If you really want to be successful in life, stop hanging out with these 10 types of people

Are you on a mission to make it big in life?

Success isn’t just about what you do, it’s also about the company you keep.

Ever heard the saying, “You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with”? Trust me, it’s spot on.

The people you surround yourself with can significantly impact your journey to the top. They can influence your thoughts, behaviors and ultimately your life outcomes.

There are some folks who constantly radiate negativity. These toxic individuals can drain your energy, hold you back from reaching your full potential and and ultimately hinder your path to success. Sometimes in life, we need to make tough decisions about who we allow into our inner circle. 

Want to know who these people might be? Hang tight! We’re about to explore the 10 types of people you should consider distancing yourself from if you’re serious about success.

1) Energy vampires

Energy Vampires suck the life right out of you. They deplete your energy and enthusiasm with constant negativity. 

They’re relentless with their problems and dramas,  leaving you feeling drained and exhausted every time you hang out with them.

They are the negativity magnets who always seem to find a problem for every solution. They’re constantly complaining, always focusing on what’s wrong instead of what’s right. 

When you’re around this constant negativity, it can start to rub off on you. You might find yourself feeling more pessimistic or expecting the worst. 

Success requires a healthy dose of positivity and self-belief. Energy vampires can deplete your motivation and hinder your progress. 

So, if you want to be successful, it might be time to distance yourself from the Energy Vampires in your life.

2) Gossipers

The Gossipers are those friends we all have who seem to thrive on gossip. They’re the ones always ready with the latest scoop, eager to share the most scandalous stories, or discussing what’s trending on social media.

I once had a friend like this. Every time we met, she’d fill me in on the latest dramas. It was entertaining at first, but then I realized how much time and energy I was wasting on these pointless conversations. It also made me question what she might be saying about me when I wasn’t around.

Gossip can be entertaining, it can even make us feel included in a group, but it’s a destructive habit that breeds negativity and mistrust. The hard truth is – if they’re talking about others to you, they’re probably talking about you to others.

When you’re trying to be successful, you need to focus your time and energy on productive activities that help you move forward and can bring you closer to your goals. 

Gossip is not one of those things. Plus, if you’re constantly talking about others, when will you find the time to talk about ideas, dreams and plans? So, try to steer clear of the gossipers and use your time more wisely.

3) Settlers

The Settlers are those who settle for mediocrity and refuse to learn and grow. They discourage ambition and can inadvertently hinder your progress. Settlers may discourage you from striving for excellence and settling for less than you deserve.

If you’re constantly around people who resist change and prefer to stay in their comfort zones, you might find yourself doing the same. 

Surround yourself with individuals who inspire you to grow, learn, and step out of your comfort zone. These are the people who will challenge you, expand your thinking, and push you towards success.

Life is a journey of growth. Don’t let the settlers ones keep you from evolving into the best version of yourself. Your future success depends on it.

4) Green-eyed monsters

The green-eyed monsters are those who are not happy for your success; instead, they’re envious of it. 

If you’re around someone who are always envious of you, it can become exhausting and stressful. Instead of enjoying your successes, you may find yourself worrying about their reaction or feeling the need to downplay your achievements.

The envious may secretly undermine your efforts or discourage you from pursuing your dreams.

So, if you’ve got someone in your life who’s always green with envy about your success, it might be time to step back.

Try to surround yourself with people who celebrate your victories and accomplishments, instead of seeing them as a threat.

5) Fair-weather friends

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Fair-Weather Friends are the people who are there for the good times, but disappear when things get tough.

You know the ones. They’re all about the parties and the fun times. But when you’re struggling or need support, they’re nowhere to be found.

True friendship isn’t just about sharing laughs and good times. It’s about being there for each other through thick and thin. It’s about lifting each other up when things get hard.

It’s heartbreaking when you realize someone you thought was a friend is really just a Fair-Weather Friend. They might bring fun into your life, but they aren’t bringing true support or care.

Success is a journey with ups and downs. You need people around you who will stick by your side through it all.

So, if you’ve got Fair-Weather Friends in your life, it might be time to seek out some all-season ones instead.

6) Naysayers

The Naysayers have a knack for raining on your parade, always quick to point out the downside of every situation.

I remember having a friend who was a classic naysayer. I’d share an idea or a plan I was excited about, and she’d immediately point out all the things that could go wrong and why my idea would never work. She never seemed to share in my excitement or encourage my dreams.

While it’s important to have people in your life who can provide constructive criticism, there’s a difference between being realistic and being outright discouraging. And in my case, her discouragement was starting to affect my confidence. Instead of feeling inspired and validated after our conversations, I often found myself doubting my abilities, second-guessing my decisions, and feeling deflated.

The path to success requires optimism, perseverance, and confidence to navigate through uncertainties. Debbie Downers can sap these qualities from you by constantly focusing on the negative.

