If someone displays these 9 traits, they’re a really lovely person

Being a truly lovely person is more than just being kind. It’s about the way you treat others, your attitudes, and the actions you take.

These qualities aren’t always obvious. They may not stand out in a crowd, but they become clear when you interact with someone who possesses them.

I’ve found that there are certain traits that all lovely people seem to share. Traits that make them radiate warmth, kindness, and generosity.

In this article, we’re going to delve into those traits and look for signs that someone is not just good, but genuinely lovely.

Let’s get started. 

1) Empathy

Lovely people have a knack for understanding others. They are able to step into another person’s shoes and see things from their perspective. This is empathy.

Empathy is more than just sympathy. It’s feeling with someone, not just for them. It’s being able to comprehend their emotions and respond accordingly.

This trait is what allows lovely people to forge deep connections with others. They aren’t just listening to your words, they’re feeling your feelings too.

Empathy allows them to provide comfort or encouragement in a way that is sincere and genuine.

You don’t have to have experienced the same situation to empathize with someone. It’s about understanding and acknowledging their feelings.

When someone shows empathy, it’s a clear sign they’re a lovely person.

2) Positivity

I’ve noticed that lovely people bring a certain lightness to any situation. They carry an aura of positivity that can be infectious. But it’s not just about being perpetually cheerful, it’s about maintaining a hopeful perspective even when things get tough.

Take my friend, Laura, for instance. I remember when she moved to a new city for a job. The transition was hard, she didn’t know anyone there and things at work were challenging.

But instead of complaining or feeling sorry for herself, she chose to see it as an adventure. She would often say, “Every day is a new opportunity to learn and grow.”

That kind of positivity didn’t just help her navigate through her challenges, it also inspired those around her, myself included.

It’s one of the reasons why I consider Laura to be such a lovely person.

So, if you come across someone who tends to see the glass as half-full rather than half-empty, there’s a good chance they’re a really lovely person.

3) Gratitude

Gratitude is an essential trait of a lovely person. They acknowledge the good things in their life, no matter how small, and express their thanks often.

This isn’t just about saying thank you for a gift or a favor. It’s about cultivating an attitude of appreciation towards life and the people in it.

Research shows that practicing gratitude can actually rewire our brains to be happier. It boosts our mood, reduces stress, and strengthens our relationships.

So when someone frequently expresses their gratitude, it not only makes them more pleasant to be around, but it also indicates that they’re a truly lovely person.

4) Forgiveness

Lovely people understand the power of forgiveness. They know that holding onto anger and resentment only causes them more pain.

That doesn’t mean they let people walk all over them. They know their boundaries and when to stand up for themselves. But they also know when to let go and move on.

Forgiveness is a choice, a decision to stop harboring negative feelings towards someone who has wronged you. It’s about acknowledging the hurt, learning from it, and then choosing to release it.

When you meet someone who forgives easily and holds no grudges, you’re likely in the presence of a truly lovely person.

5) Authenticity

In a world where it’s so easy to conform, lovely people dare to be themselves. They are authentic and genuine in their interactions.

They aren’t trying to impress or pretend to be someone they’re not. They’re comfortable in their own skin and embrace their individuality.

Authenticity is about aligning your actions with your beliefs and values. It’s about being honest, not just with others, but with yourself as well.

When you encounter someone who is unapologetically themselves, there’s a good chance that they’re a really lovely person.

6) Compassion

Compassion is the heart of a lovely person. It’s a trait that allows them to feel deeply for others, and not just people they know, but also strangers, and sometimes, even those who have wronged them.

Compassion moves beyond empathy. It’s not just understanding someone’s pain, but also wanting to alleviate it. Compassionate people don’t just listen – they act.

They’re the ones who hold out a hand to someone in need, offer a comforting word to a distressed friend, or donate their time and resources to help those less fortunate.

In a world that can sometimes seem cold and indifferent, the warmth of a compassionate person is a beacon of light. When you meet someone filled with compassion, you know you’ve met a truly lovely person.

7) Patience

Patience, in my experience, is a trait that often comes with wisdom. It’s the ability to endure difficult situations, or deal with challenging people, without losing your cool.

I remember when I was learning to drive. I was nervous and made many mistakes. But my instructor never lost his patience with me. He would calmly explain what I did wrong and how to correct it. His patience helped me build my confidence and ultimately become a better driver.

Lovely people understand that not everything in life goes according to plan. They accept that there are things beyond their control. And instead of getting frustrated, they remain calm and patient.

When you meet someone who can keep their cool even in the most trying situations, you’ve likely met a really lovely person.

8) Respectful

Lovely people show respect. They value others’ opinions, listen attentively when someone is speaking, and treat everyone with kindness and fairness, regardless of their status or background.

Respect is about acknowledging the worth and dignity of a person. It’s about treating them as you would like to be treated.

This goes beyond just being polite. It’s about recognizing the inherent value in every person you encounter.

When you meet someone who treats everyone with respect, from the janitor to the CEO, there’s a good chance that they’re a really lovely person.

9) Kindness

At the core of every truly lovely person is kindness. It’s a trait that influences all their actions and interactions.

Kindness is more than just being nice. It’s about showing consideration for others, being generous with your time and resources, and doing small acts of kindness without expecting anything in return.

It’s the person who helps an elderly stranger carry groceries, the one who sends a supportive message to a friend having a rough day, the one who picks up litter on the street just because they care about their community.

Kindness may seem simple, but it has a profound impact. It can turn someone’s day around, bring a smile to a face, or even change a life.

If someone consistently shows kindness to others, they’re not just good or nice, they’re truly lovely.

Final Thought: The Heart of Loveliness

As we delve into the human psyche and the traits that make someone truly lovely, it’s important to remember that these traits aren’t set in stone. They are both innate and cultivated.

Research suggests that our capacity for traits like empathy, kindness, and gratitude is hardwired into our brains from birth. However, our environment and experiences also significantly shape these qualities.

The most beautiful thing about loveliness is that it isn’t a static state. It’s a journey, a continuous process of growth and development. Every day presents opportunities to practice these traits and become a little more lovely.

So as we go about our lives, let’s strive to be more empathetic, positive, grateful, forgiving, authentic, compassionate, patient, respectful, and kind. Let’s strive to be truly lovely.

Loveliness isn’t just about how we treat others. It’s also about how we treat ourselves. Because at the end of the day, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

So be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the same patience, respect, and compassion you would offer to others. In doing so, you’re not only becoming a lovelier person but also creating a ripple effect of loveliness in the world around you.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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