If someone displays these 9 behaviors, they secretly dislike you

Ever get the feeling that someone doesn’t like you, even though they’re acting nice? It’s a weird feeling, right?

It’s like your gut is trying to tell you something that your eyes can’t see.

Well, guess what? Your gut might be onto something!

People aren’t always good at showing how they really feel. Sometimes they hide it because they’re trying to be polite.

But there are little signs you can look for that give away their true feelings.

In this article, we’re going to reveal 9 behaviors that might mean someone secretly dislikes you.

So, if you’ve ever wondered if someone isn’t as friendly as they seem, keep reading. By the end of this article, you’ll be able to spot these signs like a pro!

1. They Avoid Eye Contact

Eye contact is a big part of communication.

When we like someone, we naturally tend to make more eye contact with them.

It’s a way of showing that we’re interested in what they’re saying and that we value their thoughts.

But if someone is avoiding your gaze, it might be a sign that they’re not really into you.

Now, we’re not saying they need to stare deeply into your eyes for hours on end – that would be creepy!

But if they can’t seem to hold your gaze for more than a second or two, or if their eyes are always darting around the room when you speak, it might mean they’re not really interested in what you have to say.

They could be trying to distance themselves from you, even if it’s just subconsciously.

Remember, though, everyone’s different and some people might just be shy or feel uncomfortable with eye contact.

So don’t jump to conclusions based on this one sign alone – but do keep it in mind as you read on through the rest of the list.

2. They Are Rarely the First to Initiate Conversation

If you find yourself always being the one to start a conversation, it could be a sign that the other person isn’t as keen on talking to you as you are to them.

Sure, some people might just be shy or introverted.

But if they never seem to initiate a chat, even about simple things like the weather or a TV show, it could be because they’re not that interested in conversing with you.

This is especially true if they are quick to start conversations with others but not with you.

It’s a subtle sign that they might not enjoy your company as much as they do others.

However, be careful not to jump to conclusions too quickly.

It’s always worth considering other factors like their personality type and comfort zones before making any judgments.

3. They Respond with Short, Unenthusiastic Replies

We’ve all been in conversations where we’re really excited about something and the other person just replies with an uninterested, “Oh, cool.” Talk about a conversation killer, right?

A while back, I was chatting with a coworker about my weekend plans. I was super excited about this new hiking trail I’d found and was gushing about the beautiful views and challenging climb.

But all she replied with was a disinterested “Uh-huh” without even looking up from her computer.

Over time, I noticed this wasn’t a one-time thing.

Whenever I tried to engage her in conversation, her responses were always short and lacked any real enthusiasm.

She didn’t ask any follow-up questions or show any genuine interest in what I was saying.

Eventually, I realized that while she was polite and professional, she just didn’t really enjoy our chats as much as I did.

And that’s okay! Not everyone will always click on a personal level, but understanding this helped me to better navigate our interactions at work.

Remember, if someone consistently responds to you with short, unenthusiastic replies, it might be a sign that they don’t particularly enjoy your conversations.

4. They Rarely Smile When They’re Around You

Smiling is one of the most universal signs of friendliness and liking. When we’re with people we like and enjoy, we tend to smile more.

But if someone rarely cracks a smile when they’re around you, it might be an indication that they’re not really feeling the vibe.

There are different types of smiles, and not all of them reflect genuine happiness. There’s a real, genuine smile known as a Duchenne smile, named after French neurologist Guillaume Duchenne.

This smile involves not only the mouth but also the eyes – you’ll see the corners of the eyes crinkle up (“crow’s feet”). It’s a sign of genuine happiness and enjoyment.

On the other hand, a fake or polite smile usually only involves the mouth.

If someone is often giving you these polite smiles rather than genuine Duchenne smiles, it could be a sign that they’re just trying to be nice rather than actually enjoying your company.

So next time you’re with this person, pay attention to their smiles – it might just reveal how they truly feel about you!

5. They Don’t Share Personal Stories or Details

Sharing personal stories and details is a way of building trust and deepening relationships.

It shows that we feel comfortable with the person and trust them enough to open up about our lives.

