If you notice these 8 behaviors, you’re dealing with a wise and mature person

They say still waters run deep. And I couldn’t agree more. 

The louder, more brash people, the so-called ‘know-it-alls’ of life, are the way they are because much of the time, they’re overcompensating. 

They don’t possess the intelligence or wisdom they project, so subconsciously, they’ll try hard to prove otherwise. 

Detecting a genuinely wise and mature person requires nuance; their behavior is far more subtle and understated than one might think. 

In this article, I’ll take you through the common behaviors of a wise and mature person. 

Let’s get to it!

1) Emotional regulation

Wise and mature people don’t melt down or go into fits of rage at the first sight of stress. 

Instead, they’re fully in control of their emotions. 

In tough circumstances, most people allow their emotions, like anger or frustration, to get the best of them; which only can make a bad situation far worse. 

When you’re wise and mature, you don’t often panic, which allows you to respond to pressure with calmness, grace, and composure

2) Listening skills

When you’re interacting with a new person, pay attention to how attentive they are. 

You see, wise and mature people tend to be present when they’re conversing with others. 

They show respect and courtesy to the other person by expressing genuine interest in their opinions and thoughts. 

They aren’t preoccupied with their phones, mindlessly scrolling through reels, only offering the occasional generic, uninvolved response. 

Wise and mature people listen far more than they speak. 

Hence, when they do get to talking, their comments and questions tend to be thoughtful, inquisitive and invested. 

As you might have guessed, respect for others is a big deal for the wise and mature person. 

3) Humility

As touched on earlier, when people feel insecure about what they have to offer, the tendency is to overcompensate

Have you noticed how the most genuinely accomplished people in life are often very low-key about their achievements? 

This is because unconsciously, they feel they have nothing to prove. 

They have enough wisdom and maturity to realize that incessantly seeking external validation is a hollow pursuit. 

And not just that, they will never claim to be the best or most knowledgeable in their field. 

They realize that there is always something new to learn; and hence, they consistently show intellectual humility in their approach to life. 

While they know what they bring to the table, they also are aware of their limitations and express an openness to learn from others, regardless of age or status. 

4) Thoughtful decision-making

Wise and mature people don’t often act on impulse either. 

They know from life experience that rash decisions are typically faulty ones

Instead, before rushing to conclusions, they will first engage in careful, methodical thought. 

Their decisions are usually formed through a combination of intuition, experience, and rational, logical thinking rather than impulse or the temptation of short-term gains. 

They know that while enticing, instant gratification often fizzles out; and that having the discipline to make sacrifices and delay reward will pay off in the long run. 

5) Empathy and compassion

Genuinely wise and mature people aren’t cold and aloof, only concerned about themselves. 

I’ve always found that the truly perceptive people (and therefore the wise and mature ones) of life will always have empathy for others, however different or foreign. 

They understand that as humans we all have the same core needs and feelings, and therefore will act accordingly. 

This means more meaningful interactions and connections. 

People tend to gravitate towards them because they can sense and appreciate their empathy–a contagious outlook. 

6) Acceptance of change

Your age doesn’t always mean you automatically have a high level of wisdom. 

I know countless senior citizens who are essentially repulsed by the prospect of change; preferring to stick to their ways, however worn out and tired, perpetually reminiscing about “the good old days. 

The universe is constantly changing, and if you don’t embrace it to some degree, you risk being left far behind. 

The truly wise and mature people of the world will always accept this and therefore adapt with relative ease. 

Rather than view change with hostility as many do, they see it as an opportunity to grow and evolve.

Adaptability is a huge part of wisdom.  

Take it from the late great (and incredibly wise) Bruce Lee: “Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless, like water.” 

7) Resilience

I think it’s safe to say that a lot of people don’t take failure well. 

I know many who will give up the moment they encounter adversity. 

Maybe they’ll be self-defeatist, excessively getting down on themselves for their perceived shortcomings rather than gathering the resolve to try again. 

Wise and mature folks realize that mistakes are a part of life; and know it’s how they bounce back that counts, at the end of the day. 

Sure, they might get disappointed in themselves when they come up short, but they don’t let that feeling define and derail them for long. 

Rather, they actively use their life experiences and failures as learning opportunities. 

More often than not, when you’re armed with the latter mentality, you come back stronger. 

Remember, if any of the great innovators in history threw in the towel prematurely, the world would be a far bleaker place. 

Michael Jordan was rejected from his high school basketball team. 

Einstein was expelled from school. 

Socrates was labeled an “immoral corrupter of youth.” 

Stephen King’s most renowned and first book, Carrie, was rejected thirty times.

The list is endless.  

8) Gratitude

That said… most of the wise and mature people of the world are not rich and famous. 

They’re just normal people trying to make things work, just like you and me. 

But rather than constantly pine for ‘something more,’ they remain content and grateful for what they do have in life. 

They don’t complain and seethe with envy over people on social media who they think have it better. 

Their fulfillment and gratitude come from deep within, not from surface-level comparisons. 

This attitude consistently helps create a positive environment around them.

Final words 

Nobody is born with wisdom and maturity, you gain it from real-life experience. 

So if you feel you aren’t quite where you want to be yet, don’t fret. 

Growth is linear. You will get to where you want to be with the right approach and mindset. 

Keep going. Wisdom and maturity will always be within your grasp, you just have to reach out and get it. 

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