If you let these 9 behaviors slide, your partner will walk all over you

There’s a real distinction between allowing your partner some freedom and letting them trample all over you.

This line can sometimes blur, especially when you’re in love and want to keep the peace. But trust me, ignoring certain behaviors can lead to a one-sided relationship where your needs are forgotten.

Having a balanced relationship means knowing where to draw the line. And believe me, there are specific behaviors that you should never let slide.

Here are eight behaviors that, if left unchecked, could make your partner take you for granted. Don’t just ignore them, confront them and save your relationship from becoming lopsided.

1) Constant criticism

Here’s the thing – criticism isn’t always a bad thing.

Constructive criticism can actually help us grow and improve.

But there’s a big difference between constructive criticism and constant, unrelenting negative feedback. You know the type…it makes you want to give up on everything. 

When you’re in a relationship, you want to feel loved and appreciated, not constantly picked apart for your flaws.

So if your partner is continually criticizing you, it can start to wear down your self-esteem and make you feel like you’re not good enough.

Don’t just brush it off as them being honest or blunt.

They’re not. 

Ultimately, constant criticism is a form of emotional abuse and should not be tolerated.

Stand up for yourself and make it clear that this behavior is not acceptable.

Everyone has flaws, but the right person will love you for who you are, not constantly try to change you.

2) Disregard for your time

I’ll never forget the time I planned a surprise birthday dinner for an ex.

I’d arranged everything, from the food to the guest list.

Yet, he turned up two hours late with no explanation or apology.

Feeling disrespected and disappointed, I realized that he had a habit of disregarding my time and efforts.

Whether it was showing up late for dates or cancelling plans at the last minute, he never seemed to respect my time.

The truth is, we often dismiss these behaviors as minor annoyances.

But if your partner consistently shows no regard for your time, it’s more than just an annoyance.

Put simply, it’s a sign of disrespect.

3) Lack of support

In a balanced relationship, both partners should support each other’s dreams and aspirations.

But what if your partner never supports your goals?

Research shows that having supportive partners contributes significantly to our success.

It’s so powerful, in fact, that they can provide motivation, advice, and even resources to help us achieve our ambitions.

On the other hand, a partner who constantly shoots down your ideas or discourages you from pursuing your passions can hinder your growth and self-esteem.

I can’t stress how important it is to recognize this behavior and address it before it deeply affects your personal development and happiness.

You deserve a partner who believes in you and supports your goals, not one who holds you back.

4) Invasion of privacy

If your partner feels the need to snoop through your phone, emails, or personal belongings, it’s a clear sign they don’t trust you. And without trust, your relationship is on shaky ground.

If you let this type of behavior slide, where will it end? 

They’ve either got to learn to trust you for the sake of the relationship or move on. Staying in limbo, constantly arguing, and disrespecting your boundaries simply isn’t an option. 

Because everyone has a right to personal space and privacy, even in a relationship.

A partner who respects you will understand this and won’t feel the need to invade your privacy. If this boundary is crossed, it’s time to have a serious conversation about trust and respect.

5) Controlling behavior

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One of the most subtle yet damaging behaviors in a relationship is control.

It can start with small things like dictating what you should wear or who you should hang out with, and before you know it, your partner is making all the decisions for you.

Controlling behavior can strip you of your independence and make you feel trapped.

It’s a form of emotional manipulation that can leave you feeling powerless and dependent on your partner.

If you notice your partner is trying to control different aspects of your life, don’t let it slide

You have the right to make your own choices and live your life the way you want. Your partner should respect that, not try to control it.

And if you don’t take a stand?

Well, they’ll happily walk all over you

6) Emotional unavailability

When you’re in a relationship, you expect to share more than just physical intimacy.

There are moments of vulnerability, of fear, joy, and sadness.

But if your partner is not there for you during these times, it can feel incredibly lonely.

You see, emotional unavailability can create an invisible barrier between you and your partner.

If you’re enduring this, remember that it’s not about you.

You deserve someone ready and willing to share the emotional aspects of life with you and you deserve to be loved fully and completely.

Don’t settle for anything less.

7) Disrespectful comments

The same ex I mentioned earlier would constantly make disrespectful comments towards me, even in the presence of our friends.

It was often masked as humor, but the impact was far from funny.

These comments chipped away at my self-esteem and made me question my worth.

It took me a while to realize that these “jokes” were far from harmless.

They were a form of disrespect, undermining my confidence and damaging our relationship.

So, if your partner is making disrespectful comments towards you, don’t accept it.

No one deserves to be belittled or disrespected, especially by someone who’s supposed to love and cherish them. 

8) Ignoring your needs

A relationship is a partnership, a give-and-take between two people.

It’s about understanding and fulfilling each other’s needs.

But what happens when your partner continually ignores your needs?

Whether it’s your emotional needs, like wanting more affection, or physical needs, like help with household chores, if your partner consistently disregards them, it’s a sign of disrespect and indifference.

And not to mention, a blaring sign that they’re walking all over you. 

Ignoring your needs in a relationship can lead to feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction.

It’s crucial to have open communication about your needs and expectations in the relationship.

Remember, you matter. Your needs matter.

And a partner who truly cares about you will make the effort to meet those needs.

9) Lack of mutual respect

At the heart of every successful relationship is mutual respect. You probably picked up on this theme throughout the article.

If your partner consistently shows a lack of respect for you, it’s a glaring red flag that shouldn’t be ignored.

Respect is about valuing each other’s opinions, listening to each other’s thoughts and feelings, and accepting each other’s differences.

If you find yourself in a situation where your partner is exhibiting any of these behaviors, it’s crucial to remember that it’s not about them, but about you. It’s about your self-respect.

If you don’t respect yourself and demand the respect you deserve from your partner, it can be easy to start accepting less than you’re worth.

So, don’t just let these behaviors slide.

Stand up for yourself, communicate your feelings, and create a relationship built on mutual respect. A relationship that you deserve!

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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