If someone uses these 9 phrases, they have a strong sense of entitlement

There’s a thin line between confidence and entitlement.

When someone has a strong sense of entitlement, they truly believe they deserve certain privileges over others. And often, this attitude seeps into their language.

As someone who pays close attention to words, I’ve noticed this pattern. The phrases people use can reveal a great deal about their mindset and attitudes.

In this article, we’ll explore 9 phrases that, when used frequently, suggest a person might have a strong sense of entitlement. These aren’t just random phrases, they’re specific to those with an inflated sense of self-worth.

Let’s dive in. 

1) “I deserve…”

One of the most revealing indicators of a strong sense of entitlement is the frequent use of the phrase “I deserve”.

Entitled people genuinely believe they deserve more than others, simply because they are who they are. This mindset isn’t tied to their accomplishments or efforts, but rather their self-perceived value.

When you hear someone frequently saying “I deserve this” or “I deserve that”, it’s a significant sign that they have an inflated sense of entitlement. These individuals firmly believe that the world owes them something.

But remember, we all have moments when we feel we’re deserving of something. It becomes a problem when this notion dominates a person’s conversation and behavior.

This phrase is a clear marker of an entitled attitude, used without consideration for others’ efforts or feelings. So, be aware and observant.

2) “You should have known…”

Another phrase that often signals entitlement is “You should have known”.

An entitled person tends to expect others to anticipate their needs or wants, even without being explicitly told. This often leads to unreasonable expectations and unnecessary disappointments.

Take this personal example. I once had a friend who’d frequently say things like, “You should have known I wanted to go to that concert,” even though they never mentioned it before. Or, “You should have known I was upset,” despite not expressing any signs of discomfort or displeasure.

These statements made me feel constantly on edge, trying to anticipate and meet their unspoken needs and desires. It was exhausting and, frankly, unfair.

When you hear someone frequently saying, “you should have known,” take it as a red flag for entitlement. It’s not your responsibility to read minds or predict someone’s every whim.

3) “That’s not my job…”

The phrase “That’s not my job” is another common saying among those with a strong sense of entitlement.

Entitled individuals often refuse to step outside their comfort zones or defined roles, even in situations where it’s necessary or beneficial. They see certain tasks as beneath them, or not worth their time.

In a study conducted by the University of New Hampshire, employees who frequently used phrases like “That’s not my job” were perceived as less cooperative and less committed to their teams. This behavior not only diminishes team morale but also hinders productivity and growth in a professional setting.

When you hear “That’s not my job” being used regularly, it might be indicative of an entitled mindset.

4) “I need it now…”

Impatience is a common trait among those with a strong sense of entitlement, often communicated through phrases like “I need it now”.

Entitled people often demand immediate gratification. They want their needs met instantly, disregarding the fact that others also have priorities and responsibilities.

This disregard for others’ time and effort can be incredibly frustrating and challenging to deal with. It can create unnecessary pressure and stress, particularly in a team or group setting.

5) “Do you know who I am?”

“Do you know who I am?” is a phrase that reeks of entitlement.

When people use this phrase, it’s usually to assert their perceived superiority or importance over others. They believe their status or identity should grant them special treatment or exemptions.

This phrase is a clear sign of an inflated sense of self-worth and entitlement. It disregards the principle of equality and respect for all, regardless of who they are or what their status might be.

Whenever you hear someone say, “Do you know who I am?”, it’s a pretty clear sign that they have a strong sense of entitlement.

6) “This is beneath me…”

The phrase “This is beneath me” holds a special place in the gallery of entitlement.

Individuals who often use this phrase see themselves as superior, believing certain tasks or situations are unworthy of their time or effort. This attitude can be quite hurtful, as it devalues others and their contributions.

I remember a time when a colleague refused to perform a task they thought was ‘beneath them.’ Their words not only affected the team’s morale but also created a divide.

It was a stark reminder of how language can deeply impact our relationships and environments.

7) “I always get what I want…”

The phrase “I always get what I want” is a clear sign of entitlement.

Those who say this believe they have a right to whatever they desire, often without considering the feelings or needs of others. Their focus is solely on their wants, and they rarely take ‘no’ for an answer.

To be honest, I’ve been on the receiving end of this attitude. It was a relationship where my needs seemed secondary to theirs, and their wants were always prioritized. I felt unheard and unimportant. It was a tough lesson, but it taught me the importance of mutual respect and consideration in any relationship.

When you hear “I always get what I want,” be cautious. It often indicates a strong sense of entitlement.

8) “I don’t care what others think…”

The phrase “I don’t care what others think” can sometimes signal entitlement.

While it’s healthy to not be overly concerned about others’ opinions, those with a strong sense of entitlement often use this phrase to dismiss any criticism or feedback. They’re not interested in self-improvement or understanding others’ perspectives, only in maintaining their own self-image and beliefs.

This lack of empathy or consideration for others’ feelings or viewpoints can create a one-sided relationship, be it personal or professional.

When you hear someone frequently saying, “I don’t care what others think,” it could be a sign of an entitled mindset.

9) “Rules don’t apply to me…”

Possibly one of the most telling phrases is “Rules don’t apply to me.”

People with strong entitlement believe they are exempt from the rules that govern everyone else. They see themselves as special or unique, deserving of exceptions.

This attitude can be harmful, leading to a disregard for social norms, laws, or even the feelings and rights of others. It’s a clear red flag and a blatant display of entitlement.

When you hear “Rules don’t apply to me,” know that you’re dealing with someone who has a strong sense of entitlement.

Final thoughts: It’s about empathy

The core of entitlement lies in the lack of empathy towards others. This attitude, reflected in the phrases we’ve discussed, often stems from an inflated sense of self-importance.

Renowned psychologist and author, Dr. John Gottman, suggests that empathy is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. It allows us to understand and share the feelings of others, creating a bridge of connection.

When someone frequently uses phrases that indicate entitlement, it’s a sign that this bridge might be broken or non-existent. They’re focused on their own needs, wants, and feelings, often at the expense of others.

The key takeaway here isn’t to judge or avoid those showing signs of entitlement, but to understand the underlying lack of empathy and its impact on our interactions.

As we navigate our relationships and encounters, let’s strive to foster empathy, not just in ourselves but also in those around us. After all, it’s empathy that binds us together as a community and makes us truly human.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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