If you tolerate these 8 behaviors from someone, you lack self-worth

Knowing the line between respecting others and being a doormat is crucial.

It’s really about how much you value yourself.

Letting people get away with certain things often means you’re not giving yourself the respect you deserve.

Standing up for yourself shows you care about your feelings, thoughts, and what you’ve been through.

Having said that, it’s about time we all got better at spotting the stuff we shouldn’t put up with.

If you’re letting these 7 behaviors slide, it’s a big red flag that you must work on valuing yourself more.

Let’s dive into what these behaviors are, so you can start sticking up for yourself starting now.

1) Acceptance of disrespect

There’s no arena in life where self-worth is more pivotal than in our personal relationships.

And anyone with a strong sense of self-worth knows the significance of respect.

Often, you’ll find yourself in situations where someone belittles you or treats you poorly.

And you know what?

It can be quite challenging to respond appropriately.

The truth is respect and personal boundaries are fundamental aspects of any healthy relationship.

You see, the core idea is that your self-worth dictates how others should treat you.

Consider this.

It’s the reasoning behind every self-help book and empowerment seminar, advocating for self-respect and standing up against disrespect.

In essence, when a person encounters disrespect, they often grapple with the emotional stress of handling such situations.

However, relying on your self-worth can guide your reactions and decisions.

So if you’re tolerating disrespect from anyone, it’s a glaring sign that you need to boost your self-worth. 

Take action – always respond respectfully and assertively if you want to maintain your dignity and respect.

2) Justifying harmful behaviors

One thing I’ve learned through personal experience is to never justify harmful behaviors.

There was a time in my life when I was in a friendship that was more draining than fulfilling.

My friend would often make hurtful comments and pass them off as ‘jokes’.

To be honest, initially, I laughed along, thinking it was all in good fun.

But as time passed, the ‘jokes’ became more personal and the laughter less genuine.

Believe it or not, I found myself justifying her behavior, telling myself that she didn’t mean any harm.

Inside though, I felt belittled and disrespected.

One day, I finally decided to confront her about it.

Her reaction?

I should have seen it coming!

She brushed it off, saying I was being too sensitive.

That’s when I realized that I was tolerating a behavior that was chipping away at my self-worth.

3) Constantly seeking approval

Did you know that humans are wired to seek approval?

It’s an instinct that dates back to our prehistoric ancestors.

Living in groups offered safety and support, so being accepted by the tribe was crucial for survival.

Fast forward to today, and this ancient instinct can sometimes lead us astray.

Just think about it.

We often find ourselves seeking validation and approval from others, even at the cost of our own self-worth.

Can you relate to this feeling?

You see, we need two things here: awareness and courage.

In essence, you need to reflect and recognize situations where you seek others’ approval and gather the courage to make your own decisions.

4) Overlooking your needs

Let’s be honest, it’s admirable to be considerate and attentive to the needs of others.

However, it becomes a problem when you start overlooking your own needs in the process.

If you’re always the one making sacrifices in your relationships, or if you find yourself constantly putting others’ needs above your own, it might be time to reassess.

Wondering why?

Well, this behavior often stems from a lack of self-worth.

You might feel that your needs aren’t as important, or that you don’t deserve to prioritize yourself.

But here’s the truth:

Your needs matter just as much as anyone else’s. Prioritizing yourself is not selfish, it’s necessary for your well-being.

After all, you need to make sure to take care of your own needs first before extending help to others.

5) Keeping quiet about your feelings

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It may sound like a cliche, but communication is the foundation of any relationship.

But what happens when you consistently hold back your feelings?

Whether out of fear of rejection, the desire to avoid conflict, or the belief that your feelings aren’t valid, keeping quiet about your emotions can be detrimental to your self-worth.

By not expressing how you truly feel, you’re sending a message that your feelings aren’t important.

As a result, this can lead to feelings of resentment and further erode your sense of self-worth.

In short, your feelings are valid and deserve to be expressed.

You have a right to voice out your concerns and emotions.

And don’t be mistaken:

Anyone who truly respects you will take the time to listen and understand.

6) Enduring persistent negativity

Life has its ups and downs.

Let’s face it – we all encounter negative situations and people.

But what happens when negativity becomes a constant part of your life?

Well, enduring persistent negativity from someone can drain your energy, joy, and ultimately, your self-worth.

You might feel like you’re trapped in a storm without an umbrella.

But remember this – You’re much stronger than you believe.

In other words, you don’t have to endure constant negativity.

 Stand tall in the face of negativity.

After all, you’re a unique individual who deserves respect, kindness, and positivity.

7) Emotional manipulation

There’s a subtle, yet destructive behavior that’s easy to overlook – emotional manipulation.

I remember being in a situation where someone would routinely twist my words, make me feel guilty for things I shouldn’t have felt guilty about, and use my emotions against me.

The truth is it was a relationship that left me feeling confused, drained, and questioning my sanity.

You see, emotional manipulation is a serious red flag.

It’s a sign of control and disrespect that can make you constantly question your reality or feel guilty without knowing why.

On a personal note, I urge you to not allow anyone to play with your emotions. Stand against manipulation and reclaim your self-worth.

8) Accepting repeated broken promises

Trust is the backbone of any relationship.

But what happens when that trust is repeatedly broken?

If you’re tolerating someone who consistently makes and breaks promises, you’re allowing them to disrespect your trust.

I get it, you don’t want to burn bridges at the first sign.

In fact, it’s easy to hold on to the hope that things will change but repeated broken promises signal a lack of respect and consideration.

In essence, setting up boundaries is scary at times and not easy, but is crucial to nurture healthy relationships. 

Final reflection

The complexity of human behavior and self-perception often intertwines with our personal experiences and understanding.

One such intertwining is the relationship between self-worth and the behaviors we tolerate from others.

This tolerance, often unconscious, can influence our self-perception, affecting our well-being and relationships.

It plays a crucial role in setting the tone for how others treat us.

For anyone struggling with self-worth, becoming aware of these tolerances is a significant step towards self-discovery.

Believe it or not, it helps realize that you deserve respect, love, and dignity.

Whether it’s standing up against disrespect, expressing your emotions, honoring your intuition, or refusing to tolerate emotional manipulation, each step contributes to reinforcing your self-worth.

As you embark on this journey of self-discovery and reclaiming your worth, remember that you are enough just as you are.

Your worth is not tied to what you tolerate from others. 

Ethan Sterling

Ethan Sterling

Ethan Sterling has a background in entrepreneurship, having started and managed several small businesses. His journey through the ups and downs of entrepreneurship provides him with practical insights into personal resilience, strategic thinking, and the value of persistence. Ethan’s articles offer real-world advice for those looking to grow personally and professionally.

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