If someone is truly in love with you, they’ll always display these 7 behaviors

You’ve been dating for a while. 

The infatuation you felt in the first few months of your relationship has slowly dissipated, and now that you’ve settled into a comfortable rhythm, you’re wondering whether your partner’s still in love with you.

Is it normal that they’re no longer as obsessed with you? Do they still have feelings for you, or are they with you because it’s what’s familiar? 

Don’t worry. I’ve asked myself the same questions in the past, which is why I know just how confusing and stressful the whole ordeal is. 

Luckily, I’ve got a list of signs for you that show your partner is, in fact, still in love.

Here goes…

If someone is truly in love with you, they will always display these 7 behaviors.

1) They will express affection through their love language

All relationships fall into a rut sometimes.

That’s just the rule of life – it ebbs and flows, work gets busy, friends or family members need help, and before you know it, you haven’t gone on a date in three weeks.

However, there is a difference between getting busy for a bit and letting the well-being of the relationship crumble to pieces.

If it’s the first – if your partner truly loves you – they will always continue to express their affection, even if it’s in the smallest of ways.

This is why it’s crucial to know what their love language is. 

It may not be the same as yours, mind you, and while an amazing partner should put in the effort to learn and speak your love language, it is *their* love language that matters most when it comes to figuring out their feelings.

Let’s say your significant other loves physical touch.

When you got together, they were all over you – your feet touched when you were co-working on the sofa, they kissed you on the cheek in the kitchen, or they cuddled you every half an hour for an extra boost of love.

Well, if they are truly in love, they will continue to do so throughout the relationship, not because they feel they have to but because it’s their love language, which means they’ll do it automatically.

The same goes for words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, and quality time.

2) They will show you appreciation

Appreciation is the foundation upon which love can thrive.

It seems like a very small and inconsequential thing to tell your partner a simple “Thank you” or “I really appreciate you”, but the truth is that this simple gesture of gratitude can completely transform your partner’s day and contribute to the well-being of the relationship as a whole.

If they see that their actions truly make a difference in your life, if they feel they are valued and cherished…

They will feel more motivated to keep making you happy. It’s a positive feedback loop full of love, kindness, and happiness.

If you’re trying to figure out whether your partner is still invested in the relationship, ask yourself:

  • Do they tell you how much you mean to them?
  • Do they thank you for making them a meal, buying them a small gift, or giving them valuable counsel?
  • Do you generally feel appreciated and valued?

3) They will genuinely enjoy spending time with you

Listen up, because this is a big one.

I’ve seen way too many people (me included) get into relationships based on plenty of sexual chemistry and very little friendship.

After a few months of dating, people who find themselves in these situations eventually realize there is not much they can do with one another – they’ve already run out of stuff to talk about – and so they spend most of their time watching TV and cuddling in bed.

The issue is that watching TV all the time gets boring. After a while, you might even realize that you’d rather go out with your friends than your partner because it’d be more fun.

If people are genuinely in love and if their love is based on friendship, this doesn’t happen.

Sure, they might get bored sometimes. Sure, they might keep quiet during dinner from time to time because they’ve run out of their social battery or don’t feel like talking.

But overall, they enjoy spending time with one another. Planning dates isn’t a chore – it’s something they genuinely want to do and look forward to.

Does that sound like your relationship?

Congratulations! Your partner might be really in love with you.

4) They will take your concerns seriously

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Okay, moving on to another sign your significant other is crazy for you – they will always show you respect. Always.

Especially when you bring up a concern of yours and want to talk about it. There will be no “You’re overreacting”, no “It’s no big deal”, no “I don’t have time for this”.

Someone who loves you and cares about you will make the time to hear you out, try to get a better understanding of how you feel, and offer the reassurance you need.

Because they genuinely want to see you happy.

5) They will keep their word

On a similar note, making sure our partners are happy requires us to get our stuff together. In other words, we ought to be reliable and responsible adults our loved ones can count on.

If your partner says they will pick you up at 3 PM, knowing fully well how much punctuality matters to you, they won’t arrive half an hour later.

If they promise you they will pay more attention when you’re telling them about their day, they will actually put in the effort to change their behavior. And they will make sure you don’t have to bring up the same issue two weeks later.

If they make plans with you, they won’t cancel at the last minute.

You know the gist.

Reliability tends to be a good way to gauge someone’s interest and emotional investment in the relationship. If they genuinely care, they will try their best not to let you down because they respect your time, energy, and well-being.

6) They will plan their future with you

When you’re in love, the object of your affection becomes your Sun.

Whatever you do, wherever you go, this person is a point of reference toward which you can turn. They are always at the back of your head.

And you can’t help but imagine your future with them. What will it look like? How much more happiness can you create together?

Holiday plans, discussions about family and children, figuring out where you’d like to live – those are conversations that people in love tend to have at some point or another.

So, here are a couple of questions for you:

  • Is your partner openly planning their future with you?
  • Do they show initiative when it comes to making future plans?
  • Do they speak in “we” terms instead of “I”?

7) They will cheer you on and root for you

Do you know what the difference between being in love and feeling infatuated is?

When you’re in love, you genuinely want to see your partner succeed. It’s not just that you want to be around them or enjoy having some romance in your life. It’s that you love them for who they are, in all their independence.

If your partner chose to leave you, would you still love them and root for them? Even if you were no longer in the picture?

If your answer is yes, that is true love.  

Now flip the narrative.

Ask yourself whether your partner cheers you on when you work on your goals, whether they root for you when you strive to achieve something, and whether they respect your independence when you choose to go after your dreams.

If someone is truly in love with you, they will always be your number one fan. Simple as.

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Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase, a New York City native, writes about the complexities of modern life and relationships. Her articles draw from her experiences navigating the vibrant and diverse social landscape of the city. Isabella’s insights are about finding harmony in the chaos and building strong, authentic connections in a fast-paced world.

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