If you often reflect on these 6 things, you’re more self-aware than most

In life, all of the stressors, distractions, and chaos can make it very tempting for us to switch onto autopilot. 

Which makes it all the more special if you’re someone who isn’t afraid to pause, take a breath, and look into the inner workings of your mind and heart.

If you’re more self aware than most, you might be someone who stops to ponder, who reflects upon the subtleties of human emotion.

So, what are these particular things that set you apart, and why do they matter? 

Let’s dive into self-awareness, exploring the things that you might reflect on as a self-aware individual.

1) Any personal biases you might have

Imagine sitting with a friend and you’re having a lively conversation about politics, race, or religion. 

As the words flow, you catch yourself wondering if your viewpoint is colored by biases you might not even be consciously aware of.

This self-awareness is a defining trait of those who are more in tune with themselves than most.

A few years ago, I found myself involved in a fairly heated chat about immigration policies with a group of friends. 

As the discussion grew more and more intense, I noticed a little bit of discomfort forming inside me.

I realized that my own upbringing and family’s background as immigrants were influencing my stance more than I had been aware of.

This moment of self-awareness allowed me to take a step back, reevaluate my position, and adopt a more laid back, social approach to the chat.

Recognizing our biases is the first step towards dismantling them. 

It enables us to approach discussions with humility, actively seek diverse perspectives, and create an environment where genuine understanding can thrive.

2) How you treat others with empathy

Empathy is somewhat of a superpower of self-aware individuals

When you often reflect on the importance of empathy, you’re demonstrating a heightened understanding of the human condition.

One day, while stuck in a traffic jam, I noticed an agitated driver honking ahead of me. 

Instead of getting worked up, I imagined the stress that person might be under. Perhaps it was a missed meeting, a sick child waiting at home, or an urgent appointment.

This act of empathizing with a stranger’s situation not only cooled down my frustration, it reminded me of the power of empathy.

Empathy enhances our relationships, fosters compassion, and strengthens our emotional intelligence.

It allows us to connect with others on a deeper level and navigate the complexities of our daily interactions with grace.

3) What you’re truly grateful for

Gratitude is a simple but deep practice that often escapes our attention in the hustle and bustle of modern life.

Those who make a habit of reflecting on the things they are thankful for are great at practicing self-awareness.

Every evening, before falling asleep, I love nothing more than to take a moment to list three small things I’m grateful for from the day. 

It could be as trivial as a hot cup of tea or as profound as the support of a loved one during a difficult breakup.

This ritual has not only made me more aware of the beauty in everyday life but has also deepened my sense of joy.

Gratitude is an endless source of positivity because it shifts our focus from what we lack to what we have. 

It reminds us that even in challenging times, we’ve always got something to be thankful for.

4) What you’re working towards in the long run

Life is one heck of a ride. Those who regularly stop to recalibrate their course tend to be more self-aware.

Whether it’s setting career ambitions or personal milestones, this introspection plays a pivotal role in shaping your path.

A few years into my career, I found myself on a path that no longer aligned with the aspirations I set out with in the first place. 

Rather than continuing to move forward autopilot, I took a real step back to reflect on my goals and values. It wasn’t easy.

This led to a huge career change so I could sync up my professional path more closely with my passions.

Reevaluating goals prevents us from mindlessly chasing after things that no longer serve us, like jobs with no career progress, or hobbies that might be a financial drain. 

It allows us to make more intentional choices and find fulfillment in our pursuits, whatever those may be.

5) Your patterns of negative self talk

The voice inside our heads can be our greatest ally or our worst critic. 

Self-aware people often notice the power of self-talk and actively shape it to be more positive.

During a period of self-doubt and uncertainty, I noticed a recurring pattern of negative self-talk. I would berate myself for any failures and shortcomings. 

Recognizing the horrible impact this had on my mental well-being, I began consciously replacing negative thoughts with self-affirming ones. 

Over time, this transformed how I saw myself.

By maintaining positive self-talk, we cultivate self-compassion and resilience, ultimately nurturing a much healthier sense of ourselves.

6) Your ability to be vulnerable with others

The ability to be authentically vulnerable is a tell tale sign of self-aware individuals. 

They recognize that vulnerability is not always weakness — it’s a massive source of strength.

Vulnerability allows us to better connect with others on a level that transcends surface interactions, creating meaningful and enduring connections that go the extra mile.


To sum things up, those who often reflect on their personal biases, practice empathy, cultivate gratitude, reevaluate their goals, monitor their inner self-talk, and embrace vulnerability are stellar examples of self-awareness. 

These simple, everyday practices empower us to navigate our lives with grace and authenticity.

Embrace the power of self-awareness and watch as it transforms your life, one mindful moment at a time. 

In a world filled with distractions, the ability to turn inward and truly look at yourself is a rare and invaluable thing indeed.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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