If someone uses these 10 phrases, they’re being disrespectful and arrogant

Ever bumped into someone whose words just rub you the wrong way?

It’s not always what they say, but how they say it. Some phrases are dead giveaways of disrespect and arrogance.

We’re going to look at 10 such phrases that scream “I’m not cool to be around.”

Keep an eye out for these – they’re the red flags of conversation.

Here’s the first point:

1) “I don’t mean to be rude, but…”

Isn’t it funny how a sentence that starts with “I don’t mean to be rude” usually ends with something… well, rude?

This is a classic phrase that people often use when they’re about to say something that they know is disrespectful.

Let’s be honest, it’s like they believe this little disclaimer at the beginning will shield them from any backlash.

The truth is, it doesn’t.

If anything, it makes things worse because it shows that they’re aware that what they’re about to say is not nice.

So, next time someone starts a sentence this way, be prepared. Chances are they’re about to say something that they already know is out of line.

2) “No offense, but…”

Similarly to our first phrase, “No offense, but…” is a phrase that usually signals that an offensive comment is coming your way.

People often use this when they want to say something that could hurt or belittle you, but they don’t want to take responsibility for the impact of their words.

It doesn’t quite work that way though. 

Here’s the key:

People who don’t want to offend you won’t say offensive things.

In my experience, when you hear this phrase, what comes next will be less than pleasant.

3) “Not to brag, but…”

Wants to boast about something but doesn’t want to appear arrogant?

You see, it seems these individuals think that adding a “Not to brag, but…” at the beginning, makes the bragging part more acceptable.

I remember once having a friend who was always quick to remind us of his accomplishments.

He’d say things like, “Not to brag, but I just got promoted again”. It felt like he was always trying to prove that he was better than us.

The thing is, there’s nothing wrong with being proud of your accomplishments and sharing them with others.

But when you start every sentence with “Not to brag, but…”, it can come across as if you’re looking down on others or showing off, and most likely at the wrong time. It’s more respectful to let your actions speak for themselves.

4) “Everyone knows that…”

“Everyone knows that…” is a phrase often used by people to assert their opinion as a universal fact.

It’s a veiled attempt to belittle anyone who might have a differing viewpoint, making them feel uninformed or out of touch.

Interestingly, this phrase is actually an example of a logical fallacy known as “appeal to common belief,” where someone tries to argue that because a belief is widely held, it must be true.

But here’s the thing: just because an idea is popular doesn’t make it accurate.

Think about it.

The Earth was once widely believed to be flat, but that didn’t make it so.

After all, there’s no harm in questioning it if it stops them from trying to impose their views on you without leaving room for discussion.

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5) “If I were you…”

You know how some people assume that they know what’s best for you?

They’ll use the phrase “If I were you…” often trying to give unsolicited advice or make decisions for you which can be pretty disrespectful.

At the end of the day, we all have unique experiences and feelings that shape our decisions.

The truth is what would work for one person might not work for another. 

Each of us has the strength and wisdom to make the best choices for ourselves.

In essence, you’re perfectly capable of making your own choices, based on your unique experiences and perspectives.

6) “Actually…”

“Actually…” is one of those words that can easily slip into our conversations without us realizing it.

But it’s a word that can often be used to correct someone or to show off one’s knowledge.

I’ll share a personal story here.

I had a colleague who had a habit of starting his sentences with “Actually…”.

It felt as if every conversation with him was an opportunity for him to correct me, even when the discussion wasn’t about facts or there was no right or wrong.

For example, if I said, “I love the new design of our website,” he’d reply, “Actually, the color scheme could be better.”

Honestly speaking, it made me feel like my opinions were constantly being challenged.

In a nutshell, be aware when you hear “Actually…” frequently from someone. They might be subtly dismissing your thoughts or experiences.

7) “Whatever you think…”

“Whatever you think…” sounds like it should be a polite phrase, right?

Like the person is valuing your opinion. But more often than not, it’s used dismissively.

Ever been in a conversation where you’re trying to explain your point of view, and the other person says, “Whatever you think…”?

Consider this:

It can feel like they’re saying, “I don’t care about your opinion.”

It’s a sneaky little phrase that can make you feel like your thoughts or feelings are being pushed aside.

After all, it’s a signal that the person isn’t interested in understanding your perspective or having a genuine conversation.

8) “I’m just saying…”

If there’s a phrase often used as a sort of disclaimer after someone makes a blunt or potentially offensive statement that’s “I’m just saying…” 

You know what I think?

I think it’s almost as if they’re trying to distance themselves from the impact of their own words.

Interestingly, psychologists refer to this as a form of ‘verbal leakage’ – when people reveal more than they intend to.

When someone says, “I’m just saying…”, they’re unconsciously admitting that their comment might stir trouble, but they want to say it anyway.

Remember, if someone truly means no harm, they’ll communicate their thoughts respectfully and considerately.

9) “Don’t take it personally…”

More often than not, this phrase is used when someone wants to say something negative about you, but they don’t want to deal with the fallout.

The truth is, when someone uses this phrase, they’re usually about to say something personal.

However, they’re just trying to make themselves feel better about saying it.

In the end, you have every right to feel whatever you feel when someone says something about you. No one else gets to decide that for you.

10) “You wouldn’t understand…”

Last, but not least.

“You wouldn’t understand…” is a classic example of someone being dismissive and condescending.

Here’s the thing:

It’s a way to shut down a conversation and invalidate someone else’s perspective or feelings.

It’s like they’re saying, “I’m smarter than you,” or “Your experiences and feelings don’t matter.”

And that’s just not fair. We all have to start and learn from somewhere. 

So next time someone tells you, “You wouldn’t understand…”, remember this: Your thoughts, feelings, and experiences are valid. Stand your ground, ask questions, and demand respect.

Clifton Kopp

Clifton Kopp

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