If someone uses these 10 phrases, they’re a naturally kind person

Have you ever come out of a conversation thinking how nice somebody was?

I’m talking about being polite, caring, selfless, and compassionate.

Honestly, it’s incredibly contagious and you can’t help but feel uplifted after interacting with these real-life superheroes.

And you know what the best thing is?

It comes so effortless and natural to them (they actually mean what they’re saying).

If you’re wondering how they do it (or you want to add a sprinkle of kindness into your own conversations), read on.

In this article, I’ll go through 10 phrases that genuinely kind people tend to use.

1) “I know what you mean.”

Empathy is at the heart of kindness.

In other words, someone’s ability to put themselves in your shoes and really feel what you feel.

This phrase hits the nail on the head when it comes to relating and connecting with someone.

Here’s the thing.

Whether you’re casually sharing an opinion or pouring your heart out (about your deepest insecurities) – it feels great to learn you’re not alone.

After all, a problem shared is a problem halved.

A recent study backs this up, concluding that when people share their worries with others, it makes them feel better!

2) “Take your time.”

Being kind is also about actively listening and having the patience of a saint.

If you’re anything like me, you won’t always get your message across on the first attempt. Especially in large group situations or presentations (when all eyes are on you).

But this phrase takes all the pressure away.

Which makes it such a kind thing to say!

It shows that they’re in no rush, and fully focused on what you’re trying to communicate.

It’s particularly considerate (and kind) if they see you struggling or hesitating.

3) “Thank you.”

It’s the small things that count.

And while saying thank you might not seem like a big deal, it can often go a long way.

Good manners and a basic level of politeness demonstrate gratitude and respect.

Remember, people appreciate being appreciated. And someone who feels appreciation is also more likely to cooperate.

So there’s some truth behind the expression “Good manners will get you everywhere!”

4) “I’m always here if you need anything.”

This phrase is particularly nice to hear if you’re going through a rough period in your life.

It displays emotional support and practical assistance in a non-judgmental way.

Trust me, I know.

When I was younger, I remember losing my first job (unfortunately, the company I was working for was making cutbacks).

Not only was I feeling down but also stressed and uncertain about the future. Maybe alone and scared too.

I’m so lucky that I have a great relationship with my parents. After speaking with my mom and hearing this phrase, it made me feel a whole lot better.

It made me realize they had my back and I could always lean on them if needed.

5) “You got this.”

This is another supportive phrase often used by naturally kind individuals.

Because let’s face it, sometimes we all need a little encouragement across the line.

It’s a good solution for self-doubt, fear, and uncertainty. Plus it shows empathy and a willingness to (selflessly) help others overcome their challenges.

So, next time you have a friend who’s struggling, be their hype man!

6) “Let me get this.”

Actions speak louder than words.

Covering the bill and offering to pay for someone really puts your money where your mouth is.

It’s a great way to express appreciation and show that you’re genuinely grateful.

Not to mention, it’s one of the best ways to build relationships.

Think about it.

Your generosity reinforces trust, shows that you value the shared experience, and fosters a sense of connection.

For this reason, it’s fairly common for groups of close friends to actually fight over paying the bill.

7) “How does that make you feel?”

Open-ended questions like “How do you feel about that?” or “Tell me more about that experience.” demonstrate respect and a willingness to listen.

This can be an incredibly powerful (and kind) gesture.

Because simply being there for someone (especially in times of need) is one of the kindest things you can do.

You’re effectively giving up your own time to focus on someone else.

That’s not all.

Practicing altruism comes with a ton of other benefits.

From increased happiness, reduced stress, and improved mental health to strengthened social bonds, personal growth, and even improved physical health.

It’s a win-win!

8) “Don’t worry about it.”

We all make mistakes.

How boring would the world be if everyone was perfect?

The important thing is how we deal with mistakes and treat people afterward.

One word here: forgiveness.

It’s the epitome of kindness.

Not to mention, forgiving allows you to move on with your own life and focus on living in the moment without anger or hostility toward others.

9) “Great work, well done.”

Whether in a professional environment or on a more personal level, offering praise and congratulations is a great way to acknowledge or validate someone’s achievements (and is often done by naturally kind people).

Many of us internally appreciate the hard work of others, but few of us actually make the effort to verbalize our thoughts out loud.

Then there are the jealous-types.

These guys actually become envious of other people’s success and may even downplay their achievements.

Steer well clear of these Debbie Downers!

10) “You have a great sense of humor.”

Finally, this is one of the kindest phrases someone can use.

Because a compliment that focuses on someone’s innate personality is extremely personal (and touching).

Of course, you have to mean it! (And naturally kind people do.)

They’ll often say this after a particularly funny moment is shared (which really amplifies its meaning). Perhaps after a bout of the giggles.

At the end of the day, we all want to be liked by our peers. And we all know humor is a great way to achieve this.

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Leila El-Dean

Leila is a passionate writer with a background in photography and art. She has over ten years of experience in branding, marketing, and building websites. She loves travelling and has lived in several countries, including Thailand, Malaysia, Spain, and Malta. When she’s not writing (or ogling cats), Leila loves trying new food and drinking copious amounts of Earl Grey tea.

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