If you want real, undeniable happiness, say goodbye to these 9 habits

Real, undeniable happiness is achievable, but it requires saying goodbye to certain behaviors.

And when we talk about happiness, it’s often about the habits you form and, more importantly, the habits you need to break.

In other words, it’s not just about what you do, but also about what you don’t do.

Now, this might seem daunting, but trust me, it’s worth it.

Here are some habits you need to kick to the curb if you’re truly seeking that sweet, sweet taste of happiness in your life.

Get ready to wave these habits goodbye and embrace your happier self!

1) Putting others first

The truth is, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Caring for others begins with caring for oneself.

Real happiness demands that we prioritize our own needs, desires, and dreams. It’s not about being selfish; it’s about being self-aware.

Because while it’s important to be considerate, consistently placing others before yourself can lead to resentment and emotional exhaustion.

So if you’re constantly feeling drained because you’re always the one giving, it’s time to reassess.

Is it fear of conflict or rejection that keeps you in this pattern? Or do you feel undeserving of your own attention?

Regardless of the reason, remember this: your happiness matters. Don’t be afraid to put yourself first sometimes. 

2) Comparing yourself to others

I used to always compare myself to others.

Whether it was my career, my relationships, or even my physical appearance, I always found a way to feel lesser than someone else.

It was like a constant race, one that left me feeling exhausted and unhappy.

Then, I realized this: comparison is the thief of joy.

When we compare ourselves to others, we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment and dissatisfaction. We’re focusing on what we lack rather than what we have.

I decided to stop this toxic habit.

Instead of comparing myself to others, I started focusing on my own journey. I began appreciating my own achievements, no matter how small. I started celebrating my progress and cherishing my unique path.

This shift in perspective has made a world of difference. I’m happier, more content, and far less stressed. And it’s all because I stopped comparing myself to others.

3) Neglecting physical health

Our physical health has a direct link to our emotional well-being.

Yet, so many of us treat our bodies as an afterthought. We skimp on sleep, eat poorly, and neglect exercise, all in the name of productivity or convenience.

But here’s something you might not know: according to a study published in the National Library of Medicine, people who exercise regularly are happier than those who don’t.

Exercise releases endorphins, the body’s natural mood boosters. It also promotes better sleep and provides a natural energy boost.

So if you’re looking to increase your happiness quotient, don’t neglect your physical health. Start small if you need to. A short walk a day or a few stretches can do wonders for your mood.

Remember, your body is your temple. Treat it with respect, and it will reward you with a happier state of mind.

4) Holding onto grudges

Holding onto grudges and past hurts can be like carrying a heavy weight around your neck. It’s exhausting and it keeps you rooted in the past, preventing you from fully experiencing the present.

When you hold onto a grudge, the only person you’re really hurting is yourself. It’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.

Because forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or condoning what happened. It’s about releasing the hold it has on you, freeing yourself from the weight of resentment and bitterness.

So, if you’re seeking real happiness, it’s time to let go of those grudges. It’s not easy, but with time and conscious effort, you can learn to forgive and find peace.

Remember, forgiveness is a gift to yourself more than it is to anyone else. 

5) Overthinking

Overthinking is a happiness killer. It drains your mental energy, increases your stress levels, and keeps you stuck in a loop of worry and doubt.

The problem with overthinking is that it doesn’t lead to solutions, as it only leads to more problems. It’s like being stuck in quicksand—the more you struggle, the deeper you sink.

So how do we break free from this habit?

The first step is awareness. Recognizing when you’re overthinking is crucial.

Then, it’s about taking conscious steps to shift your focus. Engage in activities that you enjoy, practice mindfulness, or simply take a few deep breaths.

Overcoming overthinking isn’t easy, but it’s definitely possible. And once you do, you’ll find that happiness becomes much more attainable.

6) Ignoring your passions

happy being single If you want real, undeniable happiness, say goodbye to these 9 habits

There’s a unique kind of joy that comes from doing something you’re truly passionate about.

It’s an intense, heart-filling sense of happiness that is hard to describe. Yet, so many of us ignore our passions, burying them under the weight of our daily responsibilities.

Maybe you love painting, playing an instrument, writing, or gardening. But whatever your passion might be, it’s important to make room for it in your life.

Because when we ignore our passions, we’re denying ourselves a source of deep joy and satisfaction.

If you’ve been neglecting your passions, I encourage you to reclaim them. Make time for what you love. Even if it’s just a few minutes each day, it can make a huge difference to your life.

Remember, life isn’t just about fulfilling responsibilities and meeting expectations. It’s also about pursuing what makes your heart sing.

7) Seeking external validation

I used to be someone who constantly sought validation from others. Whether it was in my work, my relationships, or my personal achievements, I needed others’ approval to feel good about myself.

It was an exhausting and unfulfilling way to live.

The moment I started seeking validation from within, everything changed. I began to value my own opinion of myself more than anyone else’s. I started to recognize my worth and appreciate my own accomplishments.

But while seeking external validation is a tricky habit to break, it’s crucial for genuine happiness.

Take it from me as someone who has learned my lesson: your worth should never be tied to others’ opinions. You are enough just as you are.

Embrace your individuality, celebrate your successes, and learn from your failures. Trust in your own journey and know that you are the only one who can truly validate your worth.

8) Avoiding change

Change is inevitable. It’s a part of life, a part of growth.

Yet, so many of us resist it, fearing the unknown and finding comfort in the familiar.

But here’s the thing: Avoiding change is like trying to swim against the current. It’s exhausting and ultimately futile.

Embracing change, on the other hand, opens up new opportunities and experiences.

So if you’re stuck in a rut, don’t be afraid of change. Try something new, take a risk, and embrace the unknown. It’s when change happens that we feel most alive.

9) Neglecting self-love

Self-love is about accepting yourself wholly and unconditionally. It’s about acknowledging your worth and treating yourself with kindness and respect.

When we neglect self-love, we’re essentially telling ourselves that we’re not worthy of happiness. And that couldn’t be further from the truth.

So start practicing self-love. Celebrate your accomplishments, big or small. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and learn from them.

And most importantly, treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion you would offer a loved one.

Final thoughts: The pursuit of happiness

Our habits shape our lives more than we realize. They determine our daily routines, our reactions to life’s challenges, and ultimately, our overall happiness.

This shows that happiness is not a destination, it’s a way of life. It’s about finding joy in the journey and making the most of each day.

And sometimes, it’s about saying goodbye to old habits and welcoming new ones.

After all, your happiness is in your hands. It’s up to you to make the choices that will lead you towards it.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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