If you have these 14 traits, you won’t be alone for very long

Are you tired of feeling lonely? Do you long for meaningful connections and companionship?

Well, look no further because we have the secret to ending your solitary days.

As someone who have always struggled to attract some company, learning these tricks and traits has helped me broaden my social circle and beat down loneliness.

While finding love and friendship is not an exact science, there are certain traits that can significantly increase your chances of attracting others and forming lasting bonds.

But take it from me:

If you have these 14 traits, you won’t be alone for very long.

1) You are empathetic and understanding

The power of empathy cannot be overstated. People are naturally drawn to those who understand and validate their emotions.

When you can empathize with others and understand them, you create a deep sense of connection and fosters a bond of trust.

Put yourself in others’ shoes, try to see things from their perspective, and validate their emotions.

By showing genuine empathy and understanding, you’ll become a magnet for companionship.

2) You are authentic

Being true to yourself is the key to attracting like-minded individuals.

When you embrace your uniqueness and let your true personality shine, you exude an aura of confidence and charm.

But here’s the catch:

In the era of social media, being authentic can be a tad difficult. Here’s my advice; don’t fall for social media posts and join the ‘faking till you make it’ bandwagon.

Be you both online and offline.

People are naturally attracted to individuals who are comfortable in their own skin and who aren’t afraid to be authentic.

3) You have a positive attitude

Positivity is contagious, and it’s a trait that draws people in. Nobody wants to be around a constant complainer or someone who brings others down.

When I discovered that I was complaining a bit too much, I made a decision to look on the positive side of things. Suddenly, people wanted to be around me. Turns out people get really turned off by negative vibes.

Here’s the thing:

By maintaining a positive outlook on life, you radiate good vibes and become a source of inspiration for those around you.

Positivity not only attracts others, but also helps sustain relationships in the long run.

4) You have a sense of humor

Laughter truly is the best medicine, especially when it comes to forging connections.

A good sense of humor can break the ice, lighten the mood, and create memorable shared experiences.

You aren’t naturally humorous, you say?

Read comic books, watch sitcoms, or share that funny meme in your phone gallery. You may just draw a smile from someone and earn yourself some great company while at it.

When you can make others laugh and find joy in the everyday moments, you’ll find yourself surrounded by people who appreciate your wit and enjoy your company.

5) You are open-minded

signs of a growth mindset If you have these 14 traits, you won’t be alone for very long

The world is full of diverse perspectives and ideas. By being open-minded, you demonstrate a willingness to learn and grow from others.

Give me a second to explain:

Just imagine being around someone who doesn’t appreciate other people’s perspectives! It makes you feel worthless and puts off any meaningful interaction.

Conversely, being open-minded not only broadens your own horizons, but also attracts people who value intellectual and cultural exchange.

Embracing different viewpoints and experiences enriches your life and creates connections that transcend boundaries.

6) You practice kindness

It’s a common phrase these days that if you can’t be anything else, just be kind.

Here’s the reason:

Kindness is a universal language that transcends differences. Acts of kindness have a profound impact on both the giver and the receiver.

When you show genuine care and compassion for others, you create a positive ripple effect that draws people towards you.

Dolly Parton’s Silver and Gold is one of my favorite track. Here is part of the lyrics;

Well, I met an old man walkin’ down the street, His clothes were torn and tattered

With sandals on his feet And I stopped to help him

And lend him a hand He said, I love you so much

But you must understand

Silver and gold might buy you a home But things of this world

They won’t last you long, And time has a way of turning us old

And time can’t be bought back with silver and gold

There is immense value in being kind, which is greater than silver and gold. Kindness builds bridges and fosters deep connections that can withstand the test of time.

7) You are passionate

There’s something undeniably attractive about someone who is passionate and driven.

Here’s the thing:

When you pursue your passions wholeheartedly, you exude enthusiasm and energy that is contagious. Who wouldn’t want to be around people who pursue goals with fervor?

