I have always known that I love to write. I counted on writing to reflect on my own personal thoughts, feelings, and emotions. It's a great way to put all the wandering thoughts on paper and see how your point of view progresses. From what started out as a hobby, a tool to express my deepest thoughts and reflect on daily life, soon became much more once I found out just how magical words can be. What you feed your mind is laid on the words you put down when writing. The more consciously you choose your food for thought, the more it will enrich and flourish your life. Contact me: rachel.la0910@gmail.com

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