If you want to feel more respected as you get older, say goodbye to these 9 habits

Feeling respected as you age isn’t always a given. Sometimes, it’s about the habits we’ve formed over the years that can hinder the respect we gain from others.

It’s not about changing who you are, but rather bidding farewell to certain habits that may be standing in your way.

I’m here to share with you nine habits that, if left unchecked, can diminish the respect you receive as you get older.

Ready to feel more esteemed and respected?

Let’s dive in.

1) Negativity

We’ve all encountered that person who seems to always see the glass half empty. Over time, constant negativity can wear on those around us and chip away at the respect they have for us.

As we get older, it’s easy to slip into a pattern of complaining or focusing on the negatives. But if respect is what you’re after, it’s time to say goodbye to this habit.

Being aware of your attitude and making a conscious effort to maintain positivity can significantly impact how others perceive you.

It’s not about pretending that everything is perfect, but about having a balanced perspective that acknowledges the good along with the bad.

The more positivity you exude, the more respect you’ll command. It’s a simple but powerful change that can make all the difference.

2) Being dismissive of others’ opinions

I’ve learned this one the hard way. When I was younger, I used to be quick to dismiss others’ thoughts and ideas if they didn’t align with my own. I thought it showed that I was confident and knowledgeable.

Over time, however, I realized that this habit was doing more harm than good. People started perceiving me as arrogant and closed-minded. The respect I thought I was earning was actually dwindling.

I’ve since made a conscious effort to listen more and to genuinely consider other people’s perspectives. It was a challenge at first, but the change in how people responded to me was immediate and profound.

When we value others’ opinions, it shows that we respect them, and in turn, they are more likely to respect us. So, if you’re like me and have a habit of dismissing others too quickly, it might be time to let that habit go. It’s an adjustment, but trust me, it’s worth it.

3) Over-promising and under-delivering

When we consistently fail to deliver on our promises, it can quickly erode the trust and respect that others have for us. In fact, a study from the University of California found that people who under-promise and over-deliver are generally more respected and valued, both in professional and personal settings.

So, if you have a habit of promising the moon but only delivering a star, it might be time to reevaluate. It’s better to be honest about what you can do, and then impress by going above and beyond when possible.

This shift might take some getting used to, but the impact on your perceived reliability and respectability can be significant.

4) Avoiding responsibility

We all make mistakes, it’s part of being human. But what sets respected individuals apart is their willingness to take responsibility for their errors.

If you have a habit of blaming others or making excuses when things go wrong, you might find that respect from others is hard to come by.

People admire those who can admit they’ve messed up and then take steps to rectify the situation. It shows integrity, humility, and courage.

If you want to feel more respected as you get older, start owning your mistakes. It won’t be easy, but the respect you’ll gain will be worth it.

5) Gossiping

Gossip can feel like a harmless way to connect with others, but it’s a habit that can seriously undermine respect.

When you gossip, you send a message that you can’t be trusted with confidential information. It also shows a lack of respect for the people you’re gossiping about.

Making a conscious effort to avoid gossip, and to steer conversations towards more positive and respectful topics, can significantly improve how you are perceived by others.

If someone is willing to gossip with you, they’re probably willing to gossip about you. So, say goodbye to this habit and watch your respectability grow.

6) Ignoring the feelings of others

We all crave understanding and empathy. When someone dismisses our feelings, it can be incredibly hurtful.

If you’re in the habit of brushing off the feelings of others, it might be time to rethink this approach. It’s essential to recognize and validate the emotions of those around you, even if you don’t fully understand them.

Showing empathy fosters deeper connections and mutual respect. It tells people that you value their emotions and perspectives.

Saying goodbye to this habit might involve stepping out of your comfort zone, but the respect and appreciation you’ll receive in return will be immeasurable.

7) Being overly defensive

There was a time when I would get defensive at the slightest hint of criticism. I thought it was a way to protect myself, but in reality, it was pushing people away and preventing me from growing.

Being overly defensive can be off-putting to others and can chip away at their respect for you. It gives the impression that you’re not open to feedback and that you believe you’re always right.

Welcoming constructive criticism and using it as a tool for self-improvement is a sign of maturity and self-confidence. It shows that you value growth and are willing to learn from your mistakes.

It’s not an easy habit to break, but once you do, you’ll find that people respect you more for your openness and humility.

8) Being late

Punctuality is a sign of respect. When we’re consistently late, it sends the message that we value our own time more than that of others.

If you’re regularly running behind schedule, you might be unknowingly eroding the respect others have for you. It can come across as a disregard for their time and commitments.

Making an effort to be on time, or even early, shows that you respect others and their time. It’s a small change, but it can have a big impact on how you’re perceived.

If you want to increase the respect you receive as you age, try saying goodbye to tardiness. You’ll be surprised at the difference it can make.

9) Not setting boundaries

Setting clear boundaries is perhaps the most critical aspect of gaining respect. It shows that you value yourself and your needs, and are not afraid to communicate them.

If you’re in the habit of letting people cross your boundaries, you might find that others struggle to respect you. It can send a message that you don’t respect yourself enough to protect your own wellbeing.

Learning to set and maintain boundaries can significantly increase the respect you receive from others. It might be challenging at first, but the benefits to your self-esteem and the respect you gain from others are well worth it.

Final thought: It’s about growth

The journey towards being more respected as you age isn’t simply about ditching certain habits. Look deeper, and it’s about personal growth and self-improvement.

Think about it. Each habit you say goodbye to allows you to grow and evolve in ways that command respect from others. From embracing positivity to setting firm boundaries, each change is a step towards becoming a better version of yourself.

And here’s something to remember: respect isn’t something that is given, but something that is earned. It’s an ongoing process that requires effort, patience, and above all, authenticity.

As you continue to grow and evolve, keep these habits in mind. The respect you gain will be a testament to the person you’ve become.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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