If you hold onto these 8 beliefs, you won’t move forward in life

Are you feeling like you’re spinning your wheels, unable to break free from the same old routines? I’ve been there, and let me tell you, sometimes the beliefs we hold onto can be the very things keeping us stuck.

In this journey of self-discovery, I want to share with you 8 beliefs that I’ve found to be real game-changers. They’re the ones that, if we cling to them too tightly, can keep us from moving forward in life. 

So let’s roll up our sleeves, challenge our thinking, and pave the way for a future full of growth and possibilities.

1) Belief in perfection

Here’s a belief that I’ve seen hold back many individuals: the belief in perfection.

Perfection is a myth. It’s an unattainable standard that we often set for ourselves. And when we inevitably fail to reach it, we beat ourselves up. This can lead to a cycle of self-doubt, stress, and even depression.

In my journey with mindfulness and Buddhism, I’ve learned that life isn’t about attaining perfection. It’s about accepting our flaws and learning from our mistakes. That’s how we grow.

You see, when we strive for perfection, we’re often scared to try new things for fear of failing. This fear keeps us stuck in our comfort zones, hindering us from moving forward in life.

Instead of striving for perfection, why not aim for progress? Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them. Remember, every failure is a step closer to success.

2) Fear of change

Change is a constant part of life. It’s as inevitable as the rising sun. Yet, so many of us resist it. We get comfortable in our routines and dread any disruption.

I too struggled with this fear for a long time. But during my exploration of Buddhism, I stumbled upon a quote by Pema Chödrön, a renowned Tibetan Buddhist nun and teacher.

She said, “Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”

This quote really resonated with me. It underscores the importance of embracing life’s lessons and experiences, even those that are challenging or uncomfortable.

And until we fully understand and integrate the wisdom inherent in a situation, it will continue to manifest in our lives, perhaps in different forms or circumstances.

If you hold onto the belief that change is something to be avoided, you’ll find yourself stuck. Life will pass you by while you cling to the familiar.

3) Attachment to material possessions

In our consumer-driven society, it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that our worth is tied to our material possessions. The more we have, the more successful we are, right?

Well, not exactly. Buddhism teaches us a different perspective.

One of the fundamental teachings of Buddhism is the concept of Anatta, or non-self. This concept challenges the belief that our identity is tied to our possessions or status.

In reality, these things are transient. They can be lost, stolen or destroyed. If we base our self-worth on them, we’re setting ourselves up for a lot of suffering.

Moreover, the desire for more can become a never-ending cycle of dissatisfaction. No matter how much we accumulate, it’s never enough.

This belief in materialism can hinder our progress in life. It can prevent us from finding true happiness and contentment within ourselves.

4) Living in the past or future

When I reflect on my own journey, I’ve found that dwelling on the past often fills me with regret and guilt for things I can’t alter.

Similarly, when I fixate on the future, I realize I’m robbing myself of the beauty and tranquility that exists in the present moment.

This belief—that happiness resides somewhere beyond the present—has left me feeling stagnant and unfulfilled at times. It’s akin to being trapped on a treadmill, endlessly exerting effort but never moving forward.

However, through my practice of mindfulness, I’ve discovered a path to release these limiting beliefs.

By embracing the practice of being fully present, I’ve learned to cherish each moment as it unfolds, finding solace and contentment in the simplicity of the now.

So, practice accepting the present moment as it is, without judgment or resistance. Acceptance can help you let go of the need to control or change things and find peace in the here and now.

5) Ego-driven existence

difficult to admit reasons youve stopped growing as a person and your life needs a shake up If you hold onto these 8 beliefs, you won’t move forward in life

Let’s talk about a belief that can be a real roadblock to personal growth: living an ego-driven life.

We all have an ego. It’s part of being human. But when we let our ego take the driver’s seat, we can forget about moving forward in life.

I’ve seen this in my own journey. The more I tried to protect and inflate my ego, the more dissatisfied and disconnected I felt.

It was only when I started embracing the principles of Buddhism and mindfulness that things started to change.

In my book, Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego, I delve deeper into how you can break free from an ego-driven existence.

The truth is, when we’re overly concerned with our self-image, we become slaves to the opinions of others. We stop living authentically and start performing for approval.

6) Fear of vulnerability

It’s true: Vulnerability can be scary. However, the teachings of Buddhism and mindfulness reveal a profound truth: true strength lies in embracing our emotions, vulnerabilities included.

When we succumb to the fear of vulnerability, we inadvertently construct barriers around our hearts. We bury our authentic selves beneath layers of pretense, shielding our true emotions and desires from the world for fear of rejection or criticism.

Yet, in doing so, we deny ourselves the opportunity to be truly seen and understood, relegating ourselves to a life of superficiality and isolation.

But here’s the truth: Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s a courageous act of opening yourself up to others. It’s about being honest with your feelings and allowing yourself to experience deep connections with those around you.

7) Belief in constant happiness

In today’s world, we’re constantly bombarded with the idea that we should be happy all the time. However, this belief can be detrimental and can halt our progress in life.

Buddhism teaches us about the reality of suffering, or “Dukkha”. It’s a part of life, just like joy and happiness. The key is to understand and accept this, rather than constantly striving for a state of perpetual happiness.

In fact, Thich Nhat Hanh, a renowned Buddhist monk and mindfulness expert, beautifully says, “The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don’t wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy.”

Pursuing constant happiness can lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction. It’s important to realize that it’s okay not to be okay sometimes.

It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or hurt. These feelings are just as valid and important as happiness.

8) The need for control

Here’s a belief that might sound counterintuitive: the need to control everything.

Many of us are brought up to believe that we must control every aspect of our lives. We plan and strategize, trying to predict and influence every outcome. But life, as you might have noticed, doesn’t always follow our plans.

Mindfulness teaches us to let go of this illusion of control. It encourages us to accept that life is unpredictable and full of uncertainties. And that’s okay.

By constantly trying to control everything, we set ourselves up for stress and disappointment. We miss out on the beauty of spontaneity and the joy of unexpected surprises.

Instead of trying to control everything, mindfulness encourages us to be present and accept life as it unfolds. It’s about learning to ride the waves, not trying to stop the ocean.

Letting go of this need for control can lead to a more peaceful and fulfilling life. It allows us to be more adaptable, resilient, and open to new experiences. And these are the qualities that truly help us move forward in life.

True transformation begins with awareness

And just like that, we’ve uncovered 8 beliefs that could be holding us back from progress.

But here’s the thing: once we identify and confront these beliefs head-on, we’re already taking strides towards personal growth and contentment.

Remember, awareness is the first step towards change. So if you find yourself resonating with any of these beliefs, don’t be too tough on yourself.

The mere fact that you’re here, reading this, indicates that you’re already journeying toward a brighter future. Keep going—you’re on the right track.

For more insights into how to live with maximum impact and minimum ego, I invite you to check out my book Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego.

It’s a guide that draws from the wisdom of Buddhism and mindfulness to help you navigate life’s ups and downs.

Let this be your first step towards letting go of these unhelpful beliefs and embracing a more fulfilling life.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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