If someone displays these 11 behaviors, they’re really difficult to be around

Ever had one of those moments where you just want to hit the ‘exit’ button while hanging out with someone?

You probably encountered a person who’s exhibiting one of the behaviors we’re about to dive into.

Believe it or not, spotting these behaviors can help save you from some awkward moments and maybe even some headaches.

So let’s talk about the 10 behaviors that make someone really hard to be around.

1. They’re Always Negative

Ever been around someone who seems like they’re always under a dark cloud? No matter what happens, they always find something to complain about. It could be the weather, their lunch, their job, or even the movie they just watched.

Being around a constant stream of negativity can be draining. It’s like they suck all the happiness out of the room! High achievers tend to stay clear of such people because they understand that this negativity can easily spill into their own lives.

Don’t get me wrong, everyone has bad days and it’s okay to vent sometimes. But if someone is always negative, it might be a sign that they’re tough to be around.

2. They’re Overly Critical

Have you ever been around someone who seems to have a comment about everything…and not in a good way? They’re always ready to point out flaws, criticize, or belittle things often without offering any constructive feedback.

This behavior can make people feel unappreciated and can create a hostile environment. It’s like walking on eggshells around them because you never know what might set off the next round of criticism.

Remember, there’s a big difference between offering constructive criticism that can help us improve and constantly picking on others for no reason. 

3. They Don’t Respect Boundaries

Boundaries, both physical and emotional, are crucial for healthy relationships. But some people find it hard to understand this concept.

I had a friend who would constantly call and text me at odd hours, not considering if I might be busy or sleeping. He would also share personal information about me with others without my consent. It felt like he had no respect for my privacy or personal space.

This kind of behavior can be really suffocating and is a clear sign that someone might be challenging to be around. If they’re not respecting your boundaries even after you’ve communicated them clearly, it’s probably time to rethink that relationship.

4. They’re Always Right

Ever been in a conversation with someone who simply won’t admit they could be wrong? They always have to have the last word and won’t rest until they’ve convinced you that their perspective is the only correct one.

This behavior is often rooted in a deep-seated fear of being seen as incompetent or inferior. It’s a defensive mechanism that goes into overdrive.

However, constant need to be right can make conversations frustrating and one-sided.

It stifles healthy debates and makes it nearly impossible to reach a consensus. If you notice this trait in someone, chances are they might be difficult to handle.

5. They Lack Empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It’s what allows us to connect on a deeper level. But some people seem to lack this crucial trait.

Imagine a friend who doesn’t comfort you when you’re going through a hard time or a coworker who doesn’t appreciate the effort you put into your work. Instead, they’re dismissive or even belittle your feelings.

It’s heartbreaking, isn’t it? To be around someone who seems incapable of understanding or sharing your emotions can feel incredibly isolating.

This lack of empathy is a clear sign that someone could be difficult to be around.

6. They Don’t Listen

We’ve all been in a conversation where it feels like we’re talking to a brick wall. I remember a time when I was trying to explain a problem I was having to an acquaintance. I could tell from his constant interruptions and distracted glances that he wasn’t really listening.

It was frustrating. It felt like my words were falling on deaf ears. And that’s just it – when someone doesn’t listen to you, it feels like they don’t value your thoughts or opinions.

Listening is a basic form of respect. If someone consistently fails to listen to you or others around them, it could be a sign that they’re difficult to be around.

7. They’re Self-Centered

Let’s face it, we’ve all met that one person who thinks the world revolves around them. Everything is always about them – their problems, their achievements, their life. They hardly show any interest in what you or others have to say unless it’s about them or directly benefits them.

And honestly, it sucks. It’s exhausting to be around someone who only cares about themselves. Conversations feel one-sided and you may begin to feel like you’re just an audience to their grand show.

This self-centeredness is a glaring sign that someone might be tough to hang out with.

We all deserve balanced relationships where our thoughts and feelings are valued just as much as the other person’s.

8. They’re Always the Victim

There are people who never take responsibility for their actions and always blame others for their mistakes. They’re always the victim, never the culprit.

Here’s an interesting fact: according to psychologists, this behavior is often associated with manipulative personalities.

By playing the victim, these individuals manipulate others into sympathizing with them and avoid taking responsibility for their actions.

This constant victim mentality can be exhausting to deal with. It prevents meaningful conversations about problems and how to solve them.

If you notice someone always playing the victim, that’s a good indication they might be difficult to be around.

9. They’re Dishonest

Honesty is the foundation of any healthy relationship, whether it’s a friendship, work relationship, or romantic partnership. But some people seem to have a hard time sticking to the truth.

I remember a colleague who would often twist the truth or leave out important details to make things go in his favor. It was frustrating and disappointing to see him being dishonest, especially when it affected others negatively.

This dishonesty erodes trust and makes it very hard to rely on them. If you notice someone constantly being dishonest, even about small things, it’s a good sign they could be tough to be around.

10. They’re Inconsiderate

We all have those moments where we forget to consider others, but some people make it a habit. They’ll be late to meetings without an apology, they’ll interrupt you while you’re speaking, or they fail to consider how their actions might negatively affect others.

And honestly? It’s disrespectful. This lack of consideration can feel like a slap in the face, especially when it happens repeatedly.

If you’re dealing with someone who consistently shows no regard for others, it’s a clear indicator they might be tough to stick around.

11. They’re Always Trying to One-Up Everyone

We all know that one person who always has to be the best. Got a new car? They got a better one. Went on a vacation?

They’ve been to a more exotic location. This constant need to one-up everyone can get really annoying.

Truthfully, it’s a sign of insecurity and can make interactions feel more like competitions rather than meaningful exchanges.

If someone constantly tries to one-up you or others around them, it’s likely they’re difficult to be around.

Remember, these behaviors are signs of individuals who might be challenging to hang around with, but it doesn’t mean they can’t change or improve. Awareness is the first step towards improvement, after all.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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