If you recognize these 7 signs, you’re a genuinely likable person

The question, “Am I likable?” can often be a tricky one to answer. Sometimes, we get so caught up in our day-to-day lives that it’s easy to lose sight of how we’re coming across to others.

Being genuinely likable, though, isn’t about being the life and soul of the party. It goes much deeper than that. It’s about how you treat others, how you listen, and even how you handle disagreements.

As Lachlan Brown, the founder of Hack Spirit and a mindfulness/Buddhism expert, I’ve spent years studying human behavior and relationships. And I’ve identified 7 key signs that reveal whether you’re a genuinely likable person.

If you recognize these signs in yourself, give yourself a pat on the back. You’re on the right track!

Let’s dive in.

1) You’re present

In our fast-paced, digital world, it’s so easy to get distracted. Between emails pinging in, social media updates, and the constant buzz of our smartphones, being truly present in the moment can seem like a Herculean task.

But here’s the thing: likable people have mastered the art of being present. They’ve learned to put their devices down and give their full attention to the person in front of them.

This isn’t just about good manners; it’s about mindfulness. Mindfulness is all about engaging fully with the here and now. When you’re mindfully present, you’re not just physically there; you’re emotionally available, too.

Being present shows respect and interest in others, making them feel valued and heard.

It’s a quality that draws people in and makes them want to be around you.

2) You practice empathy

Another sign of a genuinely likable person is their ability to empathize with others. Empathy isn’t just about understanding someone else’s feelings; it’s about sharing those feelings.

As a practicing Buddhist, I’ve spent a lot of time exploring the concept of empathy. Buddhism teaches us that empathy is an essential part of living a compassionate and fulfilling life.

As Thich Nhat Hanh, a renowned mindfulness expert and Buddhist monk, once said, “Understanding and love are not two separate things, but just one. To develop understanding, you have to practice looking at all living beings with the eyes of compassion.”

If you find that you can easily put yourself in someone else’s shoes and feel what they’re feeling, it’s a good sign you’re genuinely likable.

People are drawn to those who can understand and share in their emotions. It creates a bond that’s hard to break and makes others feel seen and understood.

3) You accept imperfection

uncommon quirks of people who are extremely likable If you recognize these 7 signs, you’re a genuinely likable person

In the pursuit of likability, many of us fall into the trap of striving for perfection. We believe that to be liked, we must appear flawless. But the truth is, perfection isn’t likable – it’s intimidating.

Genuinely likable people embrace their flaws and the flaws of others. They understand that everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and that’s what makes us human.

This philosophy aligns closely with Buddhism. Buddhism teaches us that life is inherently imperfect and that our struggles and flaws are part of our human experience. It’s in accepting these imperfections, in ourselves and others, that we find true compassion and connection.

Ask yourself, can you laugh at yourself when you make a mistake and show understanding when others mess up? 

This authentic acceptance of imperfection makes people feel comfortable and accepted around you. It shows them that it’s okay to be human.

4) You’re not judgmental

Let’s be honest, we live in a world that’s quick to judge. It’s all too easy to label people based on their actions or appearances without really knowing their story.

But here’s the thing: genuinely likable people resist this urge. They remain open-minded and avoid rushing to judgment. They understand that everyone has their own path and their own battles.

Mindfulness encourages this non-judgmental attitude. When we’re mindful, we observe our thoughts and feelings without labeling them as ‘good’ or ‘bad’. We simply accept things as they are.

Likable people do the same with those around them. 

If you can interact with others without passing judgment and accept them for who they truly are, then you’re probably refreshing to be around. This creates a safe environment in which people feel free to be themselves.

5) You practice humility

In our society, it’s often those with the loudest voices who get noticed.

But being likable isn’t about being the center of attention or always having the last word. Quite the contrary.

Genuinely likable people understand the value of humility. They don’t feel the need to constantly prove themselves or one-up others. Instead, they let their actions speak for themselves.

6) You show gratitude

Gratitude is such a powerful thing. It shifts our focus from what we lack to what we have. It helps us appreciate the simple joys of life. Better yet, it benefits those around us. 

Genuinely likable people regularly express gratitude. They say ‘thank you’ more often, and they mean it. They recognize and appreciate the efforts of others, no matter how small.

This gratitude makes others feel appreciated and spreads positivity.

7) You know when to be silent

In a world that never seems to stop talking, silence can be a powerful tool. It might sound counterintuitive, but sometimes, the most likable thing you can do is not to say anything at all.

Genuinely likable people understand the value of silence. They know that not every pause needs to be filled, and not every thought needs to be shared.

Sometimes, the most supportive thing you can do for someone is to simply sit with them in their silence.

Final thoughts

So there you have it. These 7 signs are indicative of a genuinely likable person. If you recognize these traits in yourself, well done!

If not, remember that it’s never too late to start cultivating these qualities. At its core, being likable isn’t about pretending or putting on a show. It’s about authenticity, mindfulness, and treating others with respect and compassion.

For those looking to delve deeper into enhancing these qualities within themselves, I invite you to check out my book “Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego”.

It’s a journey into the heart of Buddhism that can help you live with more authenticity and less ego.




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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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