If you really want to be in a committed relationship, be honest about these 12 things

Does the thought of a committed relationship bring a smile to your face or a sense of apprehension?

After all, committed relationships are a whole different ball game, aren’t they?

They demand more from us, require us to be more open, more vulnerable.

But the magic ingredient, the one thing that stands out in every successful long-term relationship, is honesty.

Sounds simple, right? But you’ll be surprised at how many of us shy away from complete honesty when it comes to certain aspects of our lives.

So, what exactly should you be honest about if you’re looking for a committed relationship?

Let’s find out together!

1) Your past

Your past is a significant part of who you are today.

It shapes your character, influences your behavior, and often impacts your approach to relationships.

Honesty about your past is crucial because it allows your partner to understand your journey, your struggles, and your victories.

This doesn’t mean you need to share every tiny detail, but significant events that have impacted you should be discussed.

In a nutshell, it helps your partner know the real you, beyond the surface.

2) Your emotional baggage

Everyone carries some form of emotional baggage. It could be from past relationships, childhood experiences, or past trauma.

No one is exempt, and guess what? That’s completely okay.

It becomes a problem only when it’s not addressed and affects your current relationship.

Being honest about your emotional baggage with your partner is important because it fosters understanding and empathy.

It allows your partner to provide the right kind of support and helps them comprehend why certain things might trigger you.

Remember: It’s all about creating a safe space where vulnerabilities are respected.

3) Your future goals

Sharing your dreams and aspirations might seem like an obvious point, right?

But it’s surprising how many couples fail to discuss their future goals thoroughly.

It could be career-oriented, such as aspirations of starting your own business or furthering your education, or personal goals like travel plans or desires to have a family.

Being upfront about your future goals is essential in a committed relationship because it helps ensure that both you and your partner are moving in the same direction.

It fosters teamwork and joint planning, which is a cornerstone of any strong, committed relationship.

4) Your boundaries

Every individual has their unique boundaries—limits that they do not want others to cross. 

These could be related to personal space, social interactions, or even specific topics of conversation.

Being honest about your boundaries in a relationship is necessary to prevent misunderstandings and resentment.

It ensures that both parties feel respected and comfortable.

So, don’t shy away from sharing your boundaries.

Your partner isn’t a mind reader, after all, and it’s crucial they know what’s okay and what isn’t for you.

5) Your needs

Honesty about your needs, both physical and emotional, is vital in a committed relationship.

Are you someone who requires a lot of alone time? Or do you need regular words of affirmation from your partner?

Whatever your needs may be, expressing them openly to your partner prevents feelings of unfulfillment or neglect.

It can be a bit scary to open up about your needs, but remember, understanding and meeting each other’s needs is key to a happy and thriving relationship.

6) Your financial situations

Money can often be a tricky topic in relationships, but maintaining financial transparency is crucial.

Your financial situation can impact many aspects of your shared life, from the lifestyle you can afford to your future plans. By being honest about your finances, including your debts, savings, or financial goals, you can prevent future conflicts and build a foundation of financial trust in your relationship. It’s all about being a team, even when it comes to money.

7) Your family dynamics

Like it or not, when you’re in a committed relationship, your partner becomes a part of your family, and vice versa.

So, it’s only fair that they understand the dynamics of your family.

Whether you’re extremely close to your siblings, have a strained relationship with a parent, or any other family issues—it’s essential to communicate these.

Being honest about your family dynamics allows your partner to navigate interactions with your family effectively and helps them understand you better.

8) Your insecurities

No one is immune from insecurities, whether it’s about our looks, our career, or our worth. But admitting these insecurities to your partner can be daunting.

Yet, in a committed relationship, it’s important to be honest about these vulnerabilities.

Why? Because it allows your partner to understand you on a deeper level, provide reassurance, and avoid inadvertently triggering these insecurities.

In turn, it helps to strengthen the bond between you two, fostering a deeper emotional connection.

