If someone uses these 10 phrases, they’re probably lying to you

Have you ever talked to someone and had a feeling they weren’t telling the truth? That’s a feeling many of us have had. And you know what? You might be right.

Lying isn’t easy, but some people are good at it. Even then, there are signs that someone might be lying.

They might act differently, or they can’t look you in the eye. But one big clue? The words they say.

Yes – the phrases people use can sometimes show us if they’re not being honest.

So, if you’re unsure if someone is telling the truth, we can help.

Here are 10 phrases that could mean someone is trying to fool you. 

1. Trust me

Ever heard this one? It’s a classic.

When someone says “trust me” a lot, it can sometimes feel like they’re trying too hard to convince you of something.

Successful liars know that trust is earned, not given away freely just because someone says so.

So, if someone uses this phrase a little too often, it might be a sign that they’re not being completely honest with you.

Remember, trust your gut feeling. If something feels off, it probably is! 

2. “To be honest with you…”

If someone feels the need to assure you they’re being honest, it might be because they’re not usually truthful.

People who often tell the truth don’t have to remind others that they’re being honest.

So, if you hear “to be honest with you…” a lot, it could be a sign that person is trying to cover up a lie.

Keep those ears open for these phrases – they could be your secret weapon in spotting a fibber! 

3. “I swear…”

Now, people do use this phrase when they’re being sincere, but it can also be a red flag. It’s like they’re trying to add extra weight to their words because their normal speech isn’t enough.

I recall a time when a friend of mine had borrowed my favorite sweater and denied it. She kept saying, “I swear, I didn’t take it.”

But guess what I found in her car the next day? Yep, my beloved sweater. That ‘I swear’ was a pretty clear sign that she wasn’t telling the truth.

If someone around you is swearing up and down about something, take a moment to consider if there might be more to the story.

4. “I would never lie to you.”

Now this phrase is an interesting one, “I would never lie to you.” It’s a pretty strong statement, right?

And it’s designed to make you feel secure and trust the person saying it. But here’s the twist: it can also be a sign of someone trying to deceive you.

According to a study, 60% of adults can’t have a ten-minute conversation without lying at least once.

That’s a lot of potential for “I would never lie to you” being thrown around falsely!

If somebody drops this line on you, take a pause. It may not always mean they’re lying, but it’s worth considering. 

5. “I don’t want to talk about it.”

This one might feel a bit more sensitive: “I don’t want to talk about it.”

Now, we all have moments when we genuinely don’t want to discuss something. It’s normal.

But sometimes, this phrase can be an attempt to avoid lying rather than face the truth.

Imagine someone you care about is going through a hard time.

You ask them if they’re okay, and they respond with, “I don’t want to talk about it.”

It could be that they’re not ready to share their feelings yet, but it could also mean that they’re hiding something from you.

It’s all about context and your relationship with the person. If your gut feeling tells you something’s not right, it’s okay to gently probe a little further. But always respect their boundaries.

6. “Why would I ever lie about that?”

It’s a question that seems to challenge the very idea of lying, but sometimes, it could be a smokescreen for the truth.

I remember when my brother and I were kids, and we were strictly forbidden from eating cookies before dinner.

One day, I found an empty cookie jar and asked him if he’d taken the last cookie. His response? “Why would I ever lie about that?” Well, as it turned out, he had indeed eaten that last cookie.

If someone pulls out this phrase, they might be trying to deflect suspicion. Stay sharp and keep an eye out for the truth. We’ve still got more phrases to cover, so don’t go away!

7. “I have no reason to lie.”

When someone says “I have no reason to lie”, it can be a bit jarring. It seems like a solid reassurance, right? But here’s the truth: sometimes, it’s a smokescreen.

People lie for all sorts of reasons – to avoid conflict, to protect someone’s feelings, or even to make themselves look better.

So when someone feels the need to state outright that they ‘have no reason to lie’, it can actually raise more questions than it answers.

Life has taught us that honesty is always the best policy. But not everyone plays by the same rules. 

If someone is quick to assure you they have no reason to lie, take a moment and think: Is this truth or deception?

8. “You won’t believe this, but…”

Now this phrase is a real gem: “You won’t believe this, but…” It’s like a preface to a wild tale or an unbelievable fact.

But here’s an interesting thing: it can also be a sign that someone might be spinning you a yarn.

People tend to lie when they’re under pressure or when they want to benefit in some way.

So if someone starts their sentence with “You won’t believe this, but…”, they might be preparing you for a tall tale that serves their purpose.

Keep your ears perked and your wits about you. If that phrase pops up, there could be more to the story than meets the eye. We’re almost at the end of our list, so keep reading!

9. “I can’t remember exactly, but…”

This phrase takes me back: “I can’t remember exactly, but…” It’s a phrase that gives someone wiggle room, a little space for uncertainty. And sometimes, it’s used when someone is trying to avoid giving a straight answer.

I had a friend who had a knack for bending the truth. Whenever I asked him about details of his stories that didn’t quite add up, he would often respond with “I can’t remember exactly, but…” It was his go-to line when he was trying to cover up his fibs.

So, if you hear this phrase often, it could mean that the person isn’t being completely honest with you.

But remember, everyone forgets things sometimes—it’s all about the context and your intuition.

10. “It’s complicated.”

Our final red flag is a phrase we’ve all heard: “It’s complicated.” It’s the ultimate conversation stopper, a way for people to avoid answering questions without actually lying.

But sometimes, it’s a cop-out.

Life is complicated, and we all face complex situations. But when “it’s complicated” becomes a mantra for avoiding honesty, it can be a sign of deception.

So if you’re having a conversation and this phrase pops up over and over again, you might want to dig a little deeper.

Remember, honesty is at the core of any healthy relationship. But we live in an imperfect world where lies exist. Knowing these 10 phrases could help you navigate those tricky conversations with a bit more confidence.

Trust your gut, ask questions, and remember: it’s okay to seek the truth.

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