If you want to be taken seriously as an adult, say goodbye to these 8 behaviors

Being recognized as an adult means doing grown-up things, but what exactly does that entail? 

Well, some of them involve saving for a rainy day, pursuing your goals, and taking care of your responsibilities. 

Those are a few of the obvious things that we’re expected to do, but that doesn’t always mean that you’re seen as mature. 

Your behaviors are major determinants of whether you’re respected and seen as an adult. 

The way you respond in an argument or deal with a challenging relationship reveals a lot more about your maturity than whether you’re paying your bills on time. 

The good news is that if you want to be taken seriously as an adult, say goodbye to these 8 behaviors that are holding you back. It might be an ongoing work in progress, but it’s definitely a step in the right direction. 

Let’s start unpacking. 

1) Not keeping your ego in check

Have you been told to quit being a jerk? Maybe you’re seen as a bit of a “clown” because you like to have fun, and I get that we all need to let loose once in a while, but when you become obnoxious, loud, and demeaning, there’s a big problem. 

You can have a humorous personality; there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. What I’m talking about is using other people to make your point or talking over others by getting loud because you want attention.

Attention seekers are seen as children who throw tantrums because they want everything their way. 

I don’t know of anyone who likes an “attention seeker.” 

If this is you, it’s time to manage your ego by being mindful of others. Don’t manipulate people or situations to get your way, much like a child would.  

Think about your responses, even when you get upset, and find your inner strength and power from a position of self-assurance rather than your ego. You’ll be surprised at how others change their attitudes toward you. 

2) Being irresponsible

We definitely can’t mention maturity without including responsibility. Acting like a responsible adult is at the forefront of what it means to be respected as an adult, but what does this mean? 

It means focusing on accountability by not blaming others for your mistakes. It’s also about being willing to accept responsibility for your life, which requires hard work and dedication without always expecting the easy way out. 

If you want your family and friends to see you as a wise and mature individual, be proactive with the decisions that you make. 

Why don’t we look at an example? 

You’re finding it really hard to get by on your paycheck, but you know that if you complete a specific course to improve your skills, you stand a chance of being promoted, and that guarantees a higher salary. 

Even if you don’t get the promotion, the program still gives you a significant advantage in moving up the career ladder. 

But you keep procrastinating, and you delay taking the course for fear of failure, so it never gets done. You stay in the same position, relying on your family for help when you feel the end-of-month pinch. 

By going out on a limb and seeking opportunities to improve your situation, even if they don’t always work out, you show maturity and determination. Both are admirable traits. 

If you want to be considered an adult, be responsible in all areas of your life. 

3) Constantly lying

We’re all guilty of telling a little white lie when we think that we’re protecting someone’s feelings or interests, but when these lies become frequent and unnecessary, the last thing you’re seen as is mature. 

Heard the phrase, “Honesty is the best policy?” 

It certainly rings true here. If you can’t be seen as an honest person, there’s no chance you’ll be taken seriously as an adult. 

You might believe that the occasional lie isn’t harming anyone, but when the people you lie to find out, and it happens more than once, they start questioning your credibility

The situation is best likened to that of a child who continuously tells insignificant or silly lies to get their way or avoid getting into trouble. 

Being honest with yourself and with someone you care about is not easy, but rather than trying to hide from the truth, take responsibility. 

It’s one of the first steps to being recognized as an honest and reliable person. 

4) Taking advantage of relationships

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This is a tough one, and if you’re confused as to why I’ve included it, I’m here to break down why it’s a necessary mention. 

When you look at someone who loves freely yet responsibly and doesn’t let their ego get in the way of their relationship, I’m sure you see a strong and mature person. 

In contrast, someone who breaks hearts and cannot take responsibility for their actions in a relationship is never seen as a confident adult

Most of us have experienced heartache and turmoil in relationships, but if you treat someone else poorly by trying to control or being dismissive of them, you can’t expect a lasting and rewarding partnership. 

Adulthood is about having the courage to be vulnerable in relationships and realizing that some paths work out and others don’t. 

It’s about understanding how to set healthy boundaries so the other person knows how to treat you. Doing the work by opening the channels of communication and respecting someone else’s feelings will go a long way toward changing someone’s perception of you. 

5) Being late

There is no chance of ever being taken seriously as an adult if you can never be on time. 

I’m not only talking about your job. 

Agreeing to meet with friends or family for a celebratory event or catch-up dinner and showing up late is disrespectful. 

It shows them that you’re unreliable and take your relationships for granted. 

Adults make an effort to be punctual because they’re aware that it creates a positive and lasting impression. 

If you aren’t good at keeping track of dates and events, set an alarm and give yourself enough time to prepare to reach your destination. 

The more punctual you are, the more you’re seen as a responsible person who can be trusted and taken seriously

6) Failing to dress like a boss

Dress for who you want to be and what you want in life. While nobody likes to place too much emphasis on the way they look, there’s no denying the role it plays in creating a specific impression. 

When you put time and effort into the way you dress, people notice you. 

Your choice of fashion communicates your personal story and surprisingly, is linked to personal performance. 

Think about this. 

In the workplace, people who dress smartly are generally respected based on first impressions. If you show up in sloppy attire or fail to dress appropriately for your age, how can someone take you seriously? 

If their initial perception is that you can’t put effort into your appearance, how can you put effort into anything else? 

They just end up treating you differently. 

So iron out those creases, shine up those shoes, and put some effort into clean lines and matching attire if you want to be recognized as an adult. 

7) Passing your problems on to someone else

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When you’re young and unsure of yourself, you let your parents or your friends resolve your problems for you. But as an adult, it’s time to fight your own battles, however hard they might be. 

If you want to be seen as independent and mature, then you can’t pass your problems on to someone else. 

We’ve got to be aware of our emotions and establish our values to help us figure out how to resolve conflict along the way. 

There’s no harm in asking a friend or parent for advice, particularly if they have experience in the matter, but don’t use them as a crutch. 

In a romantic relationship, this type of behavior can completely change the dynamic. 

If your partner sees you as managing your responsibilities or issues in an insecure and childlike way, it might change their perception of you. 

When you struggle with conflict, it’s a good idea to work on your confidence and find help from professionals who can teach you the skills and tools you need to manage problems on your own.  

8) Lacking assertiveness

Many don’t realize it, but confidence and assertiveness are important aspects of adulthood. 

When you’re seen as assertive, you’re not bossy or inconsiderate but confident and capable of standing up for your values and standards. You don’t force your opinions on people who disagree with your viewpoints, which is a critical part of being treated like an adult.

People respect you for it. 

And as a bonus, with assertiveness comes confidence. This allows you to maturely handle your responses when your beliefs or arguments differ from someone else’s. 

What if, at this stage in your life, you aren’t assertive, and you don’t know how to get there? 

It starts with looking within and learning about what’s valuable to you. 

Ask yourself. 

What are the standards that I want to live by, and how do they guide my purpose? These questions help develop your identity, and when you know who you are and what you stand for, you become more confident. 

Remember that the way you present yourself will influence others’ perceptions of you. 

I’m not only talking about your attire but also your attitude and behavior because every part of you communicates who you are. 

Things that you may not be aware of or take for granted, like always being truthful and working on your goals, are important when you want to be treated like a mature and respected person

Be aware of the unhelpful behaviors that are preventing you from being taken seriously as an adult because only with awareness can you make powerful and rewarding changes. 

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Marcel Deer

Marcel is a journalist, gamer, and entrepreneur. When not obsessing over his man cave or the latest tech, he’s failing helplessly at training his obnoxious rescue dog ‘Boogies’.

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