If you feel like you’re sliding backwards in life, say goodbye to these 10 behaviors

You know that sinking feeling when it feels like you’re going in reverse in life? That’s not a fun place to be. However, often it’s our habits that pull us back.

It’s like you’re trying to swim upstream while carrying a sack of rocks. The more stones you carry, the harder it becomes. Well, guess what? Some behaviors are those heavy stones.

Letting go of these behaviors might be your ticket to stop the backward slide and start moving forward.

So, let’s dive into this and say goodbye to these 10 behaviors that might be holding you back. Trust me, it’s a lot easier than you think.

1) Stuck living in the past

We all have a history, a collection of experiences that have shaped who we are today. However, if you find yourself constantly dwelling on past mistakes or reminiscing about better days gone by, you’re not truly living in the present.

Living in the past can seriously hinder your progress in life. It’s like trying to drive forward while constantly looking in the rearview mirror. You’re bound to crash sooner or later.

Living in the past can make it feel like you’re sliding backwards in life. Your past, whether filled with regrets or triumphs, is not a place of residence but a place of reference.

It’s okay to look back and learn from it, but if you’re always looking backward, you may miss the opportunities that lie ahead.

Dwelling on past mistakes or missed opportunities can prevent you from moving forward. The past is called the ‘past’ for a reason. It’s gone. Done. Finished. And nothing can change what’s already happened.

Try to learn from your mistakes and use them as stepping stones to move forward. 

The past might have shaped who you are, but it doesn’t have to define what you can become. So, let go of yesterday and start living for today.

Focus on the present and future, learning from the past without being anchored to it. Growth happens when we embrace the unknown and step into the future.

After all, a wise man once said that the only time you should ever look back is to see how far you’ve come!

2) Playing the blame game

I’ll admit, I’ve been caught in this trap before. It’s so easy to blame others for our setbacks.

Playing the blame game is a surefire way to stay stuck. It’s like you’re in a boat with a hole in it, but instead of trying to fix the hole, you’re busy pointing fingers at who caused it.

The truth is, your life is your responsibility. Sure, people and circumstances can influence it, but at the end of the day, how you respond to them is what really counts.

So stop blaming others. Start taking accountability for your actions. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but once you do, you’ll find that you have more control over your life than you think. And trust me, that’s an empowering feeling.

3) Neglecting self-care

In the rush of life, it’s easy to put self-care on the back burner. But did you know that neglecting self-care can actually lead to burnout and slow your progress in life?

The human body and mind are not machines; they need regular maintenance and care. When you neglect your physical and emotional health, your energy levels decrease, your well-being can suffer, and your overall productivity can decline.

Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. So, make time for relaxation, exercise, a healthy diet, and activities that bring you joy. Prioritizing your well-being is a necessity for growth and success.

In fact, by keeping your cup full, you’ll be better equipped to handle life’s challenges and move forward. So make self-care a priority and watch how it positively impacts your life.

4) Fear of failure

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Failure is terrifying, isn’t it? We’ve all felt that icy knot in our stomachs, the dread of falling short, of not being good enough. But here’s the hard truth: fear of failure can hold you back more than failure itself. 

When you’re consumed by fear, you avoid taking risks or stepping out of your comfort zone. You may choose to stay in a stagnant situation rather than risking failure.

But in doing so, you’re also missing out on potential opportunities for growth and success.

Understand that failure is not the end of the world. It’s a stepping stone on the path to success, a learning opportunity. The most successful people are often those who have failed the most.

Don’t let the fear of failure paralyze you and stop you from trying new things. Instead, see failure not as a setback but as part of the journey to success. Embrace it, learn from it, and keep moving forward.

After all, the only real failure in life is not trying at all. So say goodbye to your fear of failure and hello to new opportunities.

5) Procrastination

We’ve all been there – that report that needs to be written, the gym membership that’s gathering dust, or even that dream trip you’ve always wanted to take. But instead of taking action, we keep putting it off.

Procrastination can seem like a harmless habit, but it’s a silent killer of dreams. It’s like a giant roadblock on your path to success, only it’s one you’ve put there yourself.

Continually putting off tasks can lead to a cycle of last-minute rushes and increased stress. 

The truth is, there will never be a perfect time to start. There will always be reasons to put things off. But the longer you wait, the harder it becomes.

So, start now. Take that first step. Even if it’s small, it’s still a step forward.

Tackle tasks in a timely manner to maintain progress and reduce anxiety. Remember, progress is progress, no matter how small.

So say goodbye to procrastination and start taking action towards your goals. Trust me, future you will thank you for it.

6) Not believing in yourself

This one is close to my heart. I’ve seen so many people, talented and capable, held back simply because they didn’t believe in themselves.

