If you genuinely enjoy being alone, you probably have these 16 unique strengths

“It’s easy to stand with the crowd. It takes courage to stand alone.” – Mahatma Gandhi

As a person who loves being alone, allow me to modify Gandhi’s quote to make it relevant to myself and fellow lone wolves out there: Alone, I discover the strength that crowds can’t teach.

And if you’re like me and love your alone time, you probably have some incredible strengths that not everyone understands.

That said, let’s start by looking into 16 unique strengths shared by people who genuinely enjoy being alone:

1) You’re self-sufficient 

Self-sufficiency is our signature trait as individuals who love solitude. 

People like us who enjoy being alone naturally develop the ability to handle various aspects of our life without constant assistance. 

We turn into our own problem solvers, motivators, and even become the best company to ourselves.

And if Epicurus is to be believed, our self-sufficiency is not just a strength – apparently it’s our riches, too.

Here’s what he said: “Self-sufficiency is the greatest of all wealth.”

2) You’re capable of deep focus

One of your undeniable strengths as a person who loves your time on our own is your ability to really concentrate.

Because you’re free from the usual distractions brought about by constant social interactions, you have the privilege of diving deep into your thing – whether it’s your hobbies, work or studies.

This intense level of concentration not only helps you from achieving remarkable accomplishments, but it also helps clarify your innermost thoughts.

As Laurence Sterne aptly says, “In solitude, the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.”

3) You have enhanced creativity

Another beautiful thing that comes out of concentration in solitude is creativity.

Think about it: When you’re alone, you don’t have the limitations of other people’s opinions or judgments.

This means your imagination is free to run wild and your creativity wheels go on hyper speed.

It goes wild and fast enough that you come up with innovative ideas and solutions that you probably wouldn’t have thought of in the hustle of a group setting.

4) You are resourceful

Resourcefulness is a super strength that goes hand in hand with creativity. 

When you enjoy your own company, you tend to rely on yourself to find solutions and alternatives and often, you develop a knack for improvisation. 

Without external inputs, you become really good at using what’s available in unconventional ways, proving that solitude can be the push you need to become ingenious in your own way.

5) You have a more perceptive insight

The domino effect of being alone doesn’t end at resourcefulness.

Here’s proof:

When your creativity kicks into high gear, you start noticing things around you more clearly.

This sharp eye for detail helps you understand people and situations better.

I couldn’t think of any better example for this than a former colleague.

He was often quiet and kept to himself yet he would consistently have the most insightful contributions to our meetings. 

He’s living proof that breeds insight.

Clearly, his time alone allowed him to develop a deeper understanding and a broader perspective.

6) You’ve mastered the art of introspection

Not only are you good at understanding and reading others, but you’re also great at exploring your own thoughts and feelings.

Your time alone allows you the perfect environment for this – free of distractions and interruptions, allowing you to process your thoughts and feelings at your own pace, in your own way.

7) You have a high level of self-awareness

A byproduct of your regular introspection is a high self-awareness.

It makes perfect and logical sense, really.

When you spend hours looking within, you have a clearer grasp of your strengths, weaknesses, desires and fears.

Lao Tzu couldn’t have emphasised the immense strength of self awareness better when he said: “Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.” 

8) You have meaningful relationships

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Contrary to popular belief, our love for being alone doesn’t translate to our dislike of having friendships and other interpersonal relationships. 

The truth is, we just prefer deep and genuine bonds over superficial connections. 

I know it’s so overused but it’s really about quality over quantity.

And if this sounds like you, don’t buy into the narrative that you’re a snob.

Embrace your “pickiness” in friendship as a strength rather than a flaw.

After all, it’s more than okay to be selective with who you invest your time in.

9) You are independent in your relationships

Speaking of relationships, here’s another unique strength of lone wolves like you and me:

We often bring a healthy level of independence to our relationships. 

When you value your alone time, you are less likely to be clingy or overly dependent on your partner (or friends or family) for emotional support or entertainment. 

This independence can lead to healthier and more balanced relationships, where each person respects and values the other’s need for space and personal growth.

10) You have clear boundaries

Individuals who know the value of personal space are also individuals who are very good at setting and maintaining clear boundaries.

Here’s an example:

People may label and misinterpret you as being “anti-social” when you decline an invitation for a party or a night out. 

But you know better. 

When you unapologetically decline someone’s invite, it has nothing to do with them but it has more to do with you and your need for time to yourself. 

11) You’re unbelievably emotionally strong

Genuinely enjoying being alone often means you are used to facing and managing your feelings directly.

Whether it’s dealing with loneliness or working through personal issues, us lone wolves are great at making the most of our own company to develop significant emotional strength.

We take time to meditate and reflect on our experiences, thoughts, and feelings and this practices makes us less reactive and more proactive about our emotional well-being.

12) You possess exceptional mindfulness

This one’s a lesser obvious strength, as others can’t usually tell. 

But if you genuinely find happiness in being alone, you know that one of the benefits of this is your heightened sense of mindfulness.

You’re the type who’s more present in the moment, who’s more appreciative of the little things, and who’s less distracted by external noise.

Thanks to your moments of solitude, you’ve developed heightened sensory perceptions that allow you to have deeper appreciation for the present moment and all the beauty it brings.

13) You have strong decision-making skills

Decision making is probably something that you don’t often hear associated with the love of being alone but hear me out:

Without the pressure to conform to others’ opinions, you tend to make choices that truly resonate with your personal beliefs and needs.

This is a strength that lets you live a life full of more authentic choices, guided by your personal desires and intuition rather than the influence of others around you.

14) You are incredibly resilient

Let’s face it:

Not all our choices and decisions in life work out for us.

Thankfully, our time spent alone has equipped us to handle life’s ups and downs better. 

We don’t heavily rely on others to pick us up when we’re down. 

We’re the type of people who develop our own coping strategies – the type who use our ability to self-soothe as a powerful tool to bounce back from any misfortune that life throws our way.

15) You’re impressively patient

In the same way that we understand that things may not always go our way, we also understand that it can sometimes take time before we get what we want.

Believe it or not, your  time alone has helped stretch your patience. 

It’s all thanks to those times you’ve spent engaging in activities that require a slow and steady pace, like gardening, puzzle solving, or going through those thousands of levels in your console game.

Your ability to wait for results without immediate gratification is a strength that you carry into all areas of your life.

But you don’t mind the wait.

In fact, you know it’s worth it, because you’ve lived time again the words of Maya Angelou when she said: “All great achievements require time.”

16) You are surprisingly confident

Another misconception about people who love being alone is that they’re shy and lack confidence. 

But here’s the reality:

Spending time alone can boost one’s confidence.

When you manage your life independently and make decisions solo, you prove to yourself that you can face challenges on your own.

Simply put, the more you do independently, the more you reinforce your confidence by seeing just how capable you are.

The takeaway

Do these strengths feel familiar? 

If loving solitude feels like a part of who you are, don’t be ashamed to embrace these unique qualities you hold.

Remember, it isn’t about avoiding people. 

It’s about having the space to figure out yourself – feelings, thoughts, and all.

In the words of Anthony Burgess: “To be left alone is the most precious thing one can ask of the modern world.” 

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Ava Sinclair

Ava Sinclair is a former competitive athlete who transitioned into the world of wellness and mindfulness. Her journey through the highs and lows of competitive sports has given her a unique perspective on resilience and mental toughness. Ava’s writing reflects her belief in the power of small, daily habits to create lasting change.

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