But if someone keeps their conversations with you strictly on the surface level, it might be a sign that they’re keeping their emotional distance.

Think about it this way: when we truly like someone, we naturally want to share more of our lives with them.

We tell them about our childhood memories, our favorite books, our hopes and dreams – all the little things that make us who we are.

But when we don’t feel that connection, we tend to hold back and keep things superficial.

It can be heart-wrenching to realize that someone you care about doesn’t feel the same way.

But remember, everyone has their own reasons for holding back, and it’s not necessarily a reflection on you as a person.

It’s important to respect their boundaries just as you would want yours respected.

And who knows? With time and patience, they might eventually open up more.

6. They Frequently Interrupt You

Being interrupted constantly is not only annoying but can also be a sign that the other person doesn’t really respect your input.

If they’re often cutting you off mid-sentence or speaking over you, it might indicate that they don’t value your opinions or thoughts as much as they should.

Here’s a little story from my own life. I used to have a friend who would always interrupt me when I was speaking.

At first, I brushed it off, thinking he was just overly excited or eager to share his thoughts. But over time, I began to notice that this behavior was exclusive to our conversations.

One day, I decided to address the issue. I gently pointed out that he often interrupted me and explained how it made me feel dismissed and unimportant.

To my surprise, he wasn’t even aware of his habit and promised to work on it.

From this experience, I learned two things: firstly, some people might interrupt you without realizing it, and secondly, effective communication is key in any relationship.

If someone’s behavior is bothering you, it’s always worth having an open and honest conversation about it.

7. They Keep You at Arm’s Length

When someone likes you, they want to involve you in their life.

They invite you to hangouts, introduce you to their friends, and include you in their plans.

But if someone is always keeping you at a distance, it’s probably not because they’re just “private” or “independent.” It could be a sign that they don’t really want you in their inner circle.

If they’re always busy when you want to hang out, if they avoid introducing you to their friends, or if they seem reluctant to involve you in their plans, it might be time to face the hard truth – they might not like you as much as you thought.

And honestly? That stings.

It’s tough to realize that someone doesn’t value your relationship as much as you do.

But there’s no point in wasting your time and energy on people who don’t appreciate your worth.

Remember, everyone loses when they underestimate your value – most of all them.

8. They Mimic Your Negative Body Language

Body language is a powerful communicator of our true feelings, often revealing more than our words do.

Interestingly, people tend to unconsciously mimic the body language of those they feel a connection with.

But here’s the catch – this doesn’t just apply to positive body language, but negative as well.

If someone secretly dislikes you, they might subconsciously mirror your negative body language.

For instance, if you cross your arms or legs, they might do the same. If you lean away from them, they might also lean away from you.

This mirroring happens because they’re subconsciously trying to protect themselves from someone they view as unfavorable.

This phenomenon is known in psychology as “the chameleon effect.”

It refers to our natural tendency to mimic the postures, mannerisms, facial expressions, and other behaviors of people we’re interacting with.

But it’s not definitive proof of someone’s feelings towards you. It’s just one piece of the puzzle that can help you gauge how someone really feels about you.

9. They Don’t Remember Details About You

When someone likes you, they remember the little things.

The name of your childhood pet, your favorite band, that story you told them about your trip to Greece – these details matter to them because you matter to them.

Now let me share something personal. I have a friend who has an incredible memory when it comes to details about people she cares about.

She could recall the smallest things – like my favorite flavor of ice cream or the name of the book I was reading months ago.

It always warmed my heart knowing that she cared enough to remember these little things about me.

On the other hand, I’ve also interacted with people who couldn’t seem to remember even significant details about me, like my job or how many siblings I have, despite me mentioning them multiple times.

It was pretty clear that they weren’t interested in getting to know me on a deeper level.

It’s a small thing, but it can speak volumes about how someone feels about you.

It’s tough facing the reality that someone might not like you, especially when you’ve done nothing to warrant their dislike.

But always remember, you can’t please everyone. What’s important is that you stay true to yourself and cherish those who appreciate you for who you are.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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