If you have naysayers in your life who always seem to shoot down your ideas or dampen your spirits, you need to consider whether their presence is helping you move closer towards your goals or further away. It might be time to limit their influence so you can pursue your goals with positivity and conviction.

7) Dream crushers 

Dream crushers are those who always seem to doubt and belittle your dreams, dismissing them as unrealistic. They do not believe in your dreams, support your goals or show interest in your success.

I’ve seen people give up on their dreams because they were surrounded by those who tell them that their goals are too ambitious or that their dreams are unrealistic.

The raw truth is, these dream crushers can plant seeds of doubt in your mind that grow into debilitating fears and insecurities if you let them.

You deserve to have people in your life who root for you, even when the road gets tough. People who believe in you and always encourage you to chase your dreams, no matter how big they may be.

If these dream crushers belong to your inner circle, it might be time to distance yourself and surround yourself with people who truly believe in your potentials. 

8) Constant critics

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Constant Critics are the folks who always have something negative to say about you or your ideas.

They never miss a chance to criticize you, put you down or make you feel small. They’re quick to point out your flaws and slow to recognize your strengths.

Criticism, when constructive, can be a valuable tool for growth. But there’s a difference between someone who offers helpful feedback and someone who’s constantly critical.

Success requires self-confidence and belief in your abilities. Those who are perpetually critical can chip away at your self-esteem and confidence over time. They may make you doubt your abilities and question your decisions, which can stall your progress towards success.

If you’ve got a Constant Critic in your life, it might be time to reconsider their place on your journey. Constant criticism without support or encouragement is not conducive to personal growth or success. Instead, surround yourself with people who can provide constructive criticism while also acknowledging your strengths and supporting your growth.

9) Drama queens and kings

Drama Queens and Kings are the people who constantly create unnecessary drama, exaggerate situations, stir up conflict and generally make mountains out of molehills.

There’s always some crisis, some problem, some big issue that they’re dealing with. And they always want to drag you into it.

I once had a friend who was a classic Drama Queen. Every time we talked, there was a new catastrophe. Her boss was the worst. Her boyfriend didn’t understand her. Her neighbor was out to get her.

I found myself getting sucked into her dramas, spending hours listening to her problems and trying to help her solve them. And you know what? It was exhausting. More than that, it was taking away my own peace of mind. I was so caught up in her drama that I wasn’t focusing on my own life. Eventually, I had to distance myself for my own wellbeing.

Being around such individuals can be emotionally draining and can take your focus away from your goals. Instead of spending your energy on building your own success, you might find yourself caught up in their latest saga.

So if you have a drama queen or king in your life, it might be time to rethink whether their histrionics are worth your time and energy, and consider creating some space. 

10) One-uppers

The One-Uppers are the overly competitive frenemy who always need to do you one better. 

Healthy competition can push us to do our best. But there’s a line between friendly rivalry and constant one-upmanship. Some people always feel the need to do better than others, and not in a good-natured way.

I’ve had One-Uppers in my life before. Every time I achieved something, they’d immediately share a story about how they did something bigger or better. There was never a moment to celebrate my success; they always had to steal the spotlight.

Whether it was a new job, a weight loss goal, or even a vacation, they always had to outdo me. It was as if my achievements were a threat that they needed to neutralize with their own ‘superior’ accomplishments.

Being around One-Uppers can make you feel like you’re constantly in a competition you never signed up for. These overly competitive individuals can make every day feel like a battleground, leaving you emotionally exhausted and feeling constantly under pressure. 

Life isn’t a race against other people. It’s a journey to fulfill your own potential. True success is about becoming the best version of yourself. If there are One-Uppers in your life, it might be time to step out of the race.

The final thought: Choose your inner circle wisely 

At the heart of our journey towards success, it’s important to remember that we are fundamentally social creatures. The company we keep can significantly shape our thoughts, actions, and ultimately, our outcomes in life.

If your circle includes people who constantly radiate negativity, who gossip incessantly, who are envious of you and constantly compete with you, who don’t believe in you and often downplay your achievement, you might find yourself lose confidence and slowly sinking to their levels. You could become less positive, less focused and take on traits that could hamper your progress towards success.

So take a moment to evaluate the company you keep. Are they lifting you up or pulling you down? Are they helping you to grow or holding you back? Are they contributing to your success or detracting from it?

While it can be difficult to distance ourselves from certain people, especially if they’ve been a part of our lives for a long time, it’s crucial to remember that your journey to success might require you to make tough decisions about who gets to stay in your life and who doesn’t.

 Your social circle can have a big impact on your personal and professional growth. It is more than just a group of people you hang out with; it’s a reflection of who you are and who you aspire to be. Choose wisely.

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Ava Sinclair

Ava Sinclair is a former competitive athlete who transitioned into the world of wellness and mindfulness. Her journey through the highs and lows of competitive sports has given her a unique perspective on resilience and mental toughness. Ava’s writing reflects her belief in the power of small, daily habits to create lasting change.

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