9) Your expectations

Every individual enters a relationship with certain expectations.

These could be as simple as expecting your partner to remember your birthday, or more complex, like expecting a fair division of household chores.

Being clear about your expectations helps prevent future disappointments and resentments. 

Remember: Your partner can’t meet your expectations if they don’t know what they are. So, go ahead, communicate your expectations openly.

It’s a sign of a healthy, mature relationship.

10) Your health

Honesty about your physical and mental health is vital in a committed relationship.

This includes sharing any ongoing health issues, potential genetic diseases, or mental health conditions.

It might be tough to share such personal information. But in the long run, it will enable your partner to provide the right kind of support and help maintain a healthy relationship dynamic

Plus, it emphasizes the ‘in sickness and in health’ aspect of your commitment to each other.

11) Your deal breakers

Every individual has certain non-negotiables in a relationship, known as deal breakers.

These could range from issues like infidelity, dishonesty, or disrespect to lifestyle choices like not wanting children or desiring to live abroad.

Being upfront about your deal breakers can prevent heartbreak and disappointment in the future.

After all, it’s essential to ensure that both you and your partner are on the same page about fundamental aspects of your relationship.

12) Your love and commitment

Last but certainly not least, honesty about your feelings of love and commitment is vital in a relationship.

Be open about your affection, express your love in ways that resonate with your partner, and affirm your commitment to the relationship.

It reassures your partner about your dedication to the relationship and strengthens the emotional bond between you.

So, let your heart speak and let your partner know how much they mean to you.

Why honesty is crucial in a committed relationship

Honesty is not just a virtue; it’s the bedrock of a healthy, thriving relationship.

When you’re honest, you create an atmosphere of trust, and trust is the cornerstone of any committed relationship.

Honesty fosters open communication, allowing both partners to express their feelings, desires, and concerns without fear of judgment.

It leads to a deeper understanding and appreciation of each other, strengthening the emotional connection.

Most importantly, honesty lets you and your partner truly be yourselves, creating a relationship that’s authentic, respectful, and deeply satisfying.

After all, isn’t that what we all seek in a committed relationship? True connection, understanding, and love.

And honesty is the key that unlocks all of these.

Why honesty is crucial in a committed relationship

Embracing honesty in a relationship can sometimes feel like walking on a tightrope.

You may fear that revealing too much might push your partner away or create conflicts. 

However, it’s crucial to understand that honesty isn’t about unleashing every thought that comes into your head.

Instead, it’s about being truthful in expressing your feelings, needs, and expectations in a respectful and considerate way.

So, how do you get comfortable with honesty? Here’s what you can do:

1) Recognize the value of honesty

Understand that honesty is the foundation of a joyful and fulfilling relationship.

It allows for deeper connection and understanding, building a love that’s genuine and lasting.

2) Start small

Next, practice. Start small. 

Choose situations where you can express your honesty without much risk, then gradually move onto more substantial issues. It gets easier with time.

Communication is an art, and like any other skill, it improves with practice.

3) Seek guidance from experts

Lastly, seek guidance. Sometimes, we need a little help, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

In this enlightening free video, you’ll learn about love and intimacy, about how honesty intertwines with these two vital components of a relationship, and how to master the art of honest communication.

It’s a must-watch for anyone looking to build a relationship that’s not just strong, but also incredibly fulfilling.

So, don’t wait.

Click here to watch the video and embark on the journey towards a more honest, and thus more loving, relationship.

Final words

Finding love and building a committed relationship can feel like a labyrinth at times.

But the core of it all lies in simple truths—being honest, being kind, and being true to oneself. 

Every step you take towards honesty is a step towards a relationship that’s real, fulfilling, and deeply satisfying.

Yes, it may be challenging, but remember, the most beautiful diamonds are the ones that have withstood pressure.

So, take a deep breath, have faith in yourself and in the power of honesty.

Your journey towards a more loving, more authentic relationship has just begun, and what a beautiful journey it will be.

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Tina Fey

Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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