If you recognize to these 9 signs, being alone is bringing out the best in you

I don’t know why there’s a fear of being on your own. I would say that more than half of my relatives think I’m crazy and weird when I mention enjoying my alone time. 

The point is that if you can feel comfortable and relaxed in your own company, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. In fact, this level of independence could be exactly what you need to recharge your batteries and find balance again. 

The only time that I would say that it’s an unhealthy choice is when you constantly feel lonely or bored on your own. Loneliness just creates sadness and anxiety, and that’s definitely not the goal. 

On the other hand, solitude can help you develop qualities that you never thought you had. From being more productive and creative to feeling confident and self-assured, these are only a few indications that spending time alone could be really good for you. 

So, if you recognize these 9 signs, being alone is bringing out the best in you. Let’s start with how alone time affects your mood, and it’s quite an important one. 

1) You’re always in a good mood

I don’t know if you feel the same way, but if I don’t get my alone time, I get really grouchy. I end up snapping at the people around me and have absolutely no patience. 

If you find that your mood is better when you’re on your own, then it’s good to plan for independent time so you can maintain your positivity

Please don’t let guilt trick you into thinking otherwise. 

When you want to spend time alone, don’t feel guilty about it. Everyone needs their own space, and if solitude helps with your happiness and mood, then it’s not a selfish life choice. 

So, if you notice that you feel brighter and lighter when alone, then it’s feeding your soul, and that’s what you want. 

2) You’re strong and independent

You live on your own, and you’re fully capable of taking care of yourself. You have dinner alone, and when you aren’t swarmed with work, you sit back, relax, and enjoy a glass of red wine. 

Did I mention that being alone looks really good on you? 

But before you celebrate, it’s important to understand the difference between being independent and feeling lonely

Being independent means that you look after your own needs and feel happy making choices and handling responsibilities. You can be comfortable on your own, and even during prolonged periods of solitude, you’re at peace. 

When you’re lonely, you question a lot of your life choices, and you tend to become preoccupied with the past. Loneliness creates unhappiness and dissatisfaction with things in general. 

All you need to do is really look at your life and ask yourself the question, “Do I feel self-assured and satisfied?” If your answer is yes, or I think so, then being alone is doing you the world of good. 

3) You enjoy not answering to anyone

You just can’t imagine having to constantly check in with someone. There’s no explaining or getting permission for the little things that you want to do because they may influence someone else’s life. 

When you’re independent, you’re accountable; it’s as simple as that. You don’t have to compromise on what you want, and you can decide where your life journey takes you. 

Not answering to anyone can be scary, especially when you’ve become accustomed to second opinions or getting the go-ahead once you’ve made a decision. 

But independence forces you to rely on your head and intuition when you want to make the right choices. 

If you enjoy being free and not having to hassle with someone else when you have a change of plans, then being alone suits you. 

4) You’re more creative

creative thinker If you recognize to these 9 signs, being alone is bringing out the best in you

I’m sure you can agree that when you’re given freedom, you see things in a different light. Time on your own clears your mind so you can be more creative. 

On your own, timeout can mean starting a new arts and crafts hobby, redecorating the home, or oil painting on canvas. 

You may find that instead of feeling like you can’t do these things, you come up with innovative techniques and enjoy expressing yourself through art, color, and design. 

Even the most rational and structured people can become imaginative when they have time alone. 

If this is the case, then your independence is an important part of tapping into and working on your creative side. 

5) You don’t feel like you’re being held back

If you want to go away for a weekend trip or there’s a last-minute convention you want to attend, there’s no need to rush and panic to find someone to manage your responsibilities back home. 

Living independently makes it easier to pack your bags and do whatever you want to. If a job opportunity presents itself or you get the itch to travel, then these opportunities are available to you. 

Nobody is holding you back unless you get into a negative headspace and talk yourself out of these pursuits. 

Fear is one of the biggest factors that will stop you from leaving your comfort zone, which means little chance for personal growth and expanding your horizons

So, if you’re letting go of fear in your life because you’re spending more time on your own, stay focused, and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. 

6) You’re making plans and setting goals

Most of us are too busy to sit down and focus on our immediate and long-term goals. Maybe you’ve been in a similar boat.  

Time seems to tick away, and before you know it, another day’s passed, and you aren’t any closer to making those plans. 

Now that you have more time to yourself, you can finally see a way to set a goal and start working towards it. It doesn’t have to be elaborate goals, either. 

Something as simple as organizing your garage or applying for a course to improve your skills are things that you can finally get down to.  

The problem with making plans and creating goals is that it’s easy to get distracted, which simply delays moving forward. But if you’re already on track because you have alone time, then it’s a very good sign. 

7) You don’t feel overwhelmed or stressed out

Let’s start with not having much alone time. Even people who like to be in the company of others need to do things that are important to them if they want to hold onto their sanity. 

Yes, we share our lives with our families and partners, but that doesn’t mean losing a sense of yourself. When you can’t do what you enjoy or what brings you peace, you start feeling frustrated, and this creates stress. 

But once you have life’s stressors under control and there’s no distraction, you can be more productive. 

If you find that being alone is helping you feel less stressed out and more productive, then it’s definitely doing you the world of good. 

8) You’re comfortable with yourself

you genuinely enjoy being alone If you recognize to these 9 signs, being alone is bringing out the best in you

Sometimes, you just need to shut the world out and focus on yourself. The only way you can do this is if you make alone time, and it’s not something to be afraid of. 

When you get to a stage where you can feel comfortable with who you are, you stop apologizing for mistakes and can make healthier decisions that aren’t influenced by others. 

What I mean is that you can finally free yourself by showing yourself some love! 

Think about social situations and how you feel. If you’re self-aware and confident in who you are, then you can enjoy the company of friends and new people you meet. 

It’s also a necessary part of building a foundation so that you can develop healthy and lasting relationships. 

9) You do what makes you truly happy

There’s no sacrificing the things that you love to do when you’re on your own. If you want to stay in bed on the weekend or take time off to volunteer at your local pet shelter, then you can do whatever brings you joy and fulfillment. 

Many of us thrive when we’re independent and have our freedom, and this is exactly what I’m talking about when I mention doing what makes you happy. 

You get to decide when you want to go out with friends, and if you aren’t already in a relationship, independence helps you determine when you’re comfortable enough to start one. 

When you’re doing activities like starting a new hobby or developing a real sense of adventure that you never had before, then your time alone is working in your favor. 


Solitude doesn’t have to be shameful or embarrassing. It can be a magical time in your life that takes you on a path of self-discovery and learning about the things you love and want in life. 

You get to do what you want and when you want it without the responsibility of checking in with someone else or having to put your goals aside. 

If you can relate to all or only a few of these 9 signs, then being alone is certainly bringing out the best in you. 

So don’t worry about what anybody says and if you need time to yourself because it makes you feel better, don’t feel guilty about taking it. 

Marcel Deer

Marcel Deer

Marcel is a journalist, gamer, and entrepreneur. When not obsessing over his man cave or the latest tech, he’s failing helplessly at training his obnoxious rescue dog ‘Boogies’.

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