If you recognize these 8 signs, you’re a better mother than you realize

Motherhood can often feel like a thankless job.

When the days blur into a whirlwind of diapers, tantrums, and meal prep, it’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture.

But here’s the thing – being a good mother doesn’t mean achieving perfection in everything you do.

It’s about showing up every day, even when things are hard, and doing your best for your kids.

And, believe it or not, you’re probably doing a lot better than you think you are. In fact, there are some specific signs that indicate you’re doing a wonderful job as a mom.

Here are 8 signs that show you’re a better mother than you realize.

Let’s dive in:

1) You prioritize their needs

Motherhood is all about putting your child’s needs above your own.

Sure, there are times when you have to take care of yourself too (it’s called self-care and it’s important).

But if you’re consistently putting your child’s needs first, then you’re doing something right.

This might look like preparing their favorite meal even when you’re tired or spending an extra hour helping them with their homework instead of watching your favorite TV show.

If you’re doing these things, it’s a clear sign that you’re a dedicated mother.

2) You’re their biggest cheerleader

I remember when my friend’s son decided to try out for the school soccer team. He was nervous, unsure if he had what it took. My friend could have let him back out, but instead, she was there, encouraging him every step of the way.

From the first practice to the last game of the season, she cheered him on from the sidelines. Not because she wanted him to be the best player on the team, but because she wanted him to know that no matter what happened, he had someone who believed in him.

And you know what?

He didn’t become the star player, but he gained so much confidence and learned a lot about teamwork and perseverance.

So if you find yourself being your child’s biggest cheerleader, celebrating their achievements no matter how small and encouraging them through their failures, then you’re doing a fantastic job as a mom.

It’s these moments of unwavering support that help shape children into confident and resilient individuals.

3) You embrace their individuality

Every child is unique, with their own quirks and characteristics, and the best mothers understand this.

They don’t try to mold their children into who they think they should be, but rather, they celebrate and nurture their individuality.

And the truth is, children who are allowed to express themselves freely are more likely to develop a strong sense of self and are less likely to succumb to peer pressure as they grow older.

In other words, if you’re actively supporting your child’s interests, hobbies, and passions—even if they’re different from your own—you’re helping them become confident and independent individuals.

And that’s a sign of excellent parenting.

4) You’re constantly learning and adapting

Being a mother is a constantly evolving role.

What worked for your toddler might not work for your teenager.

If you find yourself reading parenting books, seeking advice from other parents, or researching ways to help your child with their unique challenges, then give yourself some credit.

This willingness to learn and adapt is a clear sign of a good mother.

It shows that you understand that parenting isn’t a one-size-fits-all role and that you’re committed to finding the best ways to support your child in each stage of their life.

So the next time you’re up late reading a parenting article or seeking advice on a parenting forum, remember: it’s evidence of your dedication and another reason why you’re a better mother than you realize.

5) You provide a safe and loving environment

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A crucial part of being a good mother is providing a home environment where your child feels safe and loved.

Having a perfect, spotless house or cooking gourmet meals every night isn’t what I mean though. Instead, it’s about creating an atmosphere of warmth and security.

If your child feels comfortable coming to you with their problems, if they feel loved even when they make mistakes, if they know they can rely on you for support and reassurance, then you’re doing an excellent job.

This nurturing environment you’re providing not only helps your child feel secure today, but it also lays the foundation for them to grow into emotionally healthy adults.

The impact you have on them today will carry long into the future, so well done, mama!

6) You make sacrifices for their happiness

Motherhood often involves making sacrifices, big and small, for the sake of our children’s happiness.

Whether it’s giving up your career to be a stay-at-home mom, missing out on social events to be at your child’s recital, or simply forgoing that last piece of cake because your little one wants it, these sacrifices are a clear sign of your dedication and love.

These moments may seem insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but they’re not.

Every sacrifice you make out of love for your child strengthens your bond with them and reinforces their sense of security and belonging.

And I know – most go unnoticed. But we see you. And when your child or children are older, they’ll recognize just how much you’ve done for them.

7) You worry about being a good mom

It’s completely normal to worry about whether you’re doing a good job or not. It’s not like raising kids comes with a manual!

But here’s the thing: worrying about being a good mom is, in itself, a sign of being a good mom.


Because it means you care deeply about your child’s well-being and happiness.

You’re invested in their growth and development, and you want the best for them.

So if you’ve ever had those moments of self-doubt, know this:

The very fact that you worry about being a good mother means you already are one.

8) You embrace the messiness of motherhood

Motherhood is messy. That’s just a fact. Instagram or TikTok moms don’t always represent the reality, with their organized homes and beige decor. 

In truth, motherhood is filled with sleepless nights, tantrums, endless laundry, and moments of complete chaos.

But amidst all these, you find joy, laughter, and a love so profound it’s incomparable.

If you’ve accepted that chaos and messiness are part of the journey, and you’re not striving for perfection but simply doing your best each day, then you’re doing an amazing job.

In essence: It’s love

The heart of being a good mother isn’t tied to the number of home-cooked meals, the perfectly clean house, or the ability to juggle a million tasks at once.

It’s much deeper than that.

At the core of every act, every sacrifice, and every moment of doubt is love.

A profound, selfless, and unconditional love for your child.

This love, this unyielding force that drives you to give your best even when you’re tired, scared, or overwhelmed, is the most significant indicator that you’re a better mother than you realize.

So next time you find yourself questioning your abilities as a mom, remember this:

Love is the foundation of motherhood. And if you love your child unconditionally and strive to show it every day, then you’re already succeeding in the most important aspect of being a mom.

Give yourself a pat on the back, because you’ve got this!

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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