If you want to feel more motivated and driven as you get older, say goodbye to these 7 behaviors

Are you feeling like you’ve lost your get-up-and-go lately? 

It’s like you want to get out there and do big things but you can’t find the motivation. You’re definitely not alone.

It’s pretty common to feel a bit stuck when life gets busy and you’re juggling a lot. Finding time to focus on yourself and your goals is easier said than done.

But here’s some good news: you might have more control over that sluggish feeling than you think. 

There are a bunch of everyday habits that could be quietly draining your drive and motivation, and you might not even notice it. 

Today, we’re going to point out these sneaky culprits, explain why they’re tripping you up, and give you some straightforward tips to kick them to the curb.

Ready to find out which of these habits you might be stuck in and how to shake them off? Let’s dive in and get your motivation on track.

1) Procrastinating

We’re all guilty of putting off important things, right? Procrastination is something that plagues all of us at one time or another.

But what you might not know is that procrastination is bad for more than just your motivation and productivity; it’s got some real physical and mental side effects, too. 

Studies show that putting things off can lead to depression, anxiety, stress, poor sleep quality, and even loneliness.

It’s no wonder you don’t feel motivated and driven when you’re in the habit of procrastinating. 

It’s definitely time to wave goodbye to that behavior. And there are some simple ways you can do it.

One of my favorite hacks comes from motivational expert Mel Robbins. She calls it The 5-Second Rule

Basically, anytime you feel tempted to procrastinate, you count down from 5 and then just do the hard thing. 

Remember, to really feel motivated and driven, you need to act first, motivation follows action, not the other way around. 

It’s time to stop putting things off and start taking control of your drive.

2) Negative self-talk

You know that little voice in your head; how does it talk to you? 

If it’s not being kind, you might be dealing with negative self-talk, and believe it or not, that’s a big deal when it comes to staying motivated because our brains believe everything we tell them. 

Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right.” This highlights just how powerful our internal dialogues are. 

If you’re always telling yourself that you’re not good enough or that you always mess up, it’s no surprise if you find your motivation at rock bottom.

It’s time to flip the script and start talking to yourself like you would to a friend. Be encouraging, supportive, and forgiving. 

This small shift can make a huge difference. Watch as your motivation and drive start to soar when you become your own biggest cheerleader.

3) Holding grudges

Are you the type of person who holds a grudge?

It might feel like doing so gives you some satisfaction and power back. But in reality, it doesn’t work that way.

Forbes writer and psychotherapist Bryan Robson, Ph.D., explains just how impactful holding grudges can really be;

Research shows harboring resentment erodes your mental and physical health, consuming your thoughts, keeping the hurt at the center of your daily activities, weighing you down and depleting energy that could be channeled into more positive and creative directions.”

Forgiveness, on the other hand, is incredibly beneficial. It’s not just about letting someone else off the hook; it’s about freeing yourself of the mental clutter to focus on what truly matters. 

I’ve fallen into the trap of holding a grudge. 

It was against someone I fell out with in my college days. I held onto it for about 7 years before finally letting it go. And I wish I’d done it sooner. 

It’s about time you let go of old grudges too, right?

Embrace the power of forgiveness. It’ll free up some energy and help you find the motivation to work toward whatever your heart desires.

4) Not exercising

high achievers morning habits 1 If you want to feel more motivated and driven as you get older, say goodbye to these 7 behaviors

If there’s one thing we all know is great for us, it’s getting in some good old exercise. 

There’s a boatload of research backing up how awesome it is for both our bodies and our minds.

Here’s the cool part: it can seriously ramp up your motivation too. 

When you get moving, your body starts pumping out endorphins. These are the little feel-good chemicals that boost your mood and your motivation too.

And let’s be real: sticking to a regular workout routine isn’t always easy. Sometimes, the last thing you want to do is lace up those sneakers. 

Pushing through that resistance can remind you that often, just starting is enough to get your drive engaged. 

Master this with your workouts, and you’ll soon apply it to other parts of life. Don’t brush off what you know deep down: exercising has endless benefits. 

It sharpens your body, clears your mind, and lifts your spirits, all while firing up your motivation. 

5) Keeping your goals in your head 

When it comes to cranking up your motivation and drive, one of the biggest game-changers for me was getting my goals out of my head and onto paper.

Just doing this simple thing made a huge difference. Suddenly, I felt a surge of motivation to get up and chase those goals. 

And it’s not just a personal win; research backs this up, showing that you’re 42% more likely to achieve your goals just by writing them down.

So, what are you aiming for right now? When do you want to hit those targets? 

Why not take a moment to jot down a few key details and put them somewhere you can see every day? 

This visual reminder helps keep you focused and fired up every single day.

6) Having a fixed mindset

How do you view challenges? As impenetrable roadblocks or as chances to learn, conquer, and improve? 

Your answer might reveal more about your mindset than you think.

One of the secrets to boosting your motivation and drive is making the shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset

Carol Dweck, motivation expert, and researcher introduced the “growth mindset,” and found that people with this outlook are more likely to embrace challenges and persevere through setbacks.

And what is at the root of all of these things? Motivation and drive to persist and try again. 

Living with a fixed mindset, believing that abilities and talents are set in stone, can really hold you back from pursuing and achieving what you want in life. 

By working towards developing a growth mindset, you’ll start to see challenges as opportunities and setbacks as lessons, lighting up your path in a whole new way. 

This shift can dramatically transform your motivation levels and open up a world of possibilities.

7) Failing to network

When you’re feeling low on motivation and drive, it’s tough to push yourself to do much of anything, isn’t it?

Sometimes, what you really need is a spark of inspiration. And where better to find that than through networking? 

Engaging with others and diving into interesting conversations can be the perfect way to light that spark and fuel your motivation to start a new project or chase a new goal.

I’ve seen the impact of networking firsthand. Even on an ordinary day, a virtual coffee chat with someone I met at a recent networking event can make a huge difference. 

After these conversations, I always come away feeling incredibly re-energized and ready to tackle more.

If you’re really serious about reigniting that drive, it’s time to start networking and putting yourself out there. 

You’ll be amazed at how much it can boost your motivation.

The bottom line

So there you have it! You hold the power to boost your motivation by simply waving goodbye to the behaviors we’ve outlined today. It’s all in your hands.

Start making these changes, and watch as your drive and zest for life make a major comeback. 

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Cat Harper

Cat is an experienced Sales and Enablement professional turned writer whose passions span from psychology and relationships to continuous self-improvement, lifelong learning and pushing back on societal expectations to forge a life she loves. An avid traveler and adventure sports enthusiast, in her downtime you'll find Cat snowboarding, motorcycling or working on her latest self-development project.

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