Self-doubt is a crippling thing. It is a belief that we pick up along the way from negative experiences, harsh criticism and negative comments from others, our own insecurities or unrealistic societal expectations.

It’s like a shadow that follows you around, whispering in your ear that you’re not good enough, smart enough, talented enough, or you don’t have what it takes to succeed. 

But here’s the thing: you are enough. You have unique talents, skills, abilities, and experiences that make you perfectly equipped for your journey and capable of realizing your dreams.

And the moment you start believing in yourself, you’ll be amazed at what you can achieve.

Believing in yourself is about acknowledging your worth, recognizing your potential, and believe that you are certainly worthy of all the success in the world!

So let go of self-doubt and start believing in yourself. Because once you do, there’s nothing that can hold you back. Trust me on this one – it’s a game changer.

7) Comparing yourself to others

Here’s a confession: I used to constantly compare myself to others, seeing someone else’s success and feeling like I’m falling behind. Whether it was their success, their looks, or their seemingly perfect lives on social media, I’d find myself feeling inadequate.

But here’s what I’ve learned: comparison is the thief of joy.

Everyone is on their own unique journey, with their own pace, their own victories and their own battles to fight. Comparing your chapter 2 to someone else’s chapter 20 is not only unfair but also unproductive.

The reality is, there will always be someone who seems to have more than you. But that doesn’t make them better or more successful than you.

Comparing yourself to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and jealousy. It is a dangerous game, like running on a treadmill – no matter how fast you run, you’re always in the same place.

What matters is not how you stack up against others, but how far you’ve come from where you started.

So stop comparing yourself to others, start focusing on your own progress and celebrating your achievements, no matter how small they may seem.

Because at the end of the day, the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.

8) Avoiding change

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Change can be scary. It’s like stepping into the unknown, not knowing what lies ahead. But here’s the thing – change is inevitable. It’s a part of life.

Avoiding change is like trying to hold back the ocean with a broom. It’s not only impossible, but it’s also exhausting.

Embrace the changes that come your way. They can be uncomfortable and challenging at first. But they can also lead to growth, new opportunities, and a better life.

Remember, the only constant in life is change. So say goodbye to your fear of change and start embracing the opportunities it brings. Because who knows?

The change you’re avoiding could be the one that leads to the life you’ve always dreamt of.

9) Not setting clear goals

This is crucial. Without clear goals, you’re like a ship without a compass, drifting aimlessly in the sea. You could get through your days feeling like you’re extremely busy but not really moving forward. 

Setting clear and achievable goals gives you a sense of direction. It’s like having a roadmap that guides you towards your desired destination.

But it’s not just about setting goals. It’s about making them meaningful. Goals that resonate with who you are and what you truly want in life.

So set clear, meaningful goals and commit to achieving them. Because when you have a clear vision of where you want to go, the journey becomes a lot more fulfilling.

10) Not being true to yourself

This is probably the rawest and most honest point on this list: if you’re not being true to yourself, you will always feel stuck.

Not being true to yourself can mean not pursuing your genuine interests and passions. This can lead to regret for not following what truly mattered to you.

Living in a way that doesn’t align with your true self often leads to a profound sense of unfulfillment. You may achieve goals, but if they don’t resonate with your core values, they won’t bring true satisfaction.

If you’re constantly trying to please others, conform to expectations, or live someone else’s life, you’re not living your own. And that can make you feel like you’re sliding backwards. 

Being true to yourself is essential for genuine happiness, fulfilling relationships, and personal growth.

It involves embracing who you are, following your own path, living according to your personal values, and expressing your individuality.

This authenticity is key to living a fulfilling and meaningful life. And in the end, that’s what truly matters.

Final thoughts: It’s about taking control over your life

At the crux of it all, these behaviors are about one thing: control. Specifically, how much control you’re willing to take over your life.

Each of these behaviors, in one way or another, passively hands over control to external factors. Whether it’s other people, past mistakes, or fears of an uncertain future.

But the moment you decide to let go of these behaviors is the moment you take back that control. It’s the moment you say, “I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul.”

Because at the end of the day, progress isn’t about how fast or how far you go. It’s about constantly moving forward, no matter how small the steps might be.

So take a deep breath, let go of these behaviors and start taking control of your life. Because remember, this isn’t just about avoiding sliding backwards. This is about propelling yourself forward to the life you’ve always dreamt of.

And trust me, it’s within your reach.

Eliza Hartley

Eliza Hartley

Eliza Hartley, a London-based writer, is passionate about helping others discover the power of self-improvement. Her approach combines everyday wisdom with practical strategies, shaped by her own journey overcoming personal challenges. Eliza's articles resonate with those seeking to navigate life's complexities with grace and strength.

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