What does success mean to you?
While many consider wealth and things to be signs of success, they’re actually defined by who you are.
Success is about more than the physical things that you’ve attained. It’s about self-acceptance and empowerment and your ability to overcome failure, no matter how hard it is.
So forget about the flashy car or the big house as an indication of whether “you’re making it.” If you recognize these 9 signs, you’re definitely succeeding in life, and you should be proud of the person you’ve become.
1) You don’t let others’ opinions get you down.
You know that you’re on your way to success as soon as the haters come out! And you’re prepared for it.
Negativity doesn’t get the better of you.
Whether in business or in your personal life, when you’re climbing the ladder of success, you’re aware that not everyone will be in your corner. There are people who will try to thwart your achievements or bring your confidence down.
A good example of someone trying to get you down is in the workplace. You might have a colleague who gives you underhanded compliments or who tries to undermine your leadership.
You understand that success is not without its struggles, but you refuse to allow the jealousy and harsh criticism of others to affect your security.
2) You learn from failure.
The words “get back up and try again” are not new to you. You’ve made mistakes, and there were times when you fought your hardest to overcome them. It was challenging, but after years of experience, you’ve learned that failure is a part of the game of life.
If you can’t accept failure, then you cannot be successful. It’s that simple.
Feeling like you’ve failed at something is hard to accept, but seeing it as a learning curve can become your greatest asset.
The easy part is allowing negativity into your head by telling yourself that you’re worthless or don’t have what it takes. But when you can dig deep and pick yourself back up, that’s when you can move forward and avoid feeling stuck or lost in life.
It’s also a sign of maturity.
Yes, success is about achievement, from accolades to wealth, but more importantly, it’s about your mindset.
When you realize that failure doesn’t last forever and your destiny is in your hands, you develop the courage to move forward and continue on your life’s journey.
In the words of Confucius, “The greatest glory is not in failing, but in rising each time we fail.”
3) You can roll with the punches.
Change can be hard, and that’s because we naturally fear the unknown. But when you’re on your way to success, you embrace change because you understand it’s a part of life.
When you accept change, you become a lot more flexible, making it easier to adapt even when things don’t go as planned. You’re able to “roll with the punches,” which means that you don’t let challenges or unexpected events stop you from achieving your goals.
The ability to adapt to change prevents you from feeling overwhelmed and insecure when circumstances aren’t always in your favor.
If you see change as an opportunity for growth rather than an obstacle that you can’t overcome, you’re ready to achieve every success in life.
4) You accept who you are.
A surefire sign that you’re succeeding in life is when you recognize your strengths and weaknesses, helping you to accept who you are. Regardless of your flaws or your past, you’ve learned self-love.
What exactly is self-love?
It means that you put your needs first and that you’re secure in your own skin. You’re happy with the person you see in the mirror, and even when things happen in your life that are out of your control, you don’t let them cast a shadow over your achievements and attitude.
Self-love is not about sacrificing others to satisfy your needs. It’s about finding mental and physical balance so that you can be your best self. When you are at your best, which includes self-acceptance, you can be there for others, and that makes you successful.
5) You dare to dream big.
Can you visualize where you want to be in the next 5 years? You dream big, and your ambitions drive you every day to attain your goals. Even if friends and family believe you’re overzealous, you don’t let it stop you from dreaming.
Dreaming big keeps you motivated.
Even if you take the smallest steps, you’re patient because you know that Rome wasn’t built in a day!
And just remember that dreaming is not just for children. Creating goals and visualizing yourself attaining those goals inspires you to be more and do more. Even if you fail along the way, you continue to move toward your dreams, and that speaks volumes.
6) You’re a work in progress.
Succeeding in life doesn’t mean that you stop working on yourself. In fact, the most successful people recognize the need for ongoing self-improvement because it builds resilience and presents opportunities for growth.
It means identifying your limitations.
Maybe you need to work on your patience, or you’re too talkative at the best of times. Either way, you understand that learning and finding ways to grow personally and professionally are necessary for success.
Reading a self-help book, traveling to experience new cultures, and making time for friends and family are simple yet rewarding ways of working on yourself.
7) You don’t live in the past.
If we live in the past, how can we possibly focus on our future? It’s easy to get caught up in the wrongs or to become preoccupied with past successes.
Believe me, I know.
I’ve had moments where I’ve held onto things for far too long, and not only did it hinder my ability to achieve my goals, but it also affected my closest relationships.
One of the biggest determinants of success is mindfulness.
Being mindful is about being in the moment. Understanding the importance of being mentally and physically present is a major step in the right direction. It’s about appreciating the simple things, from a quiet moment to reset your mind to being actively involved with your family.
Realizing that your past can’t hold you back and making every effort to live in the moment is a sign that you can overcome the odds.
8) You don’t compromise your values.
In pursuit of one’s goals, I’ve seen many people morph into someone else to appease others in the hopes of getting closer to their success.
When you realize that integrity is worth fighting for, you’re not prepared to change who you are by compromising your values.
Too much emphasis on materialistic things prevents you from accepting who you are and from finding true happiness in your relationships. That’s because you’re prepared to change your character when you’re motivated by these types of rewards. The question is, how far are you willing to go?
When you hold onto your values, you don’t allow them to be swayed by temptation or the promise of something. You know who you are, how you want to be treated, and how you treat others.
A strong sense of character and holding onto your values are sure signs that you’re on your way to living your best life.
9) You respect others.
Something that we don’t think about when defining success is how we treat other people.
Most of us think that narcissists and manipulators are the only ones who take advantage of other people, but the truth is that anyone can treat others badly for their own gain.
Acting like a jerk is definitely not admirable.
Success lies in your ability to be a decent human being. It’s not something that is overlooked by people, either. It’s no secret that qualities such as compassion and attentiveness are treasured and praised.
When you give love, you get love.
You’re not a pushover, and you know how to establish boundaries, but you’re aware of the way you come across, and it doesn’t go unnoticed. Now, that’s an impressive quality that will get you very far.
The traditional definition of a successful person concerns wealth and materialism. But real success is about much more than what we can show on paper.
When you can accept failure and become a strong leader while showing others respect, you’re already on the right path.
But if the signs that you’re definitely succeeding in life are not part of your story yet and you feel like you’re holding yourself back, there’s no better time than the present to work on your goals and happiness.