Passionate individuals often inspire and motivate others to chase their own dreams.By following your own passions, you’ll attract like-minded individuals who share your zest for life.

8) You are an active listener

Communication is a vital component of any relationship. Being a good listener means genuinely paying attention to others and seeking to understand their perspectives.

Here’s how to develop active listening skills;

Avoid interrupting or formulating responses in your mind while they’re speaking.

Instead, focus on truly understanding their words and feelings. Being a good listener fosters trust and demonstrates your investment in the relationship.

Give undivided attention, maintain eye contact, and engage meaningfully in conversations., By doing this, you create a safe space for others to open up.

Being an attentive listener not only strengthens bonds, but also shows others that you genuinely care.

9) You are self-confident

Confidence is magnetic. When you believe in yourself and your abilities, it shows.

People are naturally attracted to those who exude self-confidence because they inspire trust and admiration.

By embracing your strengths and accepting your imperfections, you’ll become a beacon of confidence that others will gravitate towards.

But there’s a catch:

Being too overconfident can actually put people off. No one likes hanging out with a narcissist or arrogant person. 

Maintain that balance between being confident and overconfidence, and you will be on your way to fostering great relationships.

10) You have a growth mindset

Life is a journey of continuous growth and learning. 

Here’s what you need to know:

By adopting a growth mindset, you demonstrate a willingness to evolve and improve. People are attracted to individuals who are constantly seeking self-improvement and personal growth.

Embracing challenges, learning from failures, and striving to be the best version of yourself, enables yo to attract others who share your drive for personal development.

11) You express gratitude to others

truly selfless person If you have these 14 traits, you won’t be alone for very long

Everyone likes to feel appreciated and valued. Expressing gratitude for the presence and contributions of others can go a long way in strengthening your relationships.

I discovered the power of gratitude from my daughter. She had such poor eating habits which made me sick, literally.

When I started thanking her for good behavior, we became close and her eating habits suddenly improved.

Whether it’s a simple thank you, a heartfelt compliment, or acknowledging someone’s efforts, showing appreciation shows that you recognize and value their presence in your life.

12) You are reliable and trustworthy

Reliability and trustworthiness are fundamental pillars of any lasting relationship.

Be someone others can depend on, follow through on your commitments, and maintain confidentiality.

Personally, I like to believe I am a reliable person. Sadly, I don’t always find help when I need it most. Does that change who I am? No, I keep doing my best to all who require my hand.

Being trustworthy and reliable creates a safe space where others feel comfortable opening up and sharing their thoughts and feelings.

13) You engage in shared activities

Finding common ground and engaging in shared activities or interests can strengthen bonds and create lasting memories.

When I joined college, I had difficulties forming friendships. Until I decided to go out more and join clubs.

I made a lot of friends who lightened up my campus life, and life after.

Whether it’s pursuing hobbies together, joining a club or group, or simply exploring new experiences, shared activities provide opportunities for connection and deeper understanding.

14) You let go

No relationship is without its challenges. It’s essential to practice forgiveness and let go of grudges to maintain healthy connections.

Holding onto past grievances only weighs down relationships and prevents growth. Learn to forgive and move forward, allowing room for healing and renewed trust.

There’s a problem though:

Don’t allow others to take advantage of your forgiving nature to trample upon you. Set boundaries and have people respect these boundaries.

Final thoughts

While possessing these traits doesn’t guarantee an instant influx of companionship, they significantly increase your chances of forming meaningful connections.

Remember, building relationships takes time and effort, but by embodying some of these traits can turn you into a magnet that attracts others to your life.

So, be patient and watch as loneliness becomes a thing of the past. 

Your social circle is about to grow, and your days of solitude are numbered.

Martha Croissy

Martha Croissy

Martha is a freelance writer specializing in positive psychology, self-help, and personal development topics. When not hitting the keyboard, Martha loves cooking and traveling. Email: marthacroissy@gmail.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/martha-croissy-a81